Hyper-Sensitivity

[Jeff726]

With the help of two Lit friends in recent days, I have realized I have a problem with letting the littlest things get to me. I basically am a person who feels he is afflicted with hypersensitivity. And as Naked Hunny told me on IM the other morning, if I do not do something about it, I might have myself an early grave. I will concur with her on this one.

So what I am asking what is a good way to just relax and ditch this affliction I have? All help appreciated. Thanks.

 

[Rand al'Thor]

I used to be a pretty sensitive person, but over the past few years, I've pretty much deadened that.

Since over-reacting to situations is a part of your personality, you have to change your personality to fix the problem.

I no longer care what people do/say, since in one hundred years, we'll both be dead and no one will give a shit. The only problem with this approach is that you may get pretty detatched and uncaring, much like I am. If you really and truly don't care what others do/say, then you may (like me) assume that other people won't care what you say, and you can easily hurt someone else's feelings.

You need to find an equilibrium between the two ends: You can be ultra-sensitive or ultra-detached (like me), but neither one of those is perfect, so somewhere in the middle is good...

I think being detatched will make me live longer, but McDonald's, Taco Bell, Winston Cigarettes, and Beer will more than make up for it!

Rand al'Thor
The Dragon Reborn

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

You're going to think I'm nuts, but I'm going to suggest this anyway. Find out where in your town they have open mike nights for comics. Put together three minutes of jokes, sign up, get on stage, try as hard as you can to make them laugh, and DON'T CARE IF THEY DON'T. In other words, if you can give yourself permission to "suck" the feeling of liberation that will come over you will be wonderful. The more you do this more you will stop taking everything personally and stop caring aobut what people think of you. Additionally you will eventually learn how to turn a disatrous situation into a positive one by controlling and re-directing your rage, and once you learn how to "Bomb with Aplomb". (I just made that up and I'm loving it).

 

[Expertise]

Bomb with Aplomb

Wow....thats great Dixon. Beats the hell outta' my liquor and sex suggestion too.

Good luck Jeffie boy. It'll all work out... you'll see.

 

[Bliss]

Jeff,

The Lit God's suggestion is on the money. However, I suspect you may still be a bit too shy to hit the stage at Zanies just yet. There are baby steps if you don't feel comfortable jumping in with both feet.

First, search the Net for other BB, outside of a sexual nature, that hold interest for you. Practice snapping off your opinions, when you really have something to say, without giving a flying Fig Newton what anyone will think or say.

Then, look into joining local clubs who share your interests, whether it be literary, political, learning how to bake Magic brownies or whatever floats your boat.

Eventually, expressing yourself will become so second nature someone may well label you precocious. Woo und Hoo.

Best Wishes!
Payne, The Lamb

 

[Guest]

Try meditating hon. Or listening to music you LOVE, or reading a good book, or writing (doesn't have to be an erotic short story) ANYTHING. Are you artistic at all? I find painting and sculpting are great ways to soothe me.


~Tiggs~
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[Ezzie]

Tiggie? Where the hell is the rest of your smiley face? It's nothing but teeth and eyebrows and quite honestly, it scares me. LOL

Now as for you Jeff, I myself have been building up an immunity to being overly sensitive by doing things I normally wouldn't do. Like, flirting and learning that some people will reject me now matter how beautiful I am. ahahahaha

I listen to a lot of music and read a lot too, that helps keep me on the right track. Especially the music part.

"Something takes a part of me
You and I were meant to be
A cheap fuck for me to lay
Something takes a part of me"--Korn

Angry music kicks ass! LOL

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Yeah, before a relaxing afternoon of feeding the ducks in the park with my children I like to kick back with some White Supremacist Acid Rock.

 

[Jade]

Yeah, before a relaxing afternoon of feeding the ducks in the park with my children I like to kick back with some White Supremacist Acid Rock.

ROTFLMFAO.. yes seriously!! (Ah the hilarious big brother I never had...)
HAHAHa


JEFF: If you become a comedian... I'm all yours baby.

 

[Ezzie]

Yeah, before a relaxing afternoon of feeding the ducks in the park with my children I like to kick back with some White Supremacist Acid Rock.

I'm not gonna get into a music debate with anyone especially someone as well respected as you apparently are on this message board, DCL. But I do not consider Korn to be "White Supremacist Acid Rock." Yes, it's a little strange and in my personal opinion, it's an acquired taste. And I'm not saying for Jeff to listen to music and go on a killing rampage. He asked what we do to relax and I told him what I myself do.

