How to get man to shave?

[BrendaBelle]

I am meeting my college b/f in a few weeks for an, umm..., "tryst". We've gotten together twice in the last 3 years. He doesnt live near me, and we are both married.

In the past meetings, everything has been great, for the most part. He's kind of on the small side, but he gets it up, keeps it up, and can get it up and cum 4 times in one night. He's in his mid 40s, so I think that's pretty good (in my limited experience with him and my husband).

I don't think his wife ever goes down on him, b/c he came as soon as his cock was halfway in my mouth. I hadn't even started! That was the first BJ of the evening. The 2nd one, a few hours later, he lasted longer, but he was holding my head and pushing it into my crotch. He was trying not to be too aggressive about it, and I gently pushed back, and he got the hint.

I love LOVE the smell of his balls and the taste of his cum, BUT I do not like a mouthful of pubes! Is there any way I can tactfully bring up the fact that I would love him to shave? BJs would be SO much more enjoyable for both of us if he did. It would be even better if I could convince him that shaving was HIS idea.

Any suggestions?

 

[Lord Pmann]

I'm going to say this... The first way for this guy to get caught is to do something out of the ordinary. If your husband all of a sudden started shaving his pubes, wouldn't you be suspect? Not saying I'm pro you two cheating, just saying it is a sure fire way to make his wife suspect.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Tell him that you had been watching some porn and the guy was shaved. You found that really hot and just the thought of it turns you on.

If you don't think he's the shaving type, or for reasons of keeping your trysts secret from your collective S.O.'s, you can suggest the same thing about nicely trimmed pubes being a turn on. If he only trims, that will limit the hair in your mouth and he won't have to try to hide anything from his partner.

 

[imemkay]

Pmann is right....

The minute he does anything out of the ordinary (even just a little trim) the wife WILL notice (unless she isn't having sex w/her husband) and he WILL be busted. Wives are not stupid! She might choose to overlook it, but please, don't think he'd be pulling one over on her.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

You need to forget about him shaving this year. The best you can do is tell him that it is an issue for you, and have him work on getting his jungle whacked before next year's tryst. If he does it all at once, it is is a giant red flag. If he gradually takes it down over the space of a year, and includes his wife in the discussion, it just might work. ("Hey honey, if I trimmed my nads a little, is it possible you might blow me once in a while? Still not interested? Well, I'm gonna give it a shot and we'll see what happens".)

 

[dashd]

The minute he does anything out of the ordinary (even just a little trim) the wife WILL notice (unless she isn't having sex w/her husband) and he WILL be busted. Wives are not stupid! She might choose to overlook it, but please, don't think he'd be pulling one over on her.

I agree... now talk to my wife and get her to let me shave/trim down there. I find it more comfortable but she doesn't like it shaved or trimmed.

 

[Eilan]

Gag, choke, and make a huge show of pulling pubes out of your teeth. He'll get the hint.

 

[amofiga]

Tell him to trim and not shave. I doubt that his wife would notice as long as he doesn't go for the crewcut look; especially if she doesn't give him blowjobs as you suggested. Getting the long buggers cut so they don't poke you in the eye is a good idea.

On the other point, messing with a married man is tricky at best, disasterous at worst. Been there done that (as the married man) and it almost cost me my marriage. It did end up costing time, a near nervous breakdown, and lots of money for marriage counselors, not to mention the lawyer to take the "psycho girlfriend" to court to enforce the restraining order she continually violated after she attacked me with a knife. I will admit, a little fun on the side is quite appealing and quite erotic, but knowing what I know now, it's not worth it. If you can keep your emotional distance and handle an affair as an affair and not a permanent relationship, it could work for you if that's what you guys want. However, one of my "affairs" ended up with the psycho bitch from "Fatal Attraction". That movie wasn't too far off where some people are concerned.

 

[Wyldfire]

Ahh hell, I tried to be nice here..... By not posting..... But with todays Bitchqueen mood there's no helping it.


rant

Okay, nice as I can say it. May you both lose the spouse you have. They deserve better than you. I sincerely hope there are no children involved in anyway in this as they do not deserve to be subjegated to this sort of behavior. You dear are a cheating slut that deserves so much worse than sharp words. The fuckwit involved deserves just as much.

May you both be caught in the act by your spouses and dragged through nasty messy public divorces (Again, unless there are kids in the relationships). Then they may be quiet but very very messy divorces with loss of custody and child support payments that beggar you both.

/rant..........

 

[shiny5437]

May you both be caught in the act by your spouses and dragged through nasty messy pubic divorces

Childish but couldn't resist.

And if he is willing to take the risk maybe you could shave each other - sort of kinky.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Ahh hell, I tried to be nice here..... By not posting..... But with todays Bitchqueen mood there's no helping it.


rant

Okay, nice as I can say it. May you both lose the spouse you have. They deserve better than you. I sincerely hope there are no children involved in anyway in this as they do not deserve to be subjegated to this sort of behavior. You dear are a cheating slut that deserves so much worse than sharp words. The fuckwit involved deserves just as much.

May you both be caught in the act by your spouses and dragged through nasty messy public divorces (Again, unless there are kids in the relationships). Then they may be quiet but very very messy divorces with loss of custody and child support payments that beggar you both.

