I’m going to give into my bi-curious urges tomorrow

[mrsmitty69]

I’m a 42 yr old mwm that’s been having some bi-curious thoughts and urges the last 5 years or so. I’ve got someone that lives nearby that wants to help me out with them. I’m really interested in trading blowjobs with him and he is too. He’s got some experience but I do not. I’m looking forward to meeting him but I’m a nervous wreck already. I am starting to feel a couple of regrets about it right now. One is if I back out after being this close. The second is I’d be cheating on my wife, she would not approve of it. Sucking a cock is a deep seeded desire that i have that might never go away unless i try it.

 

[YANKEE DAN]

I've banged a number of dudes in secret, I am not out to anyone EXCEPT my wife, and I started when I was still living with my parents. The first meeting is always nerve wracking, and the reality often doesn't live up to the fantasy (some guys are trash lol, very selfish in bed). My main advice is use protection, tbh we all hate it and many guys will skip it. Maybe if your new suck buddy (and what you really want is a regualr suck buddy) and you form a regular thing or you both disclose STD test results go raw but yeah, bringing something home to the wife would be fucked up.

As for cheating I'm gonna assume you discussed this at some point in the past and she shot down any idea of this being done in an open way if so I don't judge you. If you didn't do that maybe think about it, be a shame to get in trouble over something you could have incorporated as a part of the marriage.

Other than that good luck man, don't go to your grave alway wondering. I'd love to hear how it goes as well.

 

[SuperSissy]

Smitty, I've sucked many cocks and I definitely think its something every man should do at least once in their life. I have also cheated allot, and come to regret that breach of trust. She was no angel (I think bitch is the proper noun), but I still think I wasn't the best I could have been. I think you have to approach it the same as you would if you were contemplating having an affair with a woman. Oh, yeah, I've always wanted to skydive, but (a) I'm scared, and (b) I get motion sick easy, so I'll go to my grave without that experience, and I'm ok with that.

 

[Savanasexi]

I’m a 42 yr old mwm that’s been having some bi-curious thoughts and urges the last 5 years or so. I’ve got someone that lives nearby that wants to help me out with them. I’m really interested in trading blowjobs with him and he is too. He’s got some experience but I do not. I’m looking forward to meeting him but I’m a nervous wreck already. I am starting to feel a couple of regrets about it right now. One is if I back out after being this close. The second is I’d be cheating on my wife, she would not approve of it. Sucking a cock is a deep seeded desire that i have that might never go away unless i try it.

If you value your marriage and you love your wife, you shouldn't do it, especially as you have doubts about it already.
If you go ahead, you'll have that deceptive guilt for the rest of your life

 

[siobhancan99]

Cheating is fucking cheating, dude. It is shitty and shameful. You want to suck a dick? convince your wife to have a threesome or something with another guy. Make it about her as much as it is about you. If she says no... and you just can't live without a dick in your mouth (and trust me, I like sucking a dick) then you need to evaluate if you need her more or to have what is ultimately going to be a fleeting sexual experience.

 

[HotLoadLover]

I’m looking forward to meeting him

How'd it go ??

 

[nostuff]

The night that I decided I would finally experience a man (three, actually), I struggled with a wall of fear. I told myself to just do it. Easier said than done, I know. But it really is nothing more than deciding what you want, then moving on.

Just do it, or don't.

Where your wife is concerned, there is no denying the moral aspect and potential ramifications of cheating. Nor is there denying the fact that a lot of people cheat every day. Right or wrong, only you can make that decision.

 

[muycurioso]

I’m a 42 yr old mwm that’s been having some bi-curious thoughts and urges the last 5 years or so. I’ve got someone that lives nearby that wants to help me out with them. I’m really interested in trading blowjobs with him and he is too. He’s got some experience but I do not. I’m looking forward to meeting him but I’m a nervous wreck already. I am starting to feel a couple of regrets about it right now. One is if I back out after being this close. The second is I’d be cheating on my wife, she would not approve of it. Sucking a cock is a deep seeded desire that i have that might never go away unless i try it.

in my tiny opinion, do not cheat. bad idea. you got to work out a hall pass, maybe she gets to watch. in my humble opinion, dont cheat. how would you feel if she did it to you. my ex at least had an emo affair. it sucks. i get along with her for the kids but why did she share so much with another god damned guy. i have never crossed paths with him, if i ever do i will prob be violence. one of us is getting knocked out. i may be old but so is he and i am a mentally unstable combat zone veteran USMC. it fucking killsme she didnt come to me with her issues, she just checked out.

