I am sharing because.. well frankly I can.. :)

[SheDevilShay]

I don't have anyone to share anything with except on this site because my mom sex clubs spurn anything to do with this lifestyle.. My dom emailed me a list of simple rules for me to follow and It excited me and I had no one to share it with I really need to make some new friends to talk with about this lifestyle... its sort of like neeing mom friends when your a mom... you can talk to them about things that you can't with someone who doesn't understand or hasn't experienced it....

So.. here's the list he so graciously made up for me as a starting point.

Bedroom rules

No talking without being asked to speak. You can ask a question if phrased respectfully.

No doing anything without being asked or without you asking me.

Do as you are told, if you want to stop use the safeword in emergencies only.

If you are in pain or uncomfortable with the situation say yellow and state you're problem briefly. I will deal with it as I see fit.

Go to bed when I say so, If not otherwise stated you will come to bed at 9:00. If I forget to remind you I still expect you there at 9.

I will control all situatiions in the bedroom unless I specifically tell you differently.

love always,
Daddy

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I've never gotten the no talking thing personally. ~shrugs~

Otherwise... sounds pretty much routine to me.

 

[SheDevilShay]

I've never gotten the no talking thing personally. ~shrugs~

Otherwise... sounds pretty much routine to me.

I have a very very hot mouth and often times get disrespectful with out realizing it... so its a restraint issue I am sure thats part of this lesson...

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I have a very very hot mouth and often times get disrespectful with out realizing it... so its a restraint issue I am sure thats part of this lesson...

Not being able to speak won't teach you to speak with repect in my experience. Most people learn by doing, again that's been my experience. Just saying, but that is up to your Dom to decide what he wants.

 

[SheDevilShay]

Not being able to speak won't teach you to speak with repect in my experience. Most people learn by doing, again that's been my experience. Just saying, but that is up to your Dom to decide what he wants.

I think learning self restraint.. I.e. not talking when I feel the need to yell, or mouth off is the first step to learning self control.... If I get in trouble for speaking out of turn, it will make more aware of what I am doing... I will probably pay more attention to my mind sets when I get in trouble for speaking out of turn, and in a round about way, learn self restraint.. self control is a huge issue for me, so I think thats part of why he did this, is he knew how hard it would be for me to keep my mouth shut when I have something to say....haha

 

[Homburg]

With the explanation, it makes more sense, but I'm in that "I don't get that whole no speaking" camp too. I like conversation, and I like hearing what my loved ones are thinking. And I like it when they start conversations. As a self-control issue, I can see it, but, wow, it would bore me.

The important thing, however, is that these rules make you feel hot. They sound like they sing to you, and that is what matters. When I presented a list of rules to "v" she was equally happy.

I'm glad that you are happy with these rules!

As an aside, my condolonces on your family's loss. I meant to post that in the thread where you'd mentioned it, but I managed to lose the thread.

Aaand I just noticed that these are "Bedroom Rules". Bravo. They aren't conversation killers, just rules for the bedroom. I'm much cooler with these rules now. I was imagining a quiet house with precious little conversation and laughter, ugh. Now I see that he just wants your mouthy self quiet in the bedroom

 

[Softouch911]

I get the "no speaking thing" especially when in scene just fine -- it's another form of restraint. Sometimes I like a gag, too, especially when the play is going to get a bit more intense. It's like cuffs, ropes, etc. ... bondage itself is erotic, but so is "Don't move." The cuffs are a signal in this house that it's going to get a little heavier and she can fight as much as she wants. She likes that sometimes, and so do I.

I realize the other comments were directed at the idea of "talking" outside of scene, most likely, but thought this may be relevant.

Respectfully,
ST

 

[Etoile]

http://voluntarilymute.livejournal.com/

 

[Art H.]

I don't have anyone to share anything with except on this site because my mom sex clubs spurn anything to do with this lifestyle.. My dom emailed me a list of simple rules for me to follow and It excited me and I had no one to share it with I really need to make some new friends to talk with about this lifestyle... its sort of like neeing mom friends when your a mom... you can talk to them about things that you can't with someone who doesn't understand or hasn't experienced it....

So.. here's the list he so graciously made up for me as a starting point.

Bedroom rules

No talking without being asked to speak. You can ask a question if phrased respectfully.

No doing anything without being asked or without you asking me.

Do as you are told, if you want to stop use the safeword in emergencies only.

If you are in pain or uncomfortable with the situation say yellow and state you're problem briefly. I will deal with it as I see fit.

Go to bed when I say so, If not otherwise stated you will come to bed at 9:00. If I forget to remind you I still expect you there at 9.

I will control all situatiions in the bedroom unless I specifically tell you differently.

love always,
Daddy

Congrats, SheDevil May you get many more lists in the future

 

[SheDevilShay]

I hope so.. and yes to clarify these rules start at 9pm.. so its just for an hour a night once our little one has gone to bed.. I have a tedency to get "bossy" in the bedroom... so this is his way of making me stfu... haha

http://hiskirja.livejournal.com/ <-- this one's mine.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I don't have anyone to share anything with except on this site because my mom sex clubs spurn anything to do with this lifestyle.. My dom emailed me a list of simple rules for me to follow and It excited me and I had no one to share it with I really need to make some new friends to talk with about this lifestyle... its sort of like neeing mom friends when your a mom... you can talk to them about things that you can't with someone who doesn't understand or hasn't experienced it....

So.. here's the list he so graciously made up for me as a starting point.

Bedroom rules

No talking without being asked to speak. You can ask a question if phrased respectfully.

No doing anything without being asked or without you asking me.

Do as you are told, if you want to stop use the safeword in emergencies only.

If you are in pain or uncomfortable with the situation say yellow and state you're problem briefly. I will deal with it as I see fit.

Go to bed when I say so, If not otherwise stated you will come to bed at 9:00. If I forget to remind you I still expect you there at 9.

I will control all situatiions in the bedroom unless I specifically tell you differently.

love always,
Daddy

hehe, love the list he have sent you!

More list's will be needed IMO

 

[SheDevilShay]

hehe, love the list he have sent you!

More list's will be needed IMO

I totally agree.. I am a rule whore...

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I totally agree.. I am a rule whore...

me 2, i must be keep in line or i might bite my owner if he was too nice to me.

Guess i am not sub for "everyone". Not every Dom would be willing to bother with me, but i like to think it worth it to tame me and remind me the place where i belong.

I can be good, but i can be bitch as well. I deffo need a firm hand over me 24/7

 

[SheDevilShay]

me 2, i must be keep in line or i might bite my owner if he was too nice to me.

Guess i am not sub for "everyone". Not every Dom would be willing to bother with me, but i like to think it worth it to tame me and remind me the place where i belong.

I can be good, but i can be bitch as well. I deffo need a firm hand over me 24/7

EXACTLY... thats how I am...

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

EXACTLY... thats how I am...

oh i know you are and i do understand you very well