How To Express Love

[SweetErika]

We've had multiple threads on "WOWing" a loved one on special occasions, but how do you express your love for your significant other and/or friends on those special and regular days? How has someone expressed their love for you?

 

[Tap-Out]

We've had multiple threads on "WOWing" a loved one on special occasions, but how do you express your love for your significant other and/or friends on those special and regular days? How has someone expressed their love for you?

Well aside from looking at the "WOWing" threads and just doing it at the normal times here are a couple suggestions from this particular guy's point of view.

Basically, and as simple as this may sound, listen to your guy/friends. If they come home after a long day and you see them rubbing thier neck or shoulders, swat their hand away and take over from them. Also if he calls and says he's running late and you're home before them, have dinner ready, or even a snack to hold him over until it is. Heck even if you just dial up for a pizza it's all good. I know that may sound "stereotypical" but I tell ya there's definatly something to be said comming home to ready food after a long nasty day at work.

It's also the little things. If you and he are just lazing around on a Sunday just watching tv or something, snuggle up to him on the sofa. At completely random times through the day while you're together, grab him and give him a nice passionate kiss "just because". Compliment him from time to time on anything and everything. Is he wearing a cologne you like? Does his hair look good? Let him know.

On the flip side if it's just a friend you want to show your appreciation for, meet them for luch. I've done this from time to time and it seems to work quite well. If you haven't seen them for a while call them on Wednesday or so and tell them that the two of you are taking them out to lunch on Friday and you're not taking no for an answer. If they're not free for lunch go to an evening movie. You'd be suprised how lovely just meeting up with a friend at the end of your week can be. Espically if they know about it around mid week it really gives them something to look forward to through the week.

I'm sure there's a million more things I'm forgetting to mention here, but at least this may be a starting point to get those gears in your pretty little head starting to turn.

Cheers

Tap

 

[SweetErika]

Great ideas...thank you, Tap! I hope you'll keep adding as more suggestions hit you.

 

[Tap-Out]

Great ideas...thank you, Tap! I hope you'll keep adding as more suggestions hit you.

Actuially just had a couple more ideas hit me.

Completely random breakfasts in bed. Always good for the SO, and we always return the favour.

Also when your friend or SO is sick, spend time with them. Keep bringing them liquids, or whatever else they need. Give them a hug every now and then and just let them know you're there for them. Don't avoid them like the plague just because they're ill.

 

[Bandit58]

Every day, little things like kisses, touches, smiles, jokes and laughter.
We tell each other "I love you" several times a day, and mean it every time.
At the moment he is ill and I am suffering from sleep deprivation, so this morning he sent me back to bed for another couple of hours.
When I returned from New Zealand after going back for my father's funeral, I walked in to find a vase of flowers and candles on our coffee table.
When I go shopping I bring him back his favourite pineapple donuts

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

i do alittle bit of what tap and bandit said daily

 

[silverwhisper]

usually, i make my wife breakfast in bed on the weekends, although of late, she's been taking over: her scrambled eggs are better than mine.

i haven't done this in a while, but during my 1 hour train ride, i have written my wife love letters. it's probably the single best use of my time when i'm there. :>

i tell her how beautiful she is often. she never believes me, sadly, but that doesn't preclude its being true.

for friends: i tell them periodically how much their advice and comfort mean to me. i'm big on sincerity.

ed

 

[Saucyminx]

My favorite thing he does for me is, he gets in bed first and warms up my side so I don't freeze to death. I totally love that. He also lets me sleep in on Sunday mornings while he takes care of the kids.

I still slip naughty notes into his truck in the mornings, and we call each other many times during the day. I just like to hear his voice.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm getting all sorts of new ideas, so thank you very much to everyone who has contributed thus far!

I make an extra effort to give lots of sincere compliments and tell him how important he is throughout the day in person, on the phone, or e-mail.

I try to take stress out of his life, whether it's taking over some of his chores, making appointments, giving him a massage, or getting him a cup of tea.

When I'm cold, he puts my icy hands and feet on his bare skin until they're warmed up.

He invites me to snuggle even when he may not really want or need to.

 

[Guest]

There are so many ways, but I have to tell people---never go to bed mad. You are not promised tomorrow. Communicate and try to work things out.

 

[Quoll]

It kind of sounds lame to say all of the above, but it`s true, a random cuddle, an unexpected kiss, a friendly pat as you walk past, it is the little things that make someone feel loved, actually "feel loved" is probably poor terminology.
It is the little things that are done out of genuine love that makes your SO know they are loved.
For special days, I feel you cannot go past words, you don`t have to be a poet or a writer, simply write down how your SO makes you feel, the things they do that make you know you are loved. The thoughts that come into your mind when you see them, we all like to be appreciated and noticed, let them know that they are.

For friends, listen to them when they talk, I mean actually "listen".
I prefer to do something personal for my friends, something I know they like. To send a card or similar is nice, but to send a picture or card that you have specifically made with them in mind, something that shows that you were thinking of them, that you know what they like and are interested in.

Say 'I love you" just because you do.

 

[Cakegirl]

People like to know that they're appreciated, and I try to tell people all the time. I try to be a "good finder" - that is, finding the good wherever it is. This counts for friends, lovers, family, etc...

"Thank you for going out of your way to meet me today..."
"That was very thoughtful of you to stop in at the shop this afternoon..."
"I appreciate the way you help me at training; you always come up with techniques that work for me..."

