I am very excited!!!

[FlamingoBlue]

I have finally decided to complete my transformaion. It took me 8 years of remembering things that made my life easier.

First thing is that I am giving up my office. I like to use my home to see clients. It's much more comfortable and relaxed from everyone. I am going to be very choosie and expensive so that I won't need too many clients.(4-5/year).

Life is gonna be quite different with far less conflict for me.I'm very excited!!!


blue

 

[lavender]

 

[Debbie]

Congratulations! I am glad that there will be less conflict/stress. Does that mean no more free legal advice given out at Lit?

 

[sch00lteacher]

Less stress is always a damned good thing. Congrats.

 

[Guest]

Blue,

Do you already have the feeling like a weight's been lifted from your shoulders? I can tell from the way you wrote your post that you're already feeling lighter than air about the decision you made.

Congratulations to you, Blue. This sounds like it will be most helpful in taking away the stress you feel. Something tells me, though, this won't be the last change for you...I have a feeling there are more to come. Maybe your completion has only just begun.

Happy Day, Blue!

 

[The Nitelight]

That's good, Blue.
A gigolo shouldn't have more than 4 or 5 clients a year.
Any more would cut into your law practice......

 

[MissTaken]

That is great news....enjoy!

 

[Cheyenne]

Only 4 or 5 clients a year for a divorce lawyer means major conflict clients with custody battles or large assets to fight over, doesn't it?

Doesn't sound more relaxing to me unless you're changing your area of practice, too.

 

[cymbidia]

Ahhhh... such a peaceful reduction of life's complexities sounds very alluring to me.

Congrats on pulling it off.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

I practice love law now, instead of....

Only 4 or 5 clients a year for a divorce lawyer means major conflict clients with custody battles or large assets to fight over, doesn't it?

Doesn't sound more relaxing to me unless you're changing your area of practice, too.

fear law. I now will think more closely about the level of conflict that I am willing to tolerate and charge accordingly. And all the clients are required to be in therapy and/or a support group.

After 33 years I have a rep as a renegade in my field. This is such a departure for me from my peers who practice fear law. They don't seem to care what happens to the people when the litigation and the anger settles in. For most of them it's about money, ego and self image. That's one of the reasons why I don't fit.

Thanks for caring. I care about me, too.

blue

 

[Ask For More]

Hope you enjoy yourself more now Blue. Maybe that means you can spend more time chewing the fat with us eh?

 

[Rubyfruit]

What a great idea, blue. I'm all for simplifying and enjoying life more.

Hey, think I could be your legal secretary from NV?

 

[seXieleXie]

I have finally decided to complete my transformaion. It took me 8 years of remembering things that made my life easier.

after reading this line i thought Blue was talking about having a sex change operation whoops

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: I practice love law now, instead of....

They don't seem to care what happens to the people when the litigation and the anger settles in. For most of them it's about money, ego and self image. That's one of the reasons why I don't fit.

But that's my point. I told you previously about the divorce happening to someone close to me. It is a nightmare! There wasn't anywhere near as bad a relationship when the divorce started 8 months ago as there is now, and they haven't even gotten to the trial yet- that is probably still 4 months away. They could be the stars of "War of the Roses" right now. I don't blame the lawyers, I think each side is trying to help their client. One of the clients is insane, THAT is who I blame for the mess. I blame him and the state they live in where the divorce laws are archaic at best.

Anyway, to make enough money to only have to take 4 or 5 clients a year, you're talking about a lot of hours on each case. The hours that lawyers spend on divorce cases are because there are conflicts, not because everyone is getting along. If they were getting along so well, the people wouldn't be getting divorced in the first place. And they wouldn't need the lawyers to argue for them.

It seems to me you could either be the "love" lawyer and handle high volume of cases where everything really is smooth- no conflicts over kids or assets- OR you can handle 4 or 5 major knock down drag out battles each year. I'm curious how you turn the later into the former and still bring home a boatload of bucks.

 

[Cath!]

Re: I practice love law now, instead of....

fear law.

Thanks for caring. I care about me, too.

blue

Huggs, blue....I know you will be much happier!

Cath

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Working from Home: Make work hours and stick to them. Don't invite clients into your 'home' area when you make coffee, that's your space. Shut the office door at the end of the day and switch off..... trust me

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Thank you all for youe encouragement...,

And, Cheyenne, I can do a few tough cases each year. if that's all I have to do, especially if I can do them my way.

blue

 

[teresafannin]

Best of luck to you. I hope 2002 is a great year for you.