How to introduce the idea of using a dildo/strap on on a guy?

[Cirrus]

My partner and I were joking around the other day, and I told him not to try to put anything in my ass he wouldn't want in his. He said he already hadn't, and long story short, he said he'd be "open to trying" receiving anal from me.

Now, I know the same rules hold true for a guy as with a girl...go slow, start gradually, use LOTS of lube and then use more, stop or back off if it hurts, listen to the receiving partner's wishes and all of that cool stuff, but are there any special considerations when the receiving partner is a hetero male receiving anal from a hetero woman?

I like this idea...even though I don't have a dominant bone in my body, it would be a fun thing to do to spice up those more vanilla moments, I think. I'm just really not sure how to make the transition between him being "open to trying" and actually doing.

 

[Guest]

what is there to introduce? It sounds like he already introduced the idea (asked for it).

Although, you mentioned that you don't have a dom side - could you play a dom for a night or even better for a weekend?

As a man, I know that there is noting sexier than a when a woman takes control. Makes me do things that I would otherwise feel a bit uneasy about. She is giving you the go ahead to do the kinky things that we all think about.

A suggestion would be to read some of the stories involving women taking men with strapons and being in control for ideas. It is also very sexy making a man suck on your strapon. I know that it was extemely exciting when my wife made me get on my knees and suck her "cock". She was really acting the part, calling me a cock sucking whore and a slut. She finished it off by making me jerkoff for her on her "cock" and then I had to lick it clean.

She later put me over her knee and spanked me. After the spanking she made me lay across her knee and she finger fucked me slowly while she was watching a porn video of a women fucking a man with a strapon. After loosening me up with her fingers she took me with the strapon. Most fun thing we had done up to that point.

It was very exciting but like you she is not very dominant and this is just something that we play at once in a while.

 

[Merelan]

Hmmm... sounds familiar.

And again, I knew he wanted it before he brought it up. But I waited and teased, and touched and tickled there till he brought it up. Oncwe he did, I intensified the play, finger etc. Then while playing with a small vibrator touched him with it there.
From there it is slowly progressing, till the other day. I ordered a new toy, and let him know I had.
A double sided vibrating strap on.
It came in the mail. Without batteries. I opened it in front of him and we looked at it together, making fun of the chicks on the cover I might add.
Then handed it to him.

"Think about it. But I can't use it till you buy the batteries." Then changed the subject.
That night he handed me the batteries.
Haven
t had time yet, though god knows we both think of it. But being retail managers and with all going on with family right now, there isn't time.

And I want time for it. Lots of time.

Good Luck!

 

[TxBelle]

Hmmm... sounds familiar.


"Think about it. But I can't use it till you buy the batteries." Then changed the subject.
That night he handed me the batteries.

Good Luck!

What a great idea on how to bring that into your play and put him in the position of letting you know how serious he is.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Hmmm... sounds familiar.

And I want time for it. Lots of time.

Good Luck!

Wow... hope you will fill us in when this does happen

PBW

 

[Merelan]

Details?
Well, what do I get?

Besides the sick sweet pleasure of sharing naughty things.

wink. I shall share, after all, it's all ya'll's fault we are stepping on this path.

 

[pierced_boy]

don't start with preconceived ideas

With out making this too personnal and too much of an account let me say these things

Anal play for a guy can be lots of fun/pleasure

Lube (said before)

fingers are best to start

understand what you are getting into (the enatomy sorry anatomy)

Men can(if relaxed and into it) climax from stimulation of the anus and perinum mainly via preasure and friction of the prostrate and ass ociated structures Even without an erection. Very very cool indeed and invigortating too!!!

If you want to go bigger, work up to it but work out what you want to stimulate. Is it you or him?

If the idea is to see a huge item in his bum then work towards that. If it is to make him walk the ceiling for you , well something smaller, carefully driven will most likely do.


your arsociate

Harry

 

[P. B. Walker]

Details?
Well, what do I get?

Besides the sick sweet pleasure of sharing naughty things.

wink. I shall share, after all, it's all ya'll's fault we are stepping on this path.

Mmm what do you get... well if I'm ever in a position where I can share the same experience (me having a strap-on used on me) then I will definitely share it with you. How's that? <grin>


Now, I'm not saying this *will definitely* happen, just saying if it does, I'll share it with ya

PBW

 

[JeanMarc31M]

I'd suggest that the woman just ask. But keep in mind that many people will equate anal sex on (in) the male to homosexuality.

The concensus here seems to be that it is just another joy to be shared.

Coming to Lit. I know I am not alone in having this fantasy.

 

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