We are new to this and looking for people with experience to help guide us into this lifestyle. We are both in our early thirties. Our careers have taken us away from our family and friends. we would love to open our relationship to others now that we don’t have to worry about what family or friends would say. Please feel free to offer any advice
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jckontharocks
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Wife and I have had conversations about this. We live near ALL friends and family, pretty much buried it. We decided it was hot and fun to talk about.
A friend of mine whom confides in me. She pushed an open relationship with her husband. She was cheating once in a while With random guys, but wanted her husband to be okay with it. Long story short, finally, she talked him into an open relationship. She found a guy immediately and was having amazing sex with him quite often. The husband struggled and was empty handed for the better part of a year. She had fucked 2 guys hundreds of times before he got his first date.
Then the feelings of frustration began... They fought a lot. Then the weirdest thing happened. She stopped talking to me. I have no idea why. We've chatted a ton for years and she went MIA.
I'm not into dudes, but assuming that's your real picture, you are much better looking than he. I also assume you'd have more success finding dates.
Bigger cities, clubs meant for swinging, are probably your best bet.
My 2 cents. Your wife is going to get fucked sooner and more than you will for starters.
Make sure you can communicate through the frustrations.
A friend of mine whom confides in me. She pushed an open relationship with her husband. She was cheating once in a while With random guys, but wanted her husband to be okay with it. Long story short, finally, she talked him into an open relationship. She found a guy immediately and was having amazing sex with him quite often. The husband struggled and was empty handed for the better part of a year. She had fucked 2 guys hundreds of times before he got his first date.
Then the feelings of frustration began... They fought a lot. Then the weirdest thing happened. She stopped talking to me. I have no idea why. We've chatted a ton for years and she went MIA.
I'm not into dudes, but assuming that's your real picture, you are much better looking than he. I also assume you'd have more success finding dates.
Bigger cities, clubs meant for swinging, are probably your best bet.
My 2 cents. Your wife is going to get fucked sooner and more than you will for starters.
Make sure you can communicate through the frustrations.
OldSoldier96
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Jenn, you’re gorgeous. Good looking hubby but as above said, women get the majority of attention. You may begin slow with finding a couple and having sex in front of each other. Keeping all parties in play and build to soft swap and full swap.
Communication is key and the couples I’ve joined were fun due to that communication. Nothing kills fun that drama.
It’s all about what you both are comfortable with.
Communication is key and the couples I’ve joined were fun due to that communication. Nothing kills fun that drama.
It’s all about what you both are comfortable with.
Thank you so much for that advice. It’s really important for me to learn everything I can about this.Jenn, you’re gorgeous. Good looking hubby but as above said, women get the majority of attention. You may begin slow with finding a couple and having sex in front of each other. Keeping all parties in play and build to soft swap and full swap.
Communication is key and the couples I’ve joined were fun due to that communication. Nothing kills fun that drama.
It’s all about what you both are comfortable with.
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Baby steps worked for us. Put a profile on SLS what we were looking for, age, what we looked like, etc etc. Instead of looking for a single we were doing it as a couple....lots of singles on SLS. Met our first cpl 4 or 5 times for drinks or dinner got to know each other asked a million questions because they'd been in it for years. It was the 5th time we met when my wife said lets go for it. After that first time we met several cpls who didn't click and found the whole swinger crowd wanted to meet talk for 10 mins and fuck. We decided we'd had enough and stopped but don't jump right into it, slow and steady. I was way more into what my wife was doing than fucking their wife
OldSoldier96
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Yeah when I played, (was in Kentucky at the time) I wasn’t into “bed hopping “ but saw a lot of people that did in the LS. Each persons prerogative. I found a couple and would remain as an option for them for safety for everyone as well.
Badxxxwifey
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Omg you two are so hawt
Differentendeavours
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SLS is a great resource though it can feel like you've been unleashed in a giant couples candy store. Take your time. Be aware of aggressive people and make sure you both are enthusiastic about the choices you make. A swingers club would be great too.
Sgts19
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When I was single in the 1800's hooking up to fuck was a given but had enough of that to last a lifetime. As a couple I think both husband and wife should feel some attraction to the other single or couple. It would suck if one had a great time and the other hated itYeah when I played, (was in Kentucky at the time) I wasn’t into “bed hopping “ but saw a lot of people that did in the LS. Each persons prerogative. I found a couple and would remain as an option for them for safety for everyone as well.
OldSoldier96
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Getting that connection with the couple was as amazing as the sex imo. I do believe it’s easier with finding singles vs couples.
OldSoldier96
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IKR, should have no problem finding fun.
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You two are a beautiful couple!
Thank you for the advice
You’re right about that
tammyrose27
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Yes baby steps is a must, especially if your into a relationship. Jealousy can become a big problem if you don't do it right. I suggest at the start dinners with others and getting to know them. Then maybe swapping partners and go out for dinner or events and see how you feel about your spouse getting romantic and being with your spouse, holding hands and kissing, maybe petting. But not sexually with another person.
Trust and communication are a big key to the success of doing it. Because if you get it wrong it can be a relationship killer. I've seen it happen to many times.
All the best and enjoy. Because it is a lot of fun when you get it right. Just be careful.
Take care Tammy.
Trust and communication are a big key to the success of doing it. Because if you get it wrong it can be a relationship killer. I've seen it happen to many times.
All the best and enjoy. Because it is a lot of fun when you get it right. Just be careful.
Take care Tammy.
The other thing to determine is what you want from it. Are you both in it for the same thing - do you want to see his cock in another woman or just have him stroke and watch while you get it on for example? Are there any bisexual feelings and you want to try MMF, MFF, etc? Do you have boundaries and aims - things you won't do versus things you hope to achieve - no anal, versus watching Jenn take three cocks at once for example? Make sure you're very clear on all aspects. We had a wonderful threesome with a friend of Mrs AW's many years ago and it just felt right. We're not looking for a repeat but if sex with one or more other people happens, we will go with the flow.
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We’re currently on a similar journey. We’ve been discussing it for years but have now made come plans and will visit our first swingers club in a few weeks as a fact finding mission. We don’t intend to go beyond discussed limits this time but it’s about making sure we are both happy and comfortable.
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AriesAngyl
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For me it happened with a bf, I wasn’t married. He liked the fantasy of seeing me with someone.
We talked about it. We roleplayed it. And then…he brought a friend from work home with him.
I had met him before. I know him, not well, but we were friendly. We had some wine, music on and as the night went on flirting graduated to touching and I had my 1st experience being shared.
Although nervous at 1st about having someone else touch me in front of my bf. He encouraged me and it felt natural as the night went on.
Very erotic experience and one of many to come with his friend.
We talked about it. We roleplayed it. And then…he brought a friend from work home with him.
I had met him before. I know him, not well, but we were friendly. We had some wine, music on and as the night went on flirting graduated to touching and I had my 1st experience being shared.
Although nervous at 1st about having someone else touch me in front of my bf. He encouraged me and it felt natural as the night went on.
Very erotic experience and one of many to come with his friend.
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Unapologetic_Bull
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I agree with others here. Coming at it as a guy who is a third for married couples, communication is key.
Before you begin you need rules in place about what happens on first meetings to what is OK when intimate with another man. For example, is kissing OK? Some wives I've met reserve that for the husband only.
Before you begin you need rules in place about what happens on first meetings to what is OK when intimate with another man. For example, is kissing OK? Some wives I've met reserve that for the husband only.