"Ask me did I ever care? Nah"--ICP

Ezzie http://smilecwm.tripod.com/fk/witch.gif

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Oh, get into it. Jesus, I don't shit marble. LOL

 

[Boo]

It seems to me,

that he wants to know how to relax his reactions to what other people say to him or think about him. Being hypersensitive (as you put it) means that you are too dependent on what others think about you or at least how you perceive them to think about you. Generally needing approval from others and not being able to handle criticsim, real or perceived, without coming unglued stems from insecurity. Figure out exactly what it is about yourself that you are insecure about, what you don't like about yourself or think others may not like about yourself and concentrate on either changing it if it really is negative, or accepting it if it is something other people are just being shallow or insensitive about. I know this sounds pretty basic Jeff but you are the one who pointed out you are hypersensitive. Learn to have the attitude that you can't go through life sweating anything but the biggies, AIDs and brain cancer. THink of all the time you now spend worrying needlessly which you can in the future spend listening to Korn. (Just kidding)

Anyway, good luck to you. And congratualtions on your new love interest.

Boo

 

[Naked Hunny]

WOW nice to know that someone is listening to me and im not just blowing smoke out my ass!!

 

[Bliss]

Before we pack Jeff off to the bath with Mr. Bubble & Motley Crue, his question wasn't how to relax. It was how to get rid of his hypersensitivity. I suspect, from earlier threads, that he gets enough relaxation being on the Net instead of interacting with others in RL.

While it's great that some of us have permanent connections to this contraption, and feel no ill effects from spending too much time here (bullshit!), we've already been in the trenches of society and are most likely taking a well deserved break, while he on the other hand is still young and green and needs to be pushed out of the nest, so to speak.

More to the point, he needs suggestions for esteem building.
I don't think making the rounds of imaginary tittie bars is gonna accomplish that.


Anywho, just my two cents.

 

[*Eve*]

I know it's easier said then done, but believe me it sometimes help me to relieve tension when I write, or when I exercise or if I'm doing something that I enjoy. Sometimes taking a nap might help. I know it sounds simple but it helps. There is a book that has been very helpful to me that I borrowed from my dad, it's call "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" and it's a pretty good read and it was very helpful. Check it out. I am sensitive at times too but it's much better to channel your energy into something more positive than worrying about things that you can not change.

 

[Jeff726]

would someone like to go take a nap with me?

 

[Bliss]

Oh, get into it. Jesus, I don't shit marble. LOL

Just gold

 

[Ezzie]

Dammit DCL, that was my attempt at making my point in a respectable manner and now you had to go and make me laugh. You just killed my image of being a "nice girl!" LOL

And by the way, anytime you want to have a debate on musical issues, I'll use the two words my hero uses "Bring it!" LMAO
(Hope that didn't come off as me being a smartass because, well, nevermind, it was me being a smartass. LOL)

 

[*Eve*]

would someone like to go take a nap with me?

You are a bad boy Jeff, you are a cutie pie and I would take you up on that offer but there is already one corrupted innocent on this board.

 

[Jeff726]

*hugs for eve*

like i could corrupt anyone

 

[Naked Hunny]

Jeff before you go take a nap, Did you do anything today i mean when i got home you were online after i put abby down and came back you were online, when i came back from doing laundry you were online. Have you done anything productive today?

 

[*Eve*]

LOL, I might corrupt you!!!

 

[Siren]

Jeffie....focus on an emotion and stay with it for a day

 

[Jeff726]

why the hell does everyone think it is so easy for me to do stuff? i mean christ it aint my fucking fault i live in the middle of nowhere with no money or job! sorry if i am not up to everyone's standard of cool. damn lay off me will ya?

 

[FlamingoBlue]

In my opinion....

you really need to get at the source of your insecurities. I take issue with DCL because if the experience is a disaster, you will be worse off than you are now.

I was never afraid to talk in front of groups and it didn't much matter to me how others reacted to me since I thought them all idiots, anyways. It wasn't until long after I began (okay, here is that dreaded word) therapy that I began to examine my reaction to what I believed was criticism. In most cases I found that people were not even talking about me. Instead, they were talking about themselves.

Recognizing that you have an issue to deal with is the 1st step. Doing something about it comes next. Seek out professional help.

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