 

[muycurioso]

I've banged a number of dudes in secret, I am not out to anyone EXCEPT my wife, and I started when I was still living with my parents. The first meeting is always nerve wracking, and the reality often doesn't live up to the fantasy (some guys are trash lol, very selfish in bed). My main advice is use protection, tbh we all hate it and many guys will skip it. Maybe if your new suck buddy (and what you really want is a regualr suck buddy) and you form a regular thing or you both disclose STD test results go raw but yeah, bringing something home to the wife would be fucked up.

As for cheating I'm gonna assume you discussed this at some point in the past and she shot down any idea of this being done in an open way if so I don't judge you. If you didn't do that maybe think about it, be a shame to get in trouble over something you could have incorporated as a part of the marriage.

Other than that good luck man, don't go to your grave alway wondering. I'd love to hear how it goes as well.

yeah, if i ever get to that point i will have my clean bill of health to share, i will expect the same

 

[1OldFaithful]

I’m a 42 yr old mwm that’s been having some bi-curious thoughts and urges the last 5 years or so. I’ve got someone that lives nearby that wants to help me out with them. I’m really interested in trading blowjobs with him and he is too. He’s got some experience but I do not. I’m looking forward to meeting him but I’m a nervous wreck already. I am starting to feel a couple of regrets about it right now. One is if I back out after being this close. The second is I’d be cheating on my wife, she would not approve of it. Sucking a cock is a deep seeded desire that i have that might never go away unless i try it.

So how did it go, Mr. Smitty?

 

[Wanking_Frank]

Maybe the session is still ongoing

 

[onceuponatimex]

Hope it goes well. I hope to be following your example soon.

Given two hand jobs ages ago, but chickened out when he suggested oral. D'oh! If not now, then probably never.

 

[K0fcali]

in my tiny opinion, do not cheat. bad idea. you got to work out a hall pass, maybe she gets to watch. in my humble opinion, dont cheat. how would you feel if she did it to you. my ex at least had an emo affair. it sucks. i get along with her for the kids but why did she share so much with another god damned guy. i have never crossed paths with him, if i ever do i will prob be violence. one of us is getting knocked out. i may be old but so is he and i am a mentally unstable combat zone veteran USMC. it fucking killsme she didnt come to me with her issues, she just checked out.

You're dumb as fuck for fighting another man cuz of her. It's 100% her fault. That guy is not your friend and doesn't owe you any loyalty. For all you know he's a victim and doesn't know you exist. She is supposed to be your partner. Besides things will only ever go as far as the woman allows it. If we are to be totally honest though you should be mad at yourself. Youre some ptsd ex-jarhead control freak. You failed your husband duties long before your wife failed hers. She's probably scared of your psycho ass. You're lucky to even call her your wife still. Obviously you love her and forgive her. Do yourself and the world a favor by apologizing to her and hope she forgives you. The more you get upset the farther you push her away. I don't mean to offend you but this is a different type of fight soldier. You need to arm yourself psychologically if you hope to stand a chance. I bet your wife is a great woman and smoking hott too or you would not be so upset. Don't make the same mistakes that I have made. Don't lose your woman to same lame ass dude. He's not the great guy he pretends to be with her. As long as you play it cool she will feel guilty and back away from him causing him to get impatient and clingy at which point she will lose interest and return to you. Better yourself and give her space. Think of it as full coverage insurance. In case it is too late to work things out make sure you can still attract a younger hotter woman. The fastest way to get over a woman is on top of another one. Good luck friend.

