Humiliation

[TaintedB]

In my experience humiliation can be a useful way for disciplining... but I agree with Netzach, it's risky business... physical bruises go away, mental bruises have a tendency to stay...

Wolf

Agreed. To me, humiliation belongs in the fun-and-games category. People relatively new to bdsm seldom realize that getting a submissive to do what you want very seldom involves punishment or discipline, even if the punishment is purely physical. The latter is not a very effective technique, unless it's combined with "the other stuff." And it can't be used too often, either, or, like a drug one develops a tolerance for, it loses its effectiveness.

On another topic, I wonder what our resident expert on werewolf daring thinks of your sig line? Oh, Killishandra? Is what he says da truth?

 

[Killishandra]

How ironic

My new avatar seems to have her ass showing.

Does that count as mooning?

Guess we'll find out soon enough TB.

 

[wolf2002]

My new avatar seems to have her ass showing.

Does that count as mooning?

Lets just say that a walk in the woods tonite would be unwise for you...

 

[Killishandra]

Tonight is the full moon

Lets just say that a walk in the woods tonite would be unwise for you...

...and I came very close to a walk through the woods tonight.

 

[wolf2002]

...and I came very close to a walk through the woods tonight.

dressed as on your profile that would be a dangerous thing...

 

[Killishandra]

Silly Wolf...

dressed as on your profile that would be a dangerous thing...

...I don't run through the forest dressed.

 

[wolf2002]

...I don't run through the forest dressed.

Do they have wolves on Hawaii? If not I know a perfect candidate for the position...

 

[Killishandra]

Do they have wolves on Hawaii? If not I know a perfect candidate for the position...

You are talking to the closest thing Hawaii has to a wolf - A pagan girl running nekkid through the woods of Maui.

 

[wolf2002]

You are talking to the closest thing Hawaii has to a wolf - A pagan girl running nekkid through the woods of Maui.

Did I mention I am willing to work for free?

 

[Killishandra]

Did I mention I am willing to work for free?

I just betcha are!

LOL, we'd better end this convo before someone notices how badly it's been HIJACKED.

 

[wolf2002]

I just betcha are!

LOL, we'd better end this convo before someone notices how badly it's been HIJACKED.

You're right, back to humiliation... though I have a feeling that a pagan girl that runs around nekkid through the woods of Maui isn;t very receptive to my humiliation skills...




Alll right, I'll stop...

 

[TaintedB]

My new avatar seems to have her ass showing.

Does that count as mooning?

Guess we'll find out soon enough TB.

Wot did I start here, lol? Killishandra, I seem to be finding you werewolves right and left even though I said I wasn't going to do so. So much for my good intentions.

 

[Killishandra]

Wot did I start here, lol? Killishandra, I seem to be finding you werewolves right and left even though I said I wasn't going to do so. So much for my good intentions.

They find me! Ahhhh! *runs screaming.... thru the woods, of course*

*and takes TB with her*

 

[TaintedB]

They find me! Ahhhh! *runs screaming.... thru the woods, of course*

*and takes TB with her*

Oh, no! I am sitting firmly in my theatre seat, munching my popcorn, and watching this movie. No audience participation for me, lol.

 

[wolf2002]

Oh, no! I am sitting firmly in my theatre seat, munching my popcorn, and watching this movie. No audience participation for me, lol.

Really, I don;t mind... you're free to join... be my guest...

 

[Gelert Lonewolf]

...Oh well... It was interesting when it lasted. But, if you can't ban them, join them

*Waves at everyone from his location, being, high up in a tree*

 

[serijules]

Humiliation has always been something I've thought of as "no way, not me". However, this past weekend I came to the startling understanding that actually...I quite like it. To a degree.

I guess it depends on how you define humiliation, and the definitions are as broad as anything. For me, I used to mix humiliation up with degradation. I don't like being called worthless or useless or fat or ugly or stupid or any such thing...these things make me feel degraded. There is nothing sexy in that at all.

Humiliation however...with the right person (and that right person in my life being D) I have found is an incredible turn-on, even though it is still very very difficult for me. Perhaps that is WHY it is a turn-on; it is a challenge, and takes me down to a level of very pure submissiveness, which is what is erotic for me more so than the actual humiliation. For example...this past weekend, D had me perform for her in front of two very close friends of ours, friends that have never seen me that exposed before. Being on my hands and knees on the bed with my ass being fucked hard with a dildo and being scolded by D for not remembering to keep my ass lubed for her was...very humiliating. My ass in the air, spread up, being invaded, my sobbing a dead giveaway of just how humiliated I was...it was hard. It only got worse from there, to me being blindfolded and teased and fucked and denyed and cut and caned and beat and slapped and forced to beg....

When it was over, they clapped and paid D for the entertainment. I buried my face in the covers. They laughed at the cuteness of that.

Humiliating? oh yes... Did I love it? OH yes...

