how you discovered your "bdsm self" (with thanks to Richard for the thread idea)

[bunny bondage]

how you discovered your "bdsm self" (with thanks to Richard for the thread idea)

i still remember being very young and playing with my barbie dolls. i always had ken take of barbie's panties and bend her over his knee. and playing with the neighborhood kids, i'd always fall into the role of "damsel in distress." i guess i've always been this way. but the first time i actually did anything like that with another person was with this guy chris. i was <removed>, he was twenty four (yes, i know, that's not exactly healthy) he was the first person to really play rough with me, tie me up, cut me, spank me, tell me what to do, lead me around by a leash, all of that sort of thing. i knew even before we started that it was right for me, and it fufilled me. it wasn't as though i was jumping into anything, i had just finally found a playmate who liked my kind of games. i never questioned it, never even really thought about it. i just knew that this was the kind of thing i enjoyed.


so share your first time experiences!

 

[MystiqDrgn]

Removed for various reasons.

 

[Chicklet]

...I always tied my Barbie's up - Ken never delevered any spankings, though.

Friends and I would tie each other too...it gave me this funny feeling in my belly. There was this one episode of "My Little Ponies" where one of the ponies was kidnapped by these big green plant monsters. These vines shot out of the ground and bound up the pony, tying its legs and binding it's mouth so that it couldn't hollar for help. Again, funny feelings in my belly.

When I was with my first boyfriend (an online relationship) we were chatting about favorite books and more specifically favorite parts of favorite books. I could remember every single little reference to any bondage, any s/m type thing, any d/s situation in books from young adult to child. He was the one that gave it a name, and showed me about "BDSM" as it is.

Chicklet

 

[Richard49]

bump

 

[MNGuy]

The neighbor girl and I used to play Tarzan and Jane. I would wear shorts, she would wear her bikini. We would always wind up getting 'captured' by someone and we would tie each other up.

Over time, we got more cretive tying each other up, and to each other. Then one day, when we were older, the clothes came off and . . .

 

[WynEternal]

I played with barbies sometimes when I was a kid, but for the most part, was a reclusive tom-boy. Never did the cowboys and indians thing or anything else for that matter. I was a book worm and spent most of my time listening to music or reading.

Then came college. I used to read fanfic on the internet, but when I got to college, I was able to read the adult stories. There were stories with a d/s theme to it that made me really flush and somewhat wet. From then, I remember being hooked to erotica and wanting to know more about bdsm.

After losing my virginity, I started hanging out in chat rooms and talking to internet Doms. It was in there I met my future Mistress and the rest is history.

 

[Netzach]

My mom took me down the the Halloween Parade in the Village, to see all the neat costumes. Among the neat costumes were a lot of hairy, big, beefy, military, mustached, and HOT guys in leather. This must have been 85 or 86.

I had that funny feeling I couldn't name. I knew it was really inappropriate, I knew the men were gay and still, some part of me was like "take me with you!"

Fast forward to clothes shopping, again in the Village. A photo on the wall of the store, germanic looking girl in full PVC Domme gear, corset, shorts, thigh boots, shiny cover, gloves, riding bat. Thinking, secretly "that's what I'm gonna do when I grow up!"

 

[James G 5]

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=4492086#post4492086


*walking away mumbling disgustedly to himself*

 

[ammre]

well.. i was a little kid and i stumbled upon this one channel... and well.. they would find these girls and stick em full of drugs and the drugs would brainwash them and make them totally willing to do anything for a while... and they had this pleasure place where people who paid enough moeny would get so many drugged girls and an atmosphere to have them in.. and like... i jsut liked the idea of being lusted for so mush that people would go to such extents... I was always fat so i never really had anyone lusting after me.
That basicially spurred on the desire to please. I wanted to be used for pleasure in a way.
Than came the pain aspect... one day i stumled upon porn where they were putting clip-like appprataces on the women who were chained up.. so i decided to try it... I was young and had limited access to those typed of things.. But i had those little butterfly hair clips that were oh so trendy.. Let me tell you those suckers have sharp teeth and those hurt. But i kinda liked it in a weird way...
on the last note.. i've never really had an orgasm with another person so the act of sex itself has become more of a "pleasing my lover" kind of deal. I love devoting my actions during sex to him... (not saying he's slefish... indeed he tries as much as possible to help me achive orgasm)
so the end product... a girl devoted to making her lover as pleased as possible (well in the sexual aspects.. it's a whole other ballgame when it comes down to who's right and who's wrong...) and who also enjoys a bit of force lust and pain every now and more than then...