 

[muycurioso]

You're dumb as fuck for fighting another man cuz of her. It's 100% her fault. That guy is not your friend and doesn't owe you any loyalty. For all you know he's a victim and doesn't know you exist. She is supposed to be your partner. Besides things will only ever go as far as the woman allows it. If we are to be totally honest though you should be mad at yourself. Youre some ptsd ex-jarhead control freak. You failed your husband duties long before your wife failed hers. She's probably scared of your psycho ass. You're lucky to even call her your wife still. Obviously you love her and forgive her. Do yourself and the world a favor by apologizing to her and hope she forgives you. The more you get upset the farther you push her away. I don't mean to offend you but this is a different type of fight soldier. You need to arm yourself psychologically if you hope to stand a chance. I bet your wife is a great woman and smoking hott too or you would not be so upset. Don't make the same mistakes that I have made. Don't lose your woman to same lame ass dude. He's not the great guy he pretends to be with her. As long as you play it cool she will feel guilty and back away from him causing him to get impatient and clingy at which point she will lose interest and return to you. Better yourself and give her space. Think of it as full coverage insurance. In case it is too late to work things out make sure you can still attract a younger hotter woman. The fastest way to get over a woman is on top of another one. Good luck friend.

some of your advice is ok. but...he KNEW she was married. we are divorced now. we get along pretty good these days. I KNOW I made mistakes. I blame myself 100 %. all water under the bridge now. 21 years, man. 25 years all together. that dude is a homewrecker. the fucking shoulder to cry on. whatever. karma. and for the record I am a former Marine. not a soldier. ;-) and I never cheated.

 

[canogagrizz]

I’m a 42 yr old mwm that’s been having some bi-curious thoughts and urges the last 5 years or so. I’ve got someone that lives nearby that wants to help me out with them. I’m really interested in trading blowjobs with him and he is too. He’s got some experience but I do not. I’m looking forward to meeting him but I’m a nervous wreck already. I am starting to feel a couple of regrets about it right now. One is if I back out after being this close. The second is I’d be cheating on my wife, she would not approve of it. Sucking a cock is a deep seeded desire that i have that might never go away unless i try it.

I don't get it. So your thinking is if you try it your desires will then go away? Huh? If you are already desiring it then I doubt that wil happen. IF you go through with it, then it will probably end up being so exciting you'd want more most likely. Especially if it's mutual oral. Then you are saying she wouldn't approve? Of course she wouldn't. Why would you want her approval even if you already knw she wouldn't approve? That makes no sense. I understand you thinking and wanting to suck a cock is a deep seeded desire. That might never go away. Then you mention guilt about cheating on your wife acting like you would tell her even? Yeah, IF you went through with this, don't tell her out of your own pure selfish guilt that would lonly make her feel bad. That would be an even more selfish act on your part along with the cheating. You don't sound like a type of guy who should be doing this maybe. ? IDK. If, IF your wife was not performing in bed for you or not giving you sex, then I could understand you going through with it. Not that that is an excuse either, but sounds to me like you maybe have this deep seeded desire even if she still does give you sex and you have a sex life with her. Imho, if she is putting out and keeping you happy sexually, then I personally would feel guilty about it and not go through with it. So you didn't maek enough clear points here and your post is a bit confusing.
If you end up backing out, just be honest and tell the guy you thought about it long & HARD (lol) and you are not ready because you already have a great sex life at home wit your wife and that maybe someday things might change and you'd still like to be friend, just not FWB yet or anytime soon. If this deep seeded desire of yours won't quit, then just masturbate to m2m oral porn or something or imagine it's you guy that lives nearby when your wife is giving you head. That isn't cheating.
In my case, I have a wife I still love, but for health reasons she can't perform sex anymore and I am in a sexless marriage. So in my own case I wish I had someone that lived nearby that would want to help me out. I wouldn't feel guilty. And I would NEVER tell or make sure 100% that my wife wouldn't find out. Plus, as someone else mentioned, it all depends also on how long you've known this someone that lives nearby will to help you out. Are you 100% sure they are sexually safe and been safe? If you do not know for sure then why bother having oral sex with this person using condoms? Because if you have to play it safe and are not certain this other person is safe sexually, then you'd have to use a condom defeating the purpose. I mean what would be the point then? Yeah a lot of ifs you presented here not being totally claer of your situation. If you have a wife that is loving and giving in the bedroom as well, then you should do a hard pass on this "deep seeded desire" and just keep it to yourself. I mean I've always wanted a Cadillac but never was abel to get one. Something are not meant to be in life so just leave it be fantasy. Unless you have MAJOR reasons. Especially if this is all just to find out if this deep seeded desire will go away. That's sort of funny and not practical thinking. Once you've had something & enjoy it, you would just want it again most likely. Especially if you've already admitted to yourself you want to try it and have this desire. Yeah, NEVER tell your wife that desire. Unless you are 100% sure she'd be cool with that. Which is highly unlikely. Just because YOU desire something is not any reason to SELFISHLY go hurting the one you are suppose to love. Keep this desire to yourself if you are not certain of her thoughts on such a subject. That is all my humble opinion & 2 cents on this.
And I hope you update everyone here as it was you that posted and asked. Good luck on whatever your choice is to be.

