I should elaborate more. I want to learn how to give what I didn't to someone I already lost. Her hints were heard but never felt like the energy was right. Later I would hear that I was to involved in only my pleasures. I just needed a little guidance in the moment maybe. The answer in the moment was always I don't know what I want, think or feel. She couldn't guide and I was too worried to lead. Now she finding it for her own and I was too pushy to make her safe with me. I should have realized how important it was and stopped everything to figure it out but didn't realize what she really wanted. I want to learn now so I can give properly next time.
If you want to learn. Talk to her openly when you aren’t in the moment. Like when you are with her watching a movie at home.
Ask her what she wants, needs, desires. Most importantly LISTEN to what she’s saying. Don’t ask a question then while she’s telling you something be thinking of your next question.
Remember it’s a give and take. If you’re asking what she needs from you. Be open with her. Let her know what you want, need, desire.