/rant..........

Is anyone else confused about her stance here? Whose side is she on?

 

[Wyldfire]

Is anyone else confused about her stance here? Whose side is she on?

I'm on the side of the unsuspecting spouses that Hoochiewhore and her boytoy are cheating on...........

 

[Wyldfire]

Childish but couldn't resist.

And if he is willing to take the risk maybe you could shave each other - sort of kinky.

Yes, yes I am.... I'll have you know I resemble that remark......

 

[texasm31]

I love LOVE the smell of his balls and the taste of his cum, BUT I do not like a mouthful of pubes! Is there any way I can tactfully bring up the fact that I would love him to shave? BJs would be SO much more enjoyable for both of us if he did. It would be even better if I could convince him that shaving was HIS idea.

Any suggestions?

I shave, you can just blow me instead

 

[BrendaBelle]

Thanks for the input everyone! As to the change in shaving, I have thought about that. B/f just needs to ask his wife if she'd mind if he shaved. She'll either say "yes" or "I don't care", and then he says I want to try it...I hear the sensations are better. I also agree that it's too late for this year.

Wildfyre-You sound like a bitter old hag. What the heck is a "poly family"? Polygamy? Well of course you would be bitter. I would be too if I had to share my man with a bunch of "sister wives". Eww. A woman with lots of husbands? I might enjoy that!

My college b/f and I live thousands of miles apart. We see each other once a year if we are lucky. There's VIRTUALLY no chance of us getting caught, but I know that there is no such thing as a ZERO chance. Yes, we feel a little guilty, but our spouses aren't saints either.

We are both atheists, and don't believe in an afterlife or a judgemental god(s). Atheists are not amoral or immoral. Giving up Catholicism was the most freeing thing I ever did. I consider myself a humanist - treat other people and the environment with the respect and care that you'd like to be treated with yourself.

 

[BrendaBelle]

She's a bitter old hag. If she can't be happy, she wants everyone else to be miserable. Oh well. Her problem. Not mine. Not yours.

Is anyone else confused about her stance here? Whose side is she on?

Childish but couldn't resist.

And if he is willing to take the risk maybe you could shave each other - sort of kinky.

 

[Wyldfire]

Thanks for the input everyone! As to the change in shaving, I have thought about that. B/f just needs to ask his wife if she'd mind if he shaved. She'll either say "yes" or "I don't care", and then he says I want to try it...I hear the sensations are better. I also agree that it's too late for this year.

Wildfyre-You sound like a bitter old hag. What the heck is a "poly family"? Polygamy? Well of course you would be bitter. I would be too if I had to share my man with a bunch of "sister wives". Eww. A woman with lots of husbands? I might enjoy that!

My college b/f and I live thousands of miles apart. We see each other once a year if we are lucky. There's VIRTUALLY no chance of us getting caught, but I know that there is no such thing as a ZERO chance. Yes, we feel a little guilty, but our spouses aren't saints either.

We are both atheists, and don't believe in an afterlife or a judgemental god(s). Atheists are not amoral or immoral. Giving up Catholicism was the most freeing thing I ever did. I consider myself a humanist - treat other people and the environment with the respect and care that you'd like to be treated with yourself.

So thousands of miles makes it okay to cheat on your husband? Really?

 

[Wyldfire]

She's a bitter old hag. If she can't be happy, she wants everyone else to be miserable. Oh well. Her problem. Not mine. Not yours.

Oh darlin, if you only knew. This place is a sport for me. Not bitter. Hag? Depends on who you ask I guess. I mean I may share my husband with my girlfriend but hell, it's not cheating like some folks.......

What I find funny is your attitude about poly...... Here I am in a loving relationship with a man and a woman. You fly across country to cheat like a cheap whore. Seems to me the bitter one here is the cheating slutbag no?

 

[Lord Pmann]

 

[KierstH12]

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[Rob1514]

"... he was holding my head and pushing it into my crotch"

hmmmmm I wonder if I can get you in my suitcase

but seriously, he cums 4 times in a night with you, he will shave himself and anyone else you want him to.

 

[BrendaBelle]

thousands of miles does not "justify" infidelity. True. BUT it makes it much easier to avoid getting caught. If we don't get caught, who gets hurt, rhetorically?

 

[Wyldfire]

thousands of miles does not "justify" infidelity. True. BUT it makes it much easier to avoid getting caught. If we don't get caught, who gets hurt, rhetorically?

Really? If they don't see it it didn't happen? That's the best you got? Oh hell, I quit..... Too stupid to argue with!

 

[rbone04]

So... Safe to say this thread isn't making the sticky manual under "Shaving"?

 

[amofiga]

Do you not see the irony in this statement? Cheating on your spouse is not respectful or caring.

I am sure you find ways to justify cheating, but justifications will never heal the wounds of the ones you hurt. You are purposefully making a decision that destroys your character and your family.

People who cheat are masters of justification. I had a thousand justifications for what I was doing wrong but was too blind (or two selfish) to see it as justification and not reason. Humans are weak creatures. We are good at justifying our own positions to satisfy our own needs but find it difficult to see the reason for seeing to the needs of others. It takes nearly getting killed and having our lives wrecked for some of us to have our eyes opened.