How to make amends?

[heavyhitter01]

I understand what you are saying, but you did say that TL was confused as to why he was not responding to her. That implies that she did not know there would be no further contact.

I believe your friend told you he cut off contact with her. I believe he took all the appropriate actions when he was pressed to with his wife. But your statement, along with his track history (and yes I do believe he his redeemable, all people are...including TL, even though what she did was reprehensible) leaves room for doubt. He may have told you and his wife what you guys wanted to hear, but there is no way to truly tell how things were left between he and TL.

That does not leave TL without culpability because the guy is now married, and she should have left him alone without needing to be told. But maybe he was not as firm with her as you think. After all, you are playing clean up crew now, I don't believe he had the balls to be as firm with her as he says he was.

Maybe he wasn't as firm as he should have been. That's possible. But as you said, she didn't need to be told. Especially when it became clear that he had gotten married, that should have been a HUGE sign that yes, it's time to leave this man alone. She didn't. But perhaps now that I have played "clean up crew," she finally will.

 

[heavyhitter01]

I would like to throw in that some people never understand it when someone else breaks up with them. No matter how nicely, firmly or iron-fisted it is done. They will keep challenging that breakup, questioning it, trying to resurrect what once was, not accepting that is no longer a possiblity.

TL may very well fall into that category.

Sometimes, when you get very close to someone, it is very difficult to accept when that kind of connection is broken.

I completely understand that. I've been on the receiving end of one of those breakups. To this day I still don't understand her reasons why, and it's been at least a dozen years.

I wish I could buy this about ms_intrigue, but the fact that she was constantly playing around with other men -- and trying to keep a steady boyfriend at the same time -- makes it seem as though the many men were just notches on her bedposts, my friend included.

 

[TeaforMe]

Maybe he wasn't as firm as he should have been. That's possible. But as you said, she didn't need to be told. Especially when it became clear that he had gotten married, that should have been a HUGE sign that yes, it's time to leave this man alone. She didn't. But perhaps now that I have played "clean up crew," she finally will.

I hope for everyone's sake that she does, but now that family, friends and her work knows, maybe she will have a "nothing to lose" attitude and ramp up her attempts. She's obviously not of sound mind or judgment. You don't want to turn her into someone like that woman who drove across country with a diaper on...although that would be a fabulous twist in the movie version. LOL

 

[whynotjustsayit]

I completely understand that. I've been on the receiving end of one of those breakups. To this day I still don't understand her reasons why, and it's been at least a dozen years.

I wish I could buy this about ms_intrigue, but the fact that she was constantly playing around with other men -- and trying to keep a steady boyfriend at the same time -- makes it seem as though the many men were just notches on her bedposts, my friend included.

Could be. But maybe she's an obsessive man hoarder who can't let any of them get away.

Stalkers are born when the dumped cannot comprehend or accept it. Has less to do with how many people she's using but how she feels about rejection.

Sorry to hear about your own situation, though.

 

[heavyhitter01]

I hope for everyone's sake that she does, but now that family, friends and her work knows, maybe she will have a "nothing to lose" attitude and ramp up her attempts. She's obviously not of sound mind or judgment. You don't want to turn her into someone like that woman who drove across country with a diaper on...although that would be a fabulous twist in the movie version. LOL

I think we're far beyond a mere movie now, and moving into at least trilogy territory!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think we're far beyond a mere movie now, and moving into at least trilogy territory!

I'm hearing this.

 

[culloden]

I'm hearing this.

The Girl With the Librarian Tattoo

Tattle Attraction

Single Literate Female

Help me, I'm brainstorming here.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

How about You Toucha My Friends, I Breaka You Face ?



Oh wait, that was a song title. Still works, though.

 

[Lord Pmann]

How about You Toucha My Friends, I Breaka You Face ?



Oh wait, that was a song title. Still works, though.

That could be the caption on the poster.

My director name will be Roman Pullandsqueeze (sort of an erotic Roman Polanksi, but with less child groping).

 

[whynotjustsayit]

That could be the caption on the poster.

My director name will be Roman Pullandsqueeze (sort of an erotic Roman Polanksi, but with less child groping).

Only "less" child groping??


(Just bustin' yer chops. )

 

[culloden]

I'm okay with both previous proposals, but absolutely no child groping. This is plenty tawdry enough without that.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

I'm okay with both previous proposals, but absolutely no child groping. This is plenty tawdry enough without that.

Well...IF Ms. TL did any verifiable groping of jail bait men (and we all know whom to check those details for accuracy with) we may imply that in a brief, representative, off-camera cut-away scene.

No young actors will be permanently scarred by the filming of our movie, of course.

