How to not get sucked into drama

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

When I started posting it was in the AH, but I really had no idea there were different boards.

It took me a while because I just hit "new post" and responded to the ones I was interested in. I still do.

I had to learn from my friends in the AH that they thought my friends in the GB were savages and heathens and worse, probably could not spell.

I granted them the spelling in some instances, but I do think the GB is the AH without a spellchecker.

I defy territorial boundaries.

I find the GB pleasant compared to here. The AH is almost saddle broke.

 

[fgarvb1]

Yes master please spank me and teach me how to be a good girl (if any of you muthafcukers PM me telling me how you'd like to do this I swear I will hijack every thread and every post of yours and if you're the lurker type then I will start a thread in your name).

Not happening.

I only spank or flog upon naked, humbled request.

Talk to me next year I should be single with my play room complete.

 

[Recidiva]

I find the GB pleasant compared to here. The AH is almost saddle broke.

The GB is my true home and the AH is my ancestral estate.

I eventually ran into trouble in the AH with the introduction of more stringent modding and the policy that if you are posting a topic that really has nothing with writing it doesn't belong there and might be moved.

So I followed the rules. Most people don't and it's still just a bunch of friends behaving the way they always have. It's very territorial.

I'm grateful that some people moved over to the GB like Oggbashan and Liar following the rules too. I always knew where to find them, but I'm not the only one in the AH now who can say that there are plenty of people on the GB worth talking to, just have a well maintained ignore list.

 

[subdued_passion]

When you appear on boards like HT I'm reminded of the Packard cachet they put on Studebakers.

Can someone explain what this means?

I feel like its a whole new language.

 

[NightL]

"and the last Studebaker automobile rolled off the Hamilton, Ontario, Canada, assembly line on March 16, 1966."

 

[subdued_passion]

Considering some of the ALT's in past I give this drama lesson a 3 out of 10.

So if yesterday's outted ALT was a 3 who rated the highest?

 

[NightL]

So if yesterday's outted ALT was a 3 who rated the highest?

some things just belong in the GB where fantasy and fact dance with abandon

 

[fgarvb1]

So if yesterday's outted ALT was a 3 who rated the highest?

Oh No!

She, it or him, are like BettleJuice showing up dragging sandpaper over old wounds.

Ask some of the "Oldies" on the GB who did the worse betrayal/scandal/troll scene.

Besides I still do not understand all of it.

 

[NightL]

When you appear on boards like HT I'm reminded of the Packard cachet they put on Studebakers.

...then Em did say some rely on wiki too much

 

[subdued_passion]

Highlighted sections of the post that I felt nicely answers the title of this thread.

well thank you - but I hope you don't retract that shortly after you posted it.

following on from that other thread and your dismay - let me put it into context - I will chase anyone who I believe is intently wanting to belittle, harass and bully others purely for their own grandeur. Quite frankly "turn a blind eye" does not sit with me when there are some who defecate all over the board just to smell their own fingers after playing in their mess. I will be quite open here with my approach - I will look back at their previous postings and place a mirror in front of them. Threads get shut down and occasionally I get slapped on the wrist for not turning a blind eye. I always hold onto my sense of humour - and if retaliation gets nasty then I just view their delivery as a deeper hole they are digging for themselves.

I do have an ignore list - but there are some who I will keep holding that mirror up to. If I lose my sense of humour over a situation then it is time to put that person on ignore. Even during my crusade of last year about online bullying I never stopped laughing. The subject, however, was serious and I treated it with respect.

Of course there are many who I disagree with or don't like their approach - just not a fan of their delivery - but I can just ignore them even without clicking ignore.

If I were to get angry with someone, then that person has succeeded in taking something away from me. I won't allow that. They don't deserve that reward.

 

[Emerson40]

That's fair enough, and you know I adore you two, it's just a little hard to swallow seeing you both don the halo's and scold others for what amounts to a differing of view points given the past behaviours we've witnessed. It's not like pmann and satin were derailing every thread they went to with name calling or harassing each other, is it? No, in the end they were having a "semi-civil" discussion that perhaps didn't need anyone else's intervention at all.

No halo here.

Just observed an impasse, and made a suggestion (not a scolding).

A $0.03 post if you will, one cent more than the standard $0.02.

 

[subdued_passion]

Oh No!

She, it or him, are like BettleJuice showing up dragging sandpaper over old wounds.

Ask some of the "Oldies" on the GB who did the worse betrayal/scandal/troll scene.

Besides I still do not understand all of it.

Honestly I don't know any of the GB oldies and considering the drama that went down I'm guessing its probably smart not to get to know any one too well on this site.

For a long time now I've been telling people that I prefer Lit to Facebook because people are honest about who they are and what they want (you just don't see their face or know their real name).

Ho hum.

 

[NightL]

(you just don't see their face or know their real name).

Ho hum.

haha - some of us...