I'm not sure if that made sence but sure...

 

[Pleasurekitten]

Hmmm this one really got me thinking about my childhood...

From as far back as i can remember i have always tried desperately to please those that i saw as in authority to me (but i feel this is kinda common with most children really) and felt totally distraught if any of these people ever told me they were disappointed in me. As a result i would go all out to try and please them.

i also remember using my skipping rope or whatever i could find to bind my legs and then try to get about or lie there in wait hoping someone would find me and "rescue" me.

As i got older i tried sensory deprivation and enjoyed how that felt.

Perhaps the oddest thing that i did as a teenager and took immense pleasure in was scraping or carving out pieces of my skin hoping to leave scars. Yes, i actually enjoyed this and felt proud of the marks/scars that were left there.

Then i started to go out with guys who did things that i thought were kinda odd but nevertheless i enjoyed them. i just didn't put a name to it or think twice about it really. i thought it was "normal". *shrug*

i'm just glad that after all these years i've learnt that it wasn't just me and that others share the same thoughts, feelings and desires.


And here i was thinking i was weird. lol

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Re: Finding BDSM....

MystiqDrgn: WOW! hehe



as for me well I suppose my sex life and ect would maybe be more considered kinky then anything else. But to me. its more then kinky. Perhapes its due to my short experience at sexuality.
But it just gets a litle more and more and more.... hes always pushing a little more. I have a feeling I'll have an interesting summer LMAO
Although I think to bf its just kinky or normal I dont know doesnt really matter.
hm I've known I wanted a man who was well.. hmm a little kinky.
what I mean is I Always THOUGHT I wanted a guy who could be agreesive.
Well all. sometimes you get EXCATLY what you ask for. and dont know if you like it LMAO
So I suppose like MystiqDrgn, it found me. Was not something that me and my partner talked and agreed to due to reading stuff.
He just happens to be that way.. Politeness is very important to him.
Has given me a few lessons on that. One example but the most tame.
was when he was here and mom's bf gave me this really nice speakers for my computer. Bought them for me.
Hm I did not say thank you BF marched upstairs.. Told Lee to come back down because I had something important to say. I was like uuuhhhhh Thank you LOL
When bf was here I was SO fucking polite LMAO PLEASE THANK YOU PLEASE THANK YOU to EVERYTHING LMAO
was trying to impress him. I forgot once and that was with the speakers and he sure didnt let it slip.
hm once well ok again he was right. I hadnt been takin my medication and I was acting really immature.
so he started to treat me like a kid in front of my mom. BOY OH BOY that is EMBARRASING.
anyway then he took me to my room sat me on my bed stood in front of me and lectured me.
Also he doesnt accept MAYBE as an answer. its Yes or No.
anyway the list goes on.
I still dotn see whats wrong with Maybe.
but he says thats not a good answer.
Anyway so it pretty much found me.
This is frustrating being disabled. I've always had my way so easy LOL
Hes one of the only people to stand up to me. and he doesnt take my shit.
I gotta be honest its slightly refreshing.
Anyway he says its one of several reasons I like him.
Cause hes not a push over and that always getting your way would get boring after a while.


funny. ironicly. I have issuess with authority LMAO
he doesnt like actually.. he CANTalways be the one who is initiating everything.he really likes agreesive girls.

 

[lancemanyon]

Re: how you discovered your "bdsm self" (with thanks to Richard for the thread idea)

i still remember being very young and playing with my barbie dolls. i always had ken take of barbie's panties and bend her over his knee. and playing with the neighborhood kids, i'd always fall into the role of "damsel in distress." i guess i've always been this way. but the first time i actually did anything like that with another person was with this guy chris. i was fifteen, he was twenty four (yes, i know, that's not exactly healthy) he was the first person to really play rough with me, tie me up, cut me, spank me, tell me what to do, lead me around by a leash, all of that sort of thing. i knew even before we started that it was right for me, and it fufilled me. it wasn't as though i was jumping into anything, i had just finally found a playmate who liked my kind of games. i never questioned it, never even really thought about it. i just knew that this was the kind of thing i enjoyed.


so share your first time experiences!

Bunny, I know this is not the kind of feedback you asked for, but once again......after reading of your past experiences:

but the first time i actually did anything like that with another person was with this guy chris. i was fifteen, he was twenty four (yes, i know, that's not exactly healthy) he was the first person to really play rough with me, tie me up, cut me, spank me, tell me what to do, lead me around by a leash, all of that sort of thing.

