How to find your kink

[Bored357]

Mwf 45 menopause, midlife crisis, boredom one of these things has me exploring my sexuality. How did u first discover your fetish/kink that was your ultimate turn on? Trying new things on lit all the time but something still missing

 

[masterslave00]

Perhaps duplicating this?

https://forum.literotica.com/thread...-to-your-current-fetish-or-fantasies.1613860/

 

[Britva415]

something still missing

What is it?

You might get somewhere if you investigate what it is you want to feel, rather than focusing on what are the things you haven't tried and seeing if they'll do it for you. If you can name what it is you want, that's a good start for figuring out whether there's a partner who can help you achieve those feelings. It's probably more about the partner than about the particular acts or props.

 

[LMWM321]

Selective porn viewing can help. Seeing new things being done, using toys you've never tried.

Giving yourself permission and encouragement to fantasize. Sharing these fantasies with your partner...

I hate self-help books ALMOST as much as I hate seeing the dentist. But this one was a god send for my wife and I.

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

Also... If you're curious, see my post in a thread about a sexless relationship. It's about my wife's and my journey back to enjoying sex after her menopause.

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/sexless-relationship-support.1614474/#post-99286620

 

[Bored357]

What is it?

You might get somewhere if you investigate what it is you want to feel, rather than focusing on what are the things you haven't tried and seeing if they'll do it for you. If you can name what it is you want, that's a good start for figuring out whether there's a partner who can help you achieve those feelings. It's probably more about the partner than about the particular acts or props.

If I knew what was missing I'd add it to my sex life...lol. married so guess I'm want to feel the excitement again, to be wanted...sigh