I am sex.

[Black_Bird]

How often do we assume that a man or woman is not a sexual being, when their flesh is crying out to be touched, kissed, carressed?

How oft do you look at a larger man and assume he has no desire for sex? Sex might very well drip from this man, from his tongue and tear up in his eyes, yet you pass the man by. He would ravish you and hold you on the edge of pleasure until it becomes pain to wait any longer. Did you not know this?

How often do you look at a woman of ethnicity and assume something concerning their sex life, their wants and needs? How often do you look at a virgin young lady and think her to be completely innocent of lust? How often do you look at a virgin man and see someone who is less of a man?

I am not saying I am not guilty of some of these things; I am. I think we all are... I think we all have been victims of it at one point or another as well.

I am a sexual being - I ooze it. My mind traces the edge of flesh I can not touch. Yet, at one time, I was ashamed... an ugly duckling with dirty little thoughts that ugly ducklings just shouldn't have. I was never popular and always the punchline to some cruel joke. In someways, I still am that ashamed and hurt little boy... but the black bird within me will not be denied.

I am sex.

 

[lavender]

 

[T.H. Oughts]

You are a cool dude Black Bird

 

[voyergirl]

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BB i think you have hit a nerve for everyone who has ever needed the touch of another human being. even beautiful people feel insecurities it takes special someone to bring out the inner beauty of us all. if we are lucky in life we find that person.

"My mind traces the edge of flesh I can not touch."

i loved this statement. but i feel that even though you may not feel that physical touch, the emotional feeling is like nothing else in this world. we as writers are so lucky to have the ability to love in different ways.

"I am sex."

i also love this one. yes you are sex, good sex, filling sex, wonderful sex, real sex, just not in the physical sense that others know.
but i know the women whose lives you touch FEEL you in a physical way!!!!!

sex is nothing if not felt in the heart!
they will carry you in their hearts forever!

 

[Silverlily]

Let me flip this thought.

How often have you looked at an attractive man or woman and thought they were nothing more than sex?

I believe in balance (I'm not saying you don't, BB, I know better), everyone has facets. We miss out when we refuse to see that in all individuals.

 

[Georgia Girl]

mmmmm BB

thanks babe for reaching in and shedding light on a misconception you see quite often. In so many ways we are all sexual beings yet many are not viewed as such due to societies preconceived notions of what is and is not SEXY. But somewhere there is that one that looks past all of that and sees what is inside the husks, the one who looks to the soul and realizes the beauty that is inside and brings it out.

Kisses and hugs

Dawn

 

[HotXBunz]

Sir Bird, So true so true. I am sorry you have been the butt end of cruel comments. Your point is so right on. Society is so very into looks and many miss the opportunity to have their spirits touched by someone very special because they can't get beyond what they see on the outside. We are all sex.

Some would deny the base need of needing to be sensual/sexual because of the vunerability it exposes but it is there in everyone.

Voyeurgirl, yes yes yes to the touching idea. I crave touching. I love to be touched. I have a nerve problem that causes pain and often I can't be touched and I miss it so much during those times.

My childrens friends, who are in their early twenties, often remark how they miss being touched by their parents. Many times they get into bad relationships because of the human need to be touched and also to be sexual.

When I worked at a personal care home while in school the people there begged to be touched and many, well into their 80's talked about missing sex and intimacy. Infants can fail to thrive without touch.

We are hard wired to be sexual, sensual beings.

Thanks again Black_Bird for another thought provoking thread.

 

[Black_Bird]

I feel like I'm sitting on the football field in Dazed and Confused and have the great desire to very sarcastically say, "That's so deep, man."

But instead I'll just tell you about my idea.

*Passes Joint* Deep dude...

*Shrugs* Different things are deep to different people for different reasons... Depth is all about showing you something you don't know and making you contend with having to fit it into your personal world view.

To me, Douglass Adams is deep.

 

[Black_Bird]

Let me flip this thought.

How often have you looked at an attractive man or woman and thought they were nothing more than sex?

I believe in balance (I'm not saying you don't, BB, I know better), everyone has facets. We miss out when we refuse to see that in all individuals.

Good point. Lets look at someone like Cindy Crawford. Everything about that woman screams sophisticated sex... but those are asumptions. Maybe she's not so sophisticated? Maybe she like eating peanut butter and jelly while watching I love Lucy reruns. She probably farts, belches, and scratches her ass like the rest of us. She's also probably damn tired of being seen as nothing but sexy - wanting to be *normal* once in a while. It's a sad way to live...

 

[lavender]

 

[Black_Bird]

Sir Bird, So true so true. I am sorry you have been the butt end of cruel comments.

Don't be. Its life. Not all of us were born to be Alpha Males.

My childrens friends, who are in their early twenties, often remark how they miss being touched by their parents. Many times they get into bad relationships because of the human need to be touched and also to be sexual.

