How to make FemDoms more relatable without compromising?

[Lifestyle66]

You received some good advice about writing more background of your characters to try getting the reader to empathize. And you even heard some throw out the tired critique that there are misogynist trolls who will never understand.

But think about this: Would you tell ME how to write a story to change the way YOU think and what YOU believe?

Would you even want someone to change what you believe?


Just learn to write what you want to write. But you won't change the whole world.

 

[AG31]

I write femdom stories, pretty much exclusively. Readers are often disappointed that "my" femdom differs so much from theirs. But I've also found that one or two (literally, just one or two) people share my point of view and can relate. That's good enough for me to continue writing.

Good enough for me too! But I keep on the lookout.

 

[AG31]

There have been some good responses to this question in this thread since you wrote it. The common theme, I think, is to become a better, more critical, and more discerning reader of your own writing. I agree with AG31 that you don't need to become somebody else; just be a more discerning version of yourself. Constantly ask, why should the reader care? Why do YOU care? Answer that question very carefully, and honestly, and ask if you are putting everything on paper that adequately compels you to care, or if you are leaving something out. In reading the passage of your story that I described above, I felt you left things out about Hally and Madison that would have made it a more compelling story.

Thanks, Simon, for affirming what I said. I wish I had the words to fine tune your response more elegantly, but "caring" isn't always necessary. Sometimes the story is simply to make an experience vivid to the reader.

 

[ronde]

I have my own vision. I want only to express that vision in a way that others shall behold the same exact vision. This is the only way I will survive, I'm not compromising with the existing social sexual system. How do you write a scene in a way in which the audience understands exactly what you pictured, and feels exactly what you felt in response to that picture? This is all I want to achieve. If you're going to say it's a fool's errand, then I do not want to hear your opinion. I only want commentary that will enhance my will and sexual instincts, not stifle or stultify them. This comes from a place of desperation, and not a place of adversarialness.

Not to oversimplify, but if you want to tell your readers your vision, develop one of the characters to reflect your own personality. That personality could be either male of female as the story dictates, and no, there's nothing wrong with a female having a stereotypical male personality and vice versa. If you know enough people, you'll see that more than you might imagine. Then, have that character explain your vision to the readers by what he or she says and how he or she acts.

It's definitely not a fools errand, but it could be a challenge. If you feel strongly about your vision, it will come through in the words and actions of your character.

Another suggestion is that this sounds like a complex vision, so have your character use the words of normal conversation. Stay away from the slang that passes for English in today's world. Readers will understand better if they're hearing words they hear every day.