 

[culloden]

Well...IF Ms. TL did any verifiable groping of jail bait men (and we all know whom to check those details for accuracy with) we may imply that in a brief, representative, off-camera cut-away scene.

No young actors will be permanently scarred by the filming of our movie, of course.

We'd have to get someone of age, but who looks perpetually younger. Perhaps Daniel Radcliffe or Paul Rueben.

 

[heavyhitter01]

Well...IF Ms. TL did any verifiable groping of jail bait men (and we all know whom to check those details for accuracy with) we may imply that in a brief, representative, off-camera cut-away scene.

No young actors will be permanently scarred by the filming of our movie, of course.

Accuracy check on tap!

The majority of them were younger than her, so yes, let's go with the jail bait scene. It could be in the extended, unrated director's cut.

 

[Lord Pmann]

No one is interested in younger guys here. Move along.

 

[Sistinas74]

What is next for ms_intrigue is up to her. Assuming she doesn't try to contact my friend again and assuming she shows at least some change in her ways, I won't bother her again. But the nuclear option is still in the background, just in case.

No word from the boss, but that doesn't surprise me. However, I'm sure that one day soon ms_intrigue will find that her job is downsized, or she chooses to leave over the fact that everybody knows her sexual proclivities...it can't be easy to work in a place like that, poor thing!

Those who said they "couldn't believe it" changed their tune when they heard more. The fact that they asked to hear more said a lot, I think.

One in particular was a college friend of hers that I located on Facebook. At first she thought it was a practical joke. When the light finally dawned she was amazed that she hadn't seen it before, but said now a lot of things made sense. Most of the reaction has been like that.

I think I asked you before if you knew if TL was in love with your friend?? I was just trying to figure out why she kept trying to get with him after his wife had found out.
Yes, I'm thinking not many jobs would fire employees over their private lives but TL doesn't seem the type to stand up for herself. I could see her quitting of embarrassment and taking the easy way out. I mean even on here where we don't know who she is all her comments are deleted...she is just slinking away and back from the whole thing and trying to clean it up. If you are going to begin these things coming on strong, you may as well finish it standing up for yourself. We all have to own our shit regardless, we can't go back and change it after the fact. Her way of handling it on Lit shows little ownership by erasing everything she has put on here, or deleting anything further about the subject. She was the one who brought the whole thing out in the open on here in the first place.

 

[heavyhitter01]

I think I asked you before if you knew if TL was in love with your friend?? I was just trying to figure out why she kept trying to get with him after his wife had found out.

I think you did ask me this, actually...I apologize for not answering.

I don't think she was in love with him. Given all I have learned about her, it appears she was just playing with him. Notches on the bedpost, so to speak.

whynotjustsayit had a good point about this a while back...that perhaps ms_intrigue just couldn't wrap her mind around the fact that it was over, and that's a reason she kept trying to contract him. I tend to view ms_intrigue in a much harsher light than that, but I admit that the theory makes sense.

 

[stronger_than_U]

I'd like to be an extra please! Maybe the hot neighbour that HH perves on while having a wank - that'd be a good scene to set up his character. I mean, not that I'm trying to give the Director direction or anything....

Or I could be the wife's best friend who drinks a little too much champagne and is secretly in love with her.

http://smiliesftw.com/x/fingersx.gif

LOL, I needed a laugh and this was perfect!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Clocking in for the next shift. Of course, it's usually just me on this shift so I'll just sit here and play with myself. If i must.

Tell us more...

 

[ima6uldv8]

I was thinking of this earlier today. What if coming here was her way of trying to get help?

 

[ima6uldv8]

I came in on it a little late. Just trying to make sense of it all.

 

[heavyhitter01]

Clocking in for my regular shift.

I will be working the vast majority of the Labor Day weekend. Whatever will you all do without me hanging around here all day?

 

[heavyhitter01]

Well that is unacceptable. Hopefully TL will come back and fill the void. http://smiliesftw.com/x/hsughmamoru.gif

Maybe so. I keep waiting for her to show up and start defending her honor. But then maybe she's smarter than I gave her credit for?

 

[heavyhitter01]

Maybe she's plotting her revenge on you.
DUN DUN DUUUUUUUUN!!! http://smiliesftw.com/x/ohnoes.gif

Revenge? My life has been far too boring. I'm not exactly revenge-worthy.

 

[heavyhitter01]

Oh no you don't! You have attempted a massive character assassination on TL... that's fairly revenge worthy.

Perhaps it's revenge-worthy, but what if there is nothing to use for ammunition? I'm not a saint, but I don't exactly have skeletons tumbling out of the closet either.