 

[OlderBtm4U]

If you value your marriage and you love your wife, you shouldn't do it, especially as you have doubts about it already.
If you go ahead, you'll have that deceptive guilt for the rest of your life

Definitely something to be considered.

 

[TrailerHitch]

I'm at a loss as to why couples don't just talk to each other. My wife and I found out some of our friends are swingers and we were subtlely invited to join in. We talked long and seriously about it but decided that we don't want to risk a good friendship over potentially bad swinger interaction. It did however lead us to discuss her wants and needs and mine too. She wants to have sex with other men, and perhaps multiple men, and explore her wild child side she never set free when younger. I would like to hsve sex with other women and explore my bi side. I am cool with her desires and she is supportive of mine. We decided on an open marriage and agreed on parameters such as no new partners in our home, condom use is a must for vaginal or anal sex, openess about what we are doing, respecting each other's schedules when planning a meet up, and the ability to discuss modifications or stepping out of this if it no longer suits our needs.

Communiation seems to be such a hard thing for so many couples and I don't understand why. How can you be intimately involved and love each other and yet be unable to talk about such important things?

 

[ChrissyCD64]

I’m a 42 yr old mwm that’s been having some bi-curious thoughts and urges the last 5 years or so. I’ve got someone that lives nearby that wants to help me out with them. I’m really interested in trading blowjobs with him and he is too. He’s got some experience but I do not. I’m looking forward to meeting him but I’m a nervous wreck already. I am starting to feel a couple of regrets about it right now. One is if I back out after being this close. The second is I’d be cheating on my wife, she would not approve of it. Sucking a cock is a deep seeded desire that i have that might never go away unless i try it.

Instead of cheating on your wife, just tell her about your urges and see if you can get permission from her, she may even have a boyfriend that you can share. My wife has known I am a cock hound since before we were married and she's fine with it, in fact she encourages it.

 

[Uncut1969]

Hope it goes well. I hope to be following your example soon.

Given two hand jobs ages ago, but chickened out when he suggested oral. D'oh! If not now, then probably never.

 

[Far1957mer]

Instead of cheating on your wife, just tell her about your urges and see if you can get permission form her, she may even have a boyfriend that you can share. My wife has known I am a cock hounds since before we were narried and she's fine with it, in fact she encourages it.

You are a very lucky guy for sure to have your wife encourage you to suck cock and take them in your ass....

 

[ChrissyCD64]

You are a very lucky guy for sure to have your wife encourage you to suck cock and take them in your ass....

I know that very well. She loves to watch and play with her girlfriends (many are the wives of the guys I'm with) while we do it. Our son grew up like me and he has a wonderful loving wife too.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

Family affair?

The family that plays together stays together.

 

[Jay Richards]

I’m a 42 yr old mwm that’s been having some bi-curious thoughts and urges the last 5 years or so. I’ve got someone that lives nearby that wants to help me out with them. I’m really interested in trading blowjobs with him and he is too. He’s got some experience but I do not. I’m looking forward to meeting him but I’m a nervous wreck already. I am starting to feel a couple of regrets about it right now. One is if I back out after being this close. The second is I’d be cheating on my wife, she would not approve of it. Sucking a cock is a deep seeded desire that i have that might never go away unless i try it.

So, how did it go...or didn't it?

 

[comegently]

So, how did it go...or didn't it?

We're all wondering, but that was MrsMitty's last post.

 

[CarlyAnn]

Geez, hope he didn’t choke to death.