 

[subdued_passion]

some things just belong in the GB where fantasy and fact dance with abandon

fgarvb1 posted in the GB

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=918361


Damn... I need an intervention. I am addicted to drama. But look, I didn't post there (well not so far).

Hmnnn, time to log off and get a life S_P? It's 11pm- there is no life. I need like a 'How to Lurk Effectively' thread.

 

[fgarvb1]

fgarvb1 posted in the GB

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=918361


Damn... I need an intervention. I am addicted to drama. But look, I didn't post there (well not so far).

Hmnnn, time to log off and get a life S_P? It's 11pm- there is no life. I need like a 'How to Lurk Effectively' thread.

Yeah I didn't really expect to get much out of it. Maybe later.

I shit you not, some of the first ones had them breaking out in a cold sweat that they might come back!

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Some are gladiators, most are audience. The cowards never start, and the fools die in the arena.

 

[subdued_passion]

Yeah I didn't really expect to get much out of it. Maybe later.

I shit you not, some of the first ones had them breaking out in a cold sweat that they might come back!

I dunno... From what I've seen people either jump on all at once or just let a thread disappear from the front page.

Thanks for starting the thread.

And apologies if you get clobbered for it.

 

[subdued_passion]

Some are gladiators, most are audience. The cowards never start, and the fools die in the arena.

Wise words JBJ.

How is it you always survive?

Wait.

I know the answer... I think it's the 'if you can't convince, then confuse...' strategy at play.

 

[Lord Pmann]

This is a discussion board. As such, there are opinions that will differ. Because of that, tempers may sometimes flare. Sometimes it may derail a tread. As long as the original poster is okay with that, should it be that big of an issue? I mean, if it spills over into other threads and becomes a problem, I get it.

Some reference has been made to the thread with SD and me. It was all isolated to one thread. I spoke with the original poster and apologized for that derailing. While our comments have not been civil for much of it, who gives a shit? SD isn't crying. I'm not crying. She and I don't get along. We don't like each other. But that doesn't mean that it's not fun to read either. So as long as it isn't spilling into other forums or whatever, what's the problem?

We are all adults here. Except me. I'll be 18 soon enough though and my mother says I'm super mature for my age. But we make a choice to engage in drama. Sometimes when I see a fight go on here, it's entertaining to watch. It's one thing if someone is bullying someone who is defenseless. But two grown adults who make the decision to go at it for whatever reason... It's a choice. To sit and watch it... It's a choice. No one ties you up and drags you into a conversation you don't want to be a part of. No one holds anyone down to make them read a thread. There are no thrapists here (thread rapists). If you get sucked into drama, it's by your own choice, most likely because it's enjoyable.

For what it's worth, I enjoy a good dramatic thread. One of the best things that ever happened to me in my life was an amazingly dramatic thread from about a year ago. It was fun. Filled with drama. It was awesome.

Rainshine's comment was bang on. We all have thrown snark around, mostly in good fun and enjoyment. Sometimes the snark turns real and some people are just twats. It's one thing to tell someone that the thread drama should cease if it's causing disruption all over the forum, but that's not the case in any thread I really see- save maybe some of the JBJ threads. But I don't even blame him for that. We egg that fucker on and enjoy it. I think the halo comment was coming from a perceived holier than thou look. That may not have been the case and I in fact talked with one of the people who made some of the comments and that wasn't the intent at all. No harm, no foul.

I don't think we need to sit and rub everyone's dick and sing songs. The forum is going along just fine, as I see it, but that's just my view. I think we all have a laugh. But if the drama is too much for someone, I suggest the following:

Never click anywhere JBJ posts.
Don't click on a thread that has loads of drama. If you see it has loads of drama, don't go there. If you hate the smell of Chinese food, don't go into a Chinese restaurant.

Otherwise, enjoy the drama.

And you are a Hippie, Night! Go put on some deodorant!

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I mean, you hadda know that as soon as the thread turned to the subject of sucking pbrain would appear.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I mean, you hadda know that as soon as the thread turned to the subject of sucking pbrain would appear.

And it's comments like this that make me love you.

Hahahaha. Pbrain.

 

[subdued_passion]

I mean, you hadda know that as soon as the thread turned to the subject of sucking pbrain would appear.

And it's comments like this that make me love you.

Hahahaha. Pbrain.

And you, how long does it take for you to start one thread??? The pearls gather around us, we need some place to deposit them.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Put your pearls here.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php? p=48201373#post48201373

 

[gagginforit]

Do what I do and make a point of not responding to a post if it's about you when you first read it. Give it a couple of hours. By that time I've forgotten all about it. If you post when you're angry or upset thats when you get caught up in these back and forth dramas.

Or do a hit and run. Say what you want to say but don't go back and read what people have replied. In my case it's likely that no one has replied because I'm a ninja poster... I'm there but no one sees me.

 

[subdued_passion]

Put your pearls here.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php? p=48201373#post48201373

You are a rat and a cheating rascal and argghhhhhh

How dare you declare yourself president of the club. I call for an impeachment.