How to keep him interested

[rcfstl]

LOL...yeah I was, wasn't I?

Well, I did my best and so did he and we both loved every second of it. Such a sweet guy, he did everything right, including not rolling over and falling asleep. We talked a lot too, and that made it really special. And falling asleep with his arm around me! God, how did I ever do without this for 5 years?

Sheesh I feel so silly talking about this, but then you all gave me such good advice, I just feel I had to tell you I'm on cloud 9.

That is very sweet, I am happy for you

 

[KarenDee]

That is very sweet, I am happy for you

Thanks hon...now don't forget to clear out your message box once in a while so my notes don't get kicked back!

 

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[KarenDee]

I'm glad things went well for you.

Thanks! All your words are so nice, it means a lot to me and I feel like I've finally climbed out of a dark hole that I'd been in for way too long!

 

[Alistair E]

Caution

Let me introduce a wee note of caution.

Karen, you have been hurt before, and I, for one will be delighted if you have found some happiness, even if it should be proved to be brief.

However, you have bared your soul in a rather public place and asked advice of strangers. I don't know if you have told your friend that you are giving a round by round commentary of your doings. It may well be that you have and that he is in agreement with your actions.

This is not a small community, and, there must be thousands of unregistered visitors.

We know your lover's occupation, we know lots about you. What if one of his colleagues choses to while away the long nightshift hours surfing the net and puts two and two together? How might this affect things between you?

I suggest that you keep your obvious elation to yourself and that what happens within your bedroom walls should stay there.

I am sure that we all want you to find happpiness.

Alistair

 

[KarenDee]

Let me introduce a wee note of caution.

Karen, you have been hurt before, and I, for one will be delighted if you have found some happiness, even if it should be proved to be brief.

However, you have bared your soul in a rather public place and asked advice of strangers. I don't know if you have told your friend that you are giving a round by round commentary of your doings. It may well be that you have and that he is in agreement with your actions.

This is not a small community, and, there must be thousands of unregistered visitors.

We know your lover's occupation, we know lots about you. What if one of his colleagues choses to while away the long nightshift hours surfing the net and puts two and two together? How might this affect things between you?

I suggest that you keep your obvious elation to yourself and that what happens within your bedroom walls should stay there.

I am sure that we all want you to find happpiness.

Alistair

Thank you for your concern. Names and places have been changed to protect the innocent. I did not just fall off the turnip truck.

 

[naxalite0906]

I personally dont see the problem karen.. its not like you did or said anything to hurt anyone.. Why not share how happy you are, because if it comes back to him then he knows how happy you are too.. even though he probably already does by now anyway..

He is a very lucky guy karen... I am very pleased for you
Guess I won't be needing these now *deletes emails saved for karen*

I wish you all the happiness you deserve

 

[Eilan]

We know your lover's occupation, we know lots about you. What if one of his colleagues choses to while away the long nightshift hours surfing the net and puts two and two together? How might this affect things between you?

I'd wonder why one of his colleagues was looking at an adult site at work, particularly at a law-enforcement agency. And if said person decided to hold that over Karen's friend's head, then I think that knowing that he/she was surfing for porn at work would be a pretty handy little bargaining chip.

I suggest that you keep your obvious elation to yourself and that what happens within your bedroom walls should stay there.

You're certainly entitled to your opinion. You'd better get cracking, because there are quite a few posters on Lit who talk about their sex lives. I'm sure they could use your words of wisdom.

Lit's a community. A lot of us share our victories, no matter how big or small they might be.

And, no offense here, but you've made the majority of your posts in AmPics. Is what Karen's doing by starting this thread somehow more wrong than a bunch of people showing off their bodies in various states of undress?

 

[TBKahuna123]

OK, as a guy, here's my take pretending I'm not a normal Lit poster and I'm not sexually openminded.

I find out the woman I jsut started dating is posting about us on this board. These are the things she says...

1.) Now a new man has entered my life. I've had two wonderful dates with him. To be honest, I'm really not apprehensive about when the sex might start, or how to handle it when it does. What I'd really like is just some down to earth advice on how to treat this guy so that I don't drive him away.

2.) He keeps leaving me wanting more...I think that's good.

3.) LOL...you can't tell I'm excited! Have not stopped smiling since we first met.

4.) Things are progressing nicely...we both love each other's company. Well at least I do...and the handholding and a couple of kisses leads me to believe he does too.

5.) Wow! Marrying? My god, I just met the guy. Farthest thing from my mind is marriage right now. Not sure where you got that idea.

6.) Let's just say that Karen is a very, very VERY happy girl.

7.) Well, I did my best and so did he and we both loved every second of it. Such a sweet guy, he did everything right, including not rolling over and falling asleep. We talked a lot too, and that made it really special. And falling asleep with his arm around me! God, how did I ever do without this for 5 years?

Sheesh I feel so silly talking about this, but then you all gave me such good advice, I just feel I had to tell you I'm on cloud 9.