True.

Nothing wrong with hugging mom, or getting a good pat on the back by dad. Hell, I give my friends hugs, male and female, all the time. Its one of those things that most guys look down upon, that I feel shouldn't be.

When I worked at a personal care home while in school the people there begged to be touched and many, well into their 80's talked about missing sex and intimacy. Infants can fail to thrive without touch. We are hard wired to be sexual, sensual beings.

This, too, is true. Its unfair how we hold back from older men and women... it's unfair how we think *about* sex sometimes.

 

[CeceliaSkye]

I am sex...

Black bird...
We are sex.... the reality is we are all of it... the good, the bad, the light, the dark, the hurt little boy or girl, the victor, the victim... to deny any of it.. is to deny life itself....

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Very true

I have also been considered by many as I grew up as not being a sexual being, especially as I became heavier. I also went through an infectious acne phase in my 20s which caused a lot of stupid reactions toward me, many from people I had considered as friends.

Well, this all toughened me up and finally, when I entered my 40s, I started to "feel" sexy, and I noticed that others changed their reactions to me as well. So I suppose it's how you FEEL that projects itself even if your "looks" aren't the current rage.

Seems like the chicken/egg theory: which comes first? How can you FEEL sexy if most people treat you like you're not?
When I stopped being concerned what others thought about me, my comfortableness with myself shone through.

So, yes BB, I too am sex!

 

[pipercatt]

thank you, BB. I agree with what you said, and empathize.

 

[voyergirl]

i am sex!

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i work with severely and profoundly handicapped children, and they crave the touch and compassion! just a touch of a hand gives them a glimmer in their eye, and they smile from so deeply inside you can't help but to smile back it makes my days happy and very fulfilled!

touching helps in healing more than you'll ever see on the surface!

and jenny we are all sex, i hate to say even the guy who jerks off alone in bed at night is also sex lol. but we who have someone to enjoy our physical pleasure are lucky.

the imperfect body is the most beautiful thing God made. you know there are lots of girls who look like cindy crawford, but only one me, and only one you jen!!!!!

and damn girl our big butts do make our men happy!!!!!!!

BB your mind is amazing, your thoughts are intense, and your personality says more than a body ever could. wouldn't it be nice if everyone saw deeper than the flesh. the soul holds the real key to our sexuality. and your soul cries out "I am sex"

 

[Weevil]

Hey BB, how's that third year philosophy class going?

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Re: i am sex!

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and jenny we are all sex, i hate to say even the guy who jerks off alone in bed at night is also sex lol. but we who have someone to enjoy our physical pleasure are lucky.
the imperfect body is the most beautiful thing God made. you know there are lots of girls who look like cindy crawford, but only one me, and only one you jen!!!!!
and damn girl our big butts do make our men happy!!!!!!!
BB your mind is amazing, your thoughts are intense, and your personality says more than a body ever could. wouldn't it be nice if everyone saw deeper than the flesh. the soul holds the real key to our sexuality. and your soul cries out "I am sex"

Big butts are very popular!!

Thanks voyergirl; you're right... each one of us is unique, and I agree that BB's topic and his insight into our thoughts and feelings is right on too!

 

[MidnightAngel]

*Shrugs* Different things are deep to different people for different reasons... Depth is all about showing you something you don't know and making you contend with having to fit it into your personal world view.

To me, Douglass Adams is deep.

Damn BB -- that was Good!

Great thoughts; very well put. Now I'll be thinking about that all day.

 

[Black_Bird]

Damn BB -- that was Good!

Great thoughts; very well put. Now I'll be thinking about that all day.

What? What did I say?

OH - I KNOW!!! You just realized Douglass Adams was deep too!

Thank You.

 

[RainbowBright]

I am sex.

You are bad. You look meen. You do'nt get a flowaer.

 

[MidnightAngel]

What? What did I say?

OH - I KNOW!!! You just realized Douglass Adams was deep too!

Thank You.

I Luv Douglas Adams. Geez, that's a whole 'nother thread!

 

[Black_Bird]

Re: Re: I am sex.

You are bad. You look meen. You do'nt get a flowaer.

WTF?

Please... consider learning proper spelling and sentence structure... and expand your vocabulary a little bit.

Just because I make that statement, "I am sex," you assume I am bad? You think I look mean because of my avatar? I hope this is some kind of bad joke...

[Edit: Yeah yeah yeah - I'm tired, I just got off work, and I'm cranky.]

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Re: I am sex.

 

[Black_Bird]

Re: Re: Re: Re: I am sex.

Pssst... Beaky.

This one's another brick wall.

I've said it before, I'll say it again...

There are so many other things much more worthy of banging

*grrooowwl* You are so right, dear.

 

[FieryKitty]

Aww, Black Bird. Not all us newbies are so meen. I'll give you a flowaer, whatever the fuck that is.