Yet...it was hard. I cried in the beginning, and D had to remind me that I was doing this for her. That made it easier, but it was still hard to look anyone in the face afterwards. I still tear up a bit thinking about it, yet I don't feel at all degraded. I feel intense pride in how proud D was of me, at the pleasure she got from me trying so hard to please her with something that was very hard for me. I have come to understand that humiliation is not quite as basic as I once thought, and actually very much a part of my relationship with D. So I can no longer honestly say that humiliation isn't a turn on for me, although when you really get down to it and dig into it, it is the pride and pleasure of my owner that is really what drives me. Being turned on by the humiliation itself would feel too self-indulgent to me.

 

[FantasiaRealms]

Perhaps that is WHY it is a turn-on; it is a challenge, and takes me down to a level of very pure submissiveness, which is what is erotic for me more so than the actual humiliation...Humiliating? oh yes... Did I love it? OH yes... So I can no longer honestly say that humiliation isn't a turn on for me, although when you really get down to it and dig into it, it is the pride and pleasure of my owner that is really what drives me. Being turned on by the humiliation itself would feel too self-indulgent to me.

...Ah now that is something to behold! I never tire of finding those who hold dear the greater darks of self, and embrace them fully, with honest convictions. Thanks for sharing this. It reaffirms my own beliefs in such things.

~Fantasia

 

[Gelert Lonewolf]

I must admit, I thouraly enjoyed reading this. It has been an eye opening concept. Thank you for posting such an intimate experience and I am glad you have shared it. Thank you very much.

Catch ya later. Take care.

 

[Marquis]

Humiliation has always been something I've thought of as "no way, not me". However, this past weekend I came to the startling understanding that actually...I quite like it. To a degree.

I guess it depends on how you define humiliation, and the definitions are as broad as anything. For me, I used to mix humiliation up with degradation. I don't like being called worthless or useless or fat or ugly or stupid or any such thing...these things make me feel degraded. There is nothing sexy in that at all.

Humiliation however...with the right person (and that right person in my life being D) I have found is an incredible turn-on, even though it is still very very difficult for me. Perhaps that is WHY it is a turn-on; it is a challenge, and takes me down to a level of very pure submissiveness, which is what is erotic for me more so than the actual humiliation. For example...this past weekend, D had me perform for her in front of two very close friends of ours, friends that have never seen me that exposed before. Being on my hands and knees on the bed with my ass being fucked hard with a dildo and being scolded by D for not remembering to keep my ass lubed for her was...very humiliating. My ass in the air, spread up, being invaded, my sobbing a dead giveaway of just how humiliated I was...it was hard. It only got worse from there, to me being blindfolded and teased and fucked and denyed and cut and caned and beat and slapped and forced to beg....

When it was over, they clapped and paid D for the entertainment. I buried my face in the covers. They laughed at the cuteness of that.

Humiliating? oh yes... Did I love it? OH yes...

Yet...it was hard. I cried in the beginning, and D had to remind me that I was doing this for her. That made it easier, but it was still hard to look anyone in the face afterwards. I still tear up a bit thinking about it, yet I don't feel at all degraded. I feel intense pride in how proud D was of me, at the pleasure she got from me trying so hard to please her with something that was very hard for me. I have come to understand that humiliation is not quite as basic as I once thought, and actually very much a part of my relationship with D. So I can no longer honestly say that humiliation isn't a turn on for me, although when you really get down to it and dig into it, it is the pride and pleasure of my owner that is really what drives me. Being turned on by the humiliation itself would feel too self-indulgent to me.

Sorry I missed this before, great post!

Not only is that a very hot story, but I think you touch on the functionality of humiliation in a D/s relationship very well.

I think a psychological parallel can be found in the hazing of new members of sports teams or soldiers or frat brothers. Humiliating someone forces a person to check their ego, and there are some jobs that are honestly just much easier to do if you leave your ego at the door.

Being a sub is often one of them.

 

[sphynx's dragon]

Sorry I missed this before, great post!

Not only is that a very hot story, but I think you touch on the functionality of humiliation in a D/s relationship very well.

I think a psychological parallel can be found in the hazing of new members of sports teams or soldiers or frat brothers. Humiliating someone forces a person to check their ego, and there are some jobs that are honestly just much easier to do if you leave your ego at the door.

Being a sub is often one of them.

True, very true.

 

[Gelert Lonewolf]

Sorry I missed this before, great post!

Not only is that a very hot story, but I think you touch on the functionality of humiliation in a D/s relationship very well.

I think a psychological parallel can be found in the hazing of new members of sports teams or soldiers or frat brothers. Humiliating someone forces a person to check their ego, and there are some jobs that are honestly just much easier to do if you leave your ego at the door.

Being a sub is often one of them.

It's all getting very philisophical now, lol...

 

[babiesmiles]

Not only is that a very hot story, but I think you touch on the functionality of humiliation in a D/s relationship very well.

I think a psychological parallel can be found in the hazing of new members of sports teams or soldiers or frat brothers. Humiliating someone forces a person to check their ego, and there are some jobs that are honestly just much easier to do if you leave your ego at the door.

Being a sub is often one of them.

I completely agree

 

[Netzach]

I would argue that being a Dominant, it is often equally, if not more frequently, important to check your ego.

 

[Marquis]

I would argue that being a Dominant, it is often equally, if not more frequently, important to check your ego.

Netzach you'd argue with me if I told you what color my drawers were.

"I'm wearing red ones Netz."

"No, I think those are blue."