How to teach someone eager to give a good BJ?

[YesIamReal]

She very much wants to please, but is too aggressive with both HJ and BJ. But she is a good kisser, so there must be some potential.

I tried a video of a woman whose technique I would describe as "exquisite" but she got hung up on the clip having "teen" in the title.

Any advice, suggestions of books, sites, or woman-friendly videos or sites?

 

[xxkimberlyv]

Talk with her! Give her instructions as to what feels good and what you like. I am sure she would find it hot if you gave her "orders" during the entire process ( I know I like it!) The video is a good idea. If she is hung up on that title, find another. There are plenty out there. Maybe search for them from a woman's perspective such as "romantic blow job videos" or "porn for women"

 

[KatieDoes]

If she wants to please……tell her what feels good and what doesn’t.


Is this a trick question?

 

[J_Bone]

Been there before and agree with the ladies here. Don't be afraid to give her a little coaching, but not in a critical way. And be sure to reinforce positively when she gets it right, whether generally through moans and body movement or more specifically through actual graphic words. Like you said, she wants to please, so it will turn her on, as well.

And I agree that great kissing tends to correlate to great BJ skills.

 

[xxkimberlyv]

What J Bone said....not critical...guide her....I swear she will like that

 

[ToPleaseHim]

If she wants to please……tell her what feels good and what doesn’t.


Is this a trick question?

Probably looking for wank fodder

 

[Escierto]

My transgender girlfriend had to train me to suck her cock. I thought it would be natural but you really have to learn how not to let your teeth touch.

 

[gtnlynn]

The first bj my wife gave me was painful. She asked for help from another lady who worked with her and had an active sex life. The friend gave her instructions on how to avoid tooth/penis contact, how to use her tongue, etc. The next bj was great!

 

[Syzoth]

When my wife first started giving me oral sex years ago, it was SO painful. However, I didn't have the heart to say anything because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Finally, after a long time, I began, very gently, telling her what I liked and what I didn't like.
Now my wife is a goddess when it comes to giving blowjobs.

Communication... it really IS that simple!

 

[zcraft5]

She very much wants to please, but is too aggressive with both HJ and BJ. But she is a good kisser, so there must be some potential.

I tried a video of a woman whose technique I would describe as "exquisite" but she got hung up on the clip having "teen" in the title.

Any advice, suggestions of books, sites, or woman-friendly videos or sites?

forst she needs to want to doit and get intoit once she starts shehas to feel how sexy it is and use her mouth more eagerly looking at he eyes helps one suck or give good head its a big turn on for me

 

[CajunFisherman]

If she wants to please……tell her what feels good and what doesn’t.


Is this a trick question?

 

[Lady2020]

Have you looked at your bio recently?

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

I was going to say, let her get a boyfriend…it worked wonders for my wife!

 

[boo56]

I was the recipient of an expert blowjob by a woman who had been carefully tutored by a prior boyfriend. It can be worth it for her get the instruction, but I could neither teach her nor teach the teacher.

 

[Wonderer67]

Communication is key.

Let her know what works and what doesn’t. Honestly, my wife gave blowjobs that were not very good.

We had frank discussion and I provided some feedback. (She had done the same for me, going down on her). She is pretty good at giving head.

Recently we watched some blowjob tutorials on pornhub and she has taken her game to the next level.

The last week, she has given me two amazing blowjobs/handjobs, creating tension, frustration (for me) and just looks and acts so sexy as she sucks me and handjobs me.

We enjoy orgasm control and long teasing sessions. It has really taken things to a different level.

But none of this would’ve happened if we couldn’t have open and candid discussion.

 

[CliimaxForYou]

Communication is key.

Let her know what works and what doesn’t. Honestly, my wife gave blowjobs that were not very good.

We had frank discussion and I provided some feedback. (She had done the same for me, going down on her). She is pretty good at giving head.

Recently we watched some blowjob tutorials on pornhub and she has taken her game to the next level.

The last week, she has given me two amazing blowjobs/handjobs, creating tension, frustration (for me) and just looks and acts so sexy as she sucks me and handjobs me.

We enjoy orgasm control and long teasing sessions. It has really taken things to a different level.

But none of this would’ve happened if we couldn’t have open and candid discussion.

It’s amazing the things that can happen when communication is good.

I’ve learned while dating that if someone shies away from substantive conversations, we are likely not a very good match. It’s a red flag for my needs.

 

[rthnck]

If you can't just tell her what you like and you want to show videos, you have to find a video that demonstrates what "you" like. I don't like extreme blowjobs, wet and sloppy spitting blowjobs, violent facefucking. But that's me. I like it slow and sensuous.
Like this:
erotic blowjob

But that's me. As others have said, there are videos too numerous to mention. Even youtube has very clinical tutorials. The journey may be more fun than the destination. Happy hunting and happy endings.

 

[masterslave00]

She very much wants to please, but is too aggressive with both HJ and BJ. But she is a good kisser, so there must be some potential.

I tried a video of a woman whose technique I would describe as "exquisite" but she got hung up on the clip having "teen" in the title.

Any advice, suggestions of books, sites, or woman-friendly videos or sites?

If you need porn video to tell her how to give you a blow job, then the problem is not with her, but with you!

 

[Wonderer67]

If you need porn video to tell her how to give you a blow job, then the problem is not with her, but with you!

There are many ways to learn.

Yes, telling and communicating are one way. But so is showing.

Everyone is different.

Porn is mostly unrealistic horseshit, but I’ll say my wife and I have watched some tutorials and she has upped her game a lot thru talking, discussion about what feels good and yes, a bit of pornograhoic tutorials.

Works for us.

There are many ways to skin a cat.

 

[emme8]

I love it when ...
Please do more of ...
I'm way too sensitive for a lot of ...

Thank you for doing ... you are amazing.

 

[P0peye]

It's the same as the answer to the New York tourist's question. "Can you tell me how to get to Carnegie Hall?".... "Practice man, practice!"

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I wasn't good at BJ's until I was 20, and before that, I sucked a few cocks but wasn't Great.
I learned by guys telling me what they liked.
Is she wanting to learn what you like? Some woman just don't like giving head.

 

[ZOEOHZOE]

The first boy I went down on stopped me in about 5 min and took me home LOL

 

[slavemelanie]

There is not substitute for experience and advice from those that have mastered techniques. Deep throating takes a lot of mental control and then that only is achieved with experience no matter what advice you get.

 

[Escierto]

You can watch a lot of You Tube videos but until you actually have a cock in your mouth, it doesn't mean anything. Even then it may still not mean anything. Did anyone ever to learn to ride a bicycle watching You Tube videos?