HOW TO Sex creating intimacy and connections

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HOW TO make Sex creating intimacy and connections

is There a reason why girls feel bonds when having sex?
Its either when you orgasm or maybe even when your having sex that your bodies make a chemical.... *Will find the name and proper meaning later*... that helps your bodies bond with the bloke you are with. And over time the bond gets stronger and women find it harder and harder to sleep around with different blokes, whereas men don’t seem to have that trouble.

The same happens when women have babies and breast feed, the same chemical is produced then, and this helps the baby and mother bond better.

I can’t be sure if the chemical goes into the man during sex! So he may feel no bond between you.

I think that you get use to it over a few months with the same girl, and your body will want it more with her. So maybe there’s a slight bond there.

I’ve personally not had sex with the same girl long enough to build any sort of bond
& some women say :A few years ago I was seeing a bloke regularly, it was just physical but after time I swear I craved for him, it had to be him, it couldn't just be any random bloke. You get used to the little things that someone does, the way your bodies fit together and you want it that way
what do you thenk & how to do ?
thanx

 

[Bent]

Intimacy?

Intimacy and 'sex' aren't the same thing. Well, not to me anyway. I can't have sex with someone that I don't 'love', respect, or admire.

I can be intimate with one man and screw this other guys brains out, but guaranteed, I love them both, but in very different ways.

Do we crave the same man? I have craved the same man since the day I met him so yup, I agree with that, however, I probably wouldn't if I never saw him again.

 

[heavenly body]

During arousal endorpins a naturally occuring "pleasure drug" are released. During orgasm they flood your brain leaving you with a feeling of well being and contentment. It stands to reason that if this happens with the same person over and over you begin to associate them with those feelings. That is not enough to base a long term relationship on but it can create a bond of sorts.

Sometimes it is enough to inspire you to look deeper into that person for a more lasting type of relationship. I think it is only natural to want to have someone to share your thoughts and dreams. Human beings can be happy without a significant other but it is our nature to want a deeper connection with others. There is nothing wrong with playing about as long as the other person understands that you want nothing serious. When you connect with someone on a physical level and it is good it might lead you to believe that it could be all the better on a emotional level too.

I personally played around a bit before I decided it was time to look for someone who I wanted to in my life and dreams. I don't regret the time I played around but I much prefer being with my boyfriend now. Even the dreaded chores are fun with him/

 

[DuckLover]

Another factor is, simply put, risk factors.

Women take a lot more risk when having sex. It's much easier for STD's to transfer M to F than FF or F to M. (Penetration and ejaculation deposit bacteria and viruses internally, past the skin which is the bodiy's main defense mechanism.) Add to that the fact that only the WOMAN gets pregnant, and you can see how their risk level is higher.

Consequently, a women needs to (or at least probably SHOULD) be more selective about bedding a man. Sex, then, becomes a sign of trust and bonding and relationship.

For men, sex is often purely physical, spreading the biological seed. It takes little effort, presents little risk, and requires virtually no commitment; thus, sex doesn't correlate very strongly with emotional bonding for men the way it does for women.

<steps down off soapbox>

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[heavenly body]

Duck I don't think you are so conservative to really come across as gender biased. I do not believe one sex is anymore likely to become enamoured then the other. In fact I think it is just a emotional honesty thing. Most of my female friends are more likely to admit early on an attraction/affection to a guy then the other way around. This is not to mean that the guys don't feel it. Just that they are not so likely to verbalize it.

We could get into an endless discussion about sexual roles but what does it really matter. The key to the dance is honesty. With yourself and with your partner if only for a few hours. Causal sex can be fun and entertaining. If that is what you want then be clear about it. There are plenty of folks out there looking for a tryst without strings.

For myself I love being in a committed relationship. I have done more sexual exploration and find myself more open to new experiences with a partner that I trust, love and respect. But I say to each their own.