I can't help but ask you once again to seek professional help. It is obvious that something in your past was severely traumatic, and is having an affect on your life today. Please consider my advice.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

I was abused as a child. But I am NOT a victim NOR will I ever be a victim.
having had had a horrible childhood OR life isnt a reason to blame everything on it.
SHit happens. I can bet everyone has had at least one traumatic experiense in there life.
are they all nut cases no. saying OH its because you where abuse.
is an excuse and plain bullshit YES it can elad to trouble
and troubling relationships. people who are abused as childrend tend to end up
in abusive relationships very often.
But tis not related to bdsm. Since its NOT abusive.
I sure am not lookin for abuse.
I wouldnt stick around for it.
BUT its refreshing for a man a person to stick up to me.
and NOT take my shit like everyone else does.
If someone who has been abused as a child is looking for "punishment" because they think they deserve it cause of thats what she was told as a child and ends up in a bdsm relationship. She DOESNT belong there.
she has problems. BDSM is not takin out your anger cause you had a bad child hood OR
cause you where an abused kid and think you deserve this.
if a person of that mentality becomes involved in a D/s relationship.
the Dom shouldnt accept her/him because they obviously have issuess.

Lance unless you all the sudden became a shrink.
Shut up.


my bf has at least has taken a psychocology class.

*Thinks she gave more amo for lance to say bullshit about.. should have waited to respond till she was rather .... awake LOL* besides others may not agree with me and I sure am no expert. just saying how I see it*

 

[lancemanyon]

Ok, Pixie, you can tell me to shut up. And you can ignore my psychology training and background. But that doesn't ignore the fact that OBVIOUSLY there are vulnerable adults and MINORS frequenting this board. And it is a travesty that this kind of predatory behavior is allowed to continue.

But, I can assure you, not for long.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Minors are NOT Suppose to be here.. there NOT allowed.
some sneak threw.
I dont see any kind of predatory behavior here

Ok, Pixie, you can tell me to shut up. And you can ignore my psychology training and background. But that doesn't ignore the fact that OBVIOUSLY there are vulnerable adults and MINORS frequenting this board. And it is a travesty that this kind of predatory behavior is allowed to continue.

But, I can assure you, not for long.

 

[lancemanyon]

I dont see any kind of predatory behavior here

Yeah, I know you don't . And some others don't either. That is part of the problem. But again, not for long.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Yeah, I know you don't . And some others don't either. That is part of the problem. But again, not for long.

I think only YOU see this behavior.. perhapes everyone else is.. blind????

1 against hmm ok over 100 people.....
leads me to think that perhapes YOU have a problem. MAybe you should see a threrapist for your delusions.
Obviously you have delusions if you see things that arent there

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I am growing almost daily as a Dom...and unlike what some people might suggest, I am not a predator at all. Hell, I provide references for future victims...errr....subs.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

I am growing almost daily as a Dom...and unlike what some people might suggest, I am not a predator at all. Hell, I provide references for future victims...errr....subs.

LMAO!!!

 

[Pixie Mischief]

*Crawls threw the long grass stalking lancemanyon...gradualy getting closer and closer.....once shes close to him she pounces on him* *evil laugh* MY PREY!

*licks her lips and chews on an arm* ack needs more pepper

 

[lark sparrow]

Ok, Pixie, you can tell me to shut up. And you can ignore my psychology training and background. But that doesn't ignore the fact that OBVIOUSLY there are vulnerable adults and MINORS frequenting this board. And it is a travesty that this kind of predatory behavior is allowed to continue.

But, I can assure you, not for long.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=155297

 

[Pixie Mischief]

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=155297

LARK!!! OMG you SOO shouldnt have showed me this..
I should use the toy I used on bf on him

lance... be a good boy and bend over for me
http://www.sextoyworld.com/dj0290-01.html


So Lance I will do more then tell you to shut up now.

you picked the wrong girl to play with LMAO

 

[Pixie Mischief]

posted on his thread

 

[lark sparrow]

LARK!!! OMG you SOO shouldnt have showed me this..

It's not bad to want anal sex, but I think his casting of judgement and harassment of the entire forum with this holier-than-thou attitude (and deep-seated personal issues) is a bit over-rated.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

I never said it was bad
LMAO!!!
too funny.
He shouldnt talk lol
Hes being rather submissive in those pictures offering his ass to all LOL

bleh I think hes in denial LOL

It's not bad to want anal sex, but I think his casting of judgement and harassment of the entire forum with this holier-than-thou attitude (and deep-seated personal issues) is a bit over-rated.