Now as a guy, I can't find anything in here that wouldn't make my ego inflate about tenfold! The rest of the board might freak me out a bit, but that's an issue to be worked out regardless, but nothing on this board that was said about our dating would have upset me. I would be flattered to the n-th degree.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Now as a guy, I can't find anything in here that wouldn't make my ego inflate about tenfold! The rest of the board might freak me out a bit, but that's an issue to be worked out regardless, but nothing on this board that was said about our dating would have upset me. I would be flattered to the n-th degree.

Especially when she picks up little tips to make your eyes roll in the back of your head while you're fucking...

 

[TBKahuna123]

Especially when she picks up little tips to make your eyes roll in the back of your head while you're fucking...

Well, there's that too.

 

[KarenDee]

Well, to clear the air a bit more, I showed him (he will always be referred to as "him" or some such to avoid using his name, though I could give him an alias) this website this weekend. I had talked to him about it previously and mentioned that I had nice friends here and enjoyed my time spent on the forum. I showed him anything he wanted to see, including many of my posts, and this entire thread here as well. Like Kahuna says, I got the feeling he was delighted (though maybe slightly embarrassed) when he read some of the things, but only to the point where he actually said, "Wow, you wrote so many nice things about me!" And later when he held my hand in his, I could feel a lot closer bond, a sense that his touch on me meant so much more. No, I can't describe it very well, but if you've ever had that feeling when someone close touches you...you just know. You don't need words, its just "there!"

And too, we've had discussions about posting on the web and we both know how much fun it is to develop friendships online, and at the same time maintain an air of anonymity, and not divulging too much. I've been careful to do just that:

1. I am a middle-aged single woman, though my name is not really "Karen."
2. I am located in the northeast US, but I will not give you GPS readings on my exact location.
3. I have 2 children, though their sexes and ages may vary from day to day, depending on how much I trust you (or myself).
4. My "dating friend" is involved with serving the public, and that's as far as I will go.
5. None of my avatars to this point have been actual photographs of me (sorry, apologies to those who have fantasized that they were).

Now if Alistair thinks he would care to try tracking me down or that I am supplying enough information for anyone close to me to notice that it might be who I really am, I think he is WAY off base. But I'll let it go at that.

Alistair, don't always believe everything you read or see on the internet. You're taking things way too personally.

 

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[KarenDee]

The real question is, did you use the cuffs?

Hides marks on wrist Shhhhhh...dammit!

 

[midwestyankee]

<snip>

5. None of my avatars to this point have been actual photographs of me (sorry, apologies to those who have fantasized that they were).

<snip>

Now, how can I ever believe anything you say from here on in? This is the dealbreaker for me, KD. Anyone who uses a photo of someone else in his or her avatar is a shameless liar and ought to have all Intenet privileges revoked.

After all, the Net is the last bastion of honesty, democracy, fair-mindedness, and rationality. If people won't even display their own photos, what hope is there?

 

[TBKahuna123]

1. I am a middle-aged single woman, though my name is not really "Karen."

See, maybe I'm just not as concerned about my privacy as everyone else, though I did abreviate my name. My full name is actually Thadius Bartholemeaux Kahuna.

After all, the Net is the last bastion of honesty, democracy, fair-mindedness, and rationality.

Ouch! My Spleen! Oh that was a good one. I mean, yeah you're right. You should believe everything you read on the internet!

 

[Eilan]

After all, the Net is the last bastion of honesty, democracy, fair-mindedness, and rationality. If people won't even display their own photos, what hope is there?

 

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[midwestyankee]

I'm so glad I made up my own version of spelling for the name Scalywag, since all of the correct versions were already taken. Before anyone can look me up in the phone book, they'll have to guess the right spelling.

Not only that, they'll have to find an imaginary phone book. A quick check of an online phone book shows no one named Scalywag in NH, NJ, NY, CA, or IL - all states where one could make an argument for finding a Scalywag. But, alas and alack, all the Scalywags in this country must have unlisted phone numbers.

Guess you're safe as rain, Scaly.

 

[KarenDee]

Not only that, they'll have to find an imaginary phone book. A quick check of an online phone book shows no one named Scalywag in NH, NJ, NY, CA, or IL - all states where one could make an argument for finding a Scalywag. But, alas and alack, all the Scalywags in this country must have unlisted phone numbers.

Guess you're safe as rain, Scaly.

I haven't found any "Sir Droopsalots" either. Maybe my phone book is out of date?

 

[midwestyankee]

I haven't found any "Sir Droopsalots" either. Maybe my phone book is out of date?

Try the 14th Century edition if you can find one.

 

[KarenDee]

No humorous reply here...just an unabashed post to pad my total and get my count to 400...woo hoo!

 

[midwestyankee]

No humorous reply here...just an unabashed post to pad my total and get my count to 400...woo hoo!

Nice going...only three more weeks and you'll have a custom title.

 

[KarenDee]

Nice going...only three more weeks and you'll have a custom title.

Oh swell...geez, can't I at least get some monetary benefits out of it? I suppose pleading and whining won't do any good?

 

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