How to get a woman to reply to a PM

[78falcon]

Can I offer another perspective. I receive many poms from men. I married happily. However I have a keen interest in women.
Blokes, I'm sorry to say.... You've just got the wrong bits.

On another note. I recieved a memorable pm from a bloke who impressed me so much that I wish I'd replied.
He complimented my writing . A very generous comment I admit.m
There was another comment but nothing crass.
It was simple and eloquent. With appeal

 

[Aphro]

I'm going to help you out girls. Some of you send PMs with no response, making you (I imagine) more frustrated and dejected. I'm going to go through what I do when I get a PM:

1. If it's a picture of your breasts, I reply.

2. If you can spell, I reply.

Er, that's about it.

And if it's a message with breasts AND great grammar...what does this guarantee a female PMer?

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Stop with the unsolicited dick pics- I will not (and most women will not) answer those!

Also, don't just tell me about your dick. Like...no. Eventually I may want to know more, but please.

ok what would you like to know along with my description of my dick?




I do like ice cream and motorcycles

 

[auralforelectra]

I don't know about anyone else, but this is what I do:

1. I look at the username, previous threads, and previous posts as clues as to whether or not this person is capable of giving me an awesome sexual or nonsexual time.

2. If they're my cup of tea sexually, I'll forgive a short pm. Who cares as long as they're into what I'm into? I type 92wpm. Maybe they hate it. I don't judge quantity but quality.

3. If they're thoughtful/interesting/hilarious they are instantly forgiven.

I feel like I understand what the OP is saying, but I think for me it's that sending me a mediocre pm indicates that either you think I'm mediocre and I'll respond to your crumbs or worse that you as the sender are super lame. In both instances I'm not interested in participating further.

 

[Ramp1311]

I very rarely PM. The few that I have done were to ask a question, or to comment to somebody when I thought the board was getting to them (making them upset or angry). I mostly read the posts or look around and do not comment. However, I have been known to post my opinion (not that anyone really cares... )....

I do like this place, as people are cussing, fussing and discussing the issues of the day.

 

[LadyCypris]

Personally, I would say my rule of thumb is the same online as in real life: just talk to me like a person. Just because my fetish is nonconsent, doesn't mean I like being talked down to, at least not as an opening gambit.

In the context of Literotica, I don't need to know you like fish and chips and taking long hikes right off the bat, necessarily. But letting me know what your specific fetishes or discussing scenarios does make it much more likely that I'll respond to you.

 

[SquirtnBrat]

How To Get A BRAT ToReply...

First I look at age. If the other person is 18-21, I usually won't reply unless they introduce themselves in a witty or fantastical way that makes me see them as an equal and not a hipster youngster.
Secondly I forgive type-os. It's the internet. Sometimes we type too fast or type one handed, so some mistakes are forgiven. But if you have written a paragraph where I need to read it twice and I still can't figure out your thought, I won't reply.
Thirdly A compliment goes a long way. Most people don't know how to take a compliment. They give reasons to contradict the compliment or shrug it off. I will always reply back with a Thank You. A kind word and positive energy go a long way with me.
Finally mention my profile or a post I have made. It will make me curious about your profile or posts as well. Which leads me to checking you out and replying back.

 

[boutrosboutros]

And if it's a message with breasts AND great grammar...what does this guarantee a female PMer?

Christ, I don't know. It hasn't happened yet. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

 

[Goodgirljenny]

I'm rather new here but agree with most of what Squirtenbrat said above. I always try to at least say thank you to a compliment and only ignore the random, hi how are yous, that come from someone with zero posts. Those I feel are just not even attempting to know me, and feel like a piece of junk mail. Those that read my profile, or simply welcome me, I try to respond to as I have time.

 

[stickygirl]

Hi Jenny: welcome to Lit
and yea - I go along with yours and Brats comments. You'd think it was a no-brainer yet still...

...and Boutros: those weren't women PMing you

 

[bertiestar]

God bless you girl

 

[stickygirl]

God bless you girl

Yeay - another virgin welcome to Lit as well Bertie

 

[ChastitySmith]

Thanks for this thread. Been watching it since it began, but was- is- having a difficult time formulating a reply. I was going to write that I think any man wanting a reply from a woman should just read this entire thread. But as threads here seem to last for years, with hundreds of posts, that will quickly become impossible.

What I hate to read in a PM from a guy and will guarantee that he won't get a reply?

He writes nothing but the words he has already used in the dozen posts he has made in the past week. (Hi, I am new to this site and seeking new friends)

He wants to see me naked. (Will you send pics and do cam?)

He doesn't read our (yes, 'our') bio and realize both my husband and I use this same account.

He does read our bio, sees that my husband likes to play sub, and thinks he can start topping my guy.

He has no bio himself and has only ever made three word reply on threads. (mentioned here by other women).

That's all I got.

 

[tinkerbells14]

Today is my first day here and I have started getting messages like " wanna watch me stroke" ,
" Can you splash some magic dust on me" .lol.
Messages like these make one sick.Yes, this is an adult site but one need to INTRODUCE himself first. If you can't have a proper conversation you have no right to fill anyone's inbox with this junk.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I get PMs from gals selling pix of their goodies.

 

[stickygirl]

Today is my first day here and I have started getting messages like " wanna watch me stroke" ,
" Can you splash some magic dust on me" .lol.
Messages like these make one sick.Yes, this is an adult site but one need to INTRODUCE himself first. If you can't have a proper conversation you have no right to fill anyone's inbox with this junk.

Welcome to Lit... I've been here ages but what the hell is magic dust?! Please feel free to PM and explain

I get PMs from gals selling pix of their goodies.

Yeah and you're always trying to haggle the price down you tight git so I just cut off the boobs to spite you. BTW Did you get the ones of me with the goat yet?

 

[boutrosboutros]

Hi Jenny: welcome to Lit
and yea - I go along with yours and Brats comments. You'd think it was a no-brainer yet still...

...and Boutros: those weren't women PMing you

It doesn't really matter so long as I'm getting pictures of breasts.

 

[stickygirl]

It doesn't really matter so long as I'm getting pictures of breasts.

Quite so! Maybe I'll send you some to balance things up huh?

 

[boutrosboutros]

Quite so! Maybe I'll send you some to balance things up huh?

If you're going to send me pictures of breasts, how could I complain?

 

[sweet_lusciousdesire]

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[boutrosboutros]

Sounds like you're easy..

Extremely easy. I'm a man.

 

[boutrosboutros]

With that AV I am surprised you are not inundated with boobs.

I'm surprised too. How dare all those women out there not inundate me with boobs? is what I think on a daily, nay hourly, basis.

 

[boutrosboutros]

Understood. It's really quite rude.

Isn't it, though? So... I'm waiting.

 

[insincere]

Good advice

Hi everyone, I found some interesting advice in here. Thanks