 

[SweetErika]

It kind of sounds lame to say all of the above, but it`s true, a random cuddle, an unexpected kiss, a friendly pat as you walk past, it is the little things that make someone feel loved, actually "feel loved" is probably poor terminology.
It is the little things that are done out of genuine love that makes your SO know they are loved.
For special days, I feel you cannot go past words, you don`t have to be a poet or a writer, simply write down how your SO makes you feel, the things they do that make you know you are loved. The thoughts that come into your mind when you see them, we all like to be appreciated and noticed, let them know that they are.

For friends, listen to them when they talk, I mean actually "listen".
I prefer to do something personal for my friends, something I know they like. To send a card or similar is nice, but to send a picture or card that you have specifically made with them in mind, something that shows that you were thinking of them, that you know what they like and are interested in.

Say 'I love you" just because you do.

Well said, quoll.

 

[HybridCrow]

As a writer, I used to write letters to girls that I am really interested in. I even wrote a letter to my childhood sweetheart. To be honest, it was great writing, but it didn't work out. The last few times, I pretty much got laughed at. The one to my childhood sweetheart was for nothing. It turns out I had been living a lie anyways. I THOUGHT she liked me since we were kids, but newp. Her dad and my dad lied to me about that part. They were just trying to make me feel better about myself.

THAT is ONE of the many reasons I HATE EVERYBODY!!! I fucking hate liars and the horses they rode in on!

The best way that I can express my feelings is through writing, but I always get laughed at.

So, unless you're good with words and such, my best bet would be to follow what everyone else has said. Dinner, massages, etc.

Oh, and sorry for the above rant, it just kicked in for a second.

 

[SweetErika]

As a writer, I used to write letters to girls that I am really interested in. I even wrote a letter to my childhood sweetheart. To be honest, it was great writing, but it didn't work out. The last few times, I pretty much got laughed at. The one to my childhood sweetheart was for nothing. It turns out I had been living a lie anyways. I THOUGHT she liked me since we were kids, but newp. Her dad and my dad lied to me about that part. They were just trying to make me feel better about myself.

THAT is ONE of the many reasons I HATE EVERYBODY!!! I fucking hate liars and the horses they rode in on!

The best way that I can express my feelings is through writing, but I always get laughed at.

So, unless you're good with words and such, my best bet would be to follow what everyone else has said. Dinner, massages, etc.

Oh, and sorry for the above rant, it just kicked in for a second.

Despite your results in the past, I think letters are a fantastic idea. Even just a little, sincere note from someone makes me feel loved. You're going to make some lucky person very happy with those letters someday, HC...you just haven't met someone who deserves them yet.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Doing her portions of the chores as well as my own

Love letters

Lust letters

Cooking dinners

Meeting her for lunches

An occasional rose on her pillow before she goes to bed

Foot massages while she watches TV

E-mailing erotic images to her that I know she'll like

Occassionally giving her an orgasm followed by a full body massage at bedtime without her having to give anything in return

etc.

 

[GRIFFBABY]

Love

I'm not very good at expressing my feelings but the way I found to express my everyday love for someone is through compliments and the occasional love not left strategically for my partner. Also wowing can be part of the everyday relationship. Surprise your partner with a dinner or a note or flowers or whatever they enjoy.

 

[Eilan]

Random butt grabs. *nods*

 

[Arden]

Every day, little things like kisses, touches, smiles, jokes and laughter.
We tell each other "I love you" several times a day, and mean it every time.
At the moment he is ill and I am suffering from sleep deprivation, so this morning he sent me back to bed for another couple of hours.
When I returned from New Zealand after going back for my father's funeral, I walked in to find a vase of flowers and candles on our coffee table.
When I go shopping I bring him back his favourite pineapple donuts

Pineapple doughnuts... those sound so good!

I enjoy making personalized E-cards for him. I'll find an erotic (or porn) image online that echoes what's on my mind, save it and personalize it with text... loving thoughts... poetry... obscenely erotic thoughts... anything goes. I use
PaintShopPro to layer text over the photo, save it and attach it to an innocent e-mail.

Write an erotic short story or poem for him and insert small pornographic images to illustrate the piece... better yet, naughty pictures that you've taken of yourself ~wicked grin~

Weekends... Get up early... Make his coffee and a tray of fresh fruit (cut into bite-sized pieces) Add some cheese tidbits or cream cheese fruit dip in a small bowl... Bring to the bedroom, bolt the door so the kids can't get in and wake him with a soft kiss. Then use your fingers to feed each other, no utensils allowed. Having to lick the juice off of someone else's fingers is so sinfully sensual!

Climbing into the shower with him and washing his body... everso slowly... then toweling him dry, starting at his shoulders and working my way down... kneeling on the rug so that I can give special attention to his private parts... planting tender kisses in strategic places before moving on to his legs and feet...

 

[Arden]

Random butt grabs. *nods*

Sneaking up behind him... slipping one hand deep inside the front of his pants while kissing his neck

 

[MintSoda]

My fiance and I have very different tastes in music and very different sleeping cycles. He wakes up several hours earlier than me even though he works nights. Anyway, our house is wired through a very nice stereo system, so almost every room has it's own reciever and speaker set all routed back to his computer. Pretty much every morning he hears me waking up and moving around he routs one of my play lists to the reciever in the master bed and bathroom and gets my cat mug out of the dishwasher for me.

Their little things, but it shows he's paying attention to me even when I'm not quite paying attention to the world.

When he found out I was allergic to grass pollen he tore out the front and back lawn and put in a Japanese rock garden. I think that was partly for him though, he hated mowing the lawn in the first place.

He drives me places when I don't feel like driving even when he's busy.

He calls me at least once a night while he's at work just to talk.

He watches the L-word with me.

He calls it our house even though technically it's his house.

As for things I do...

I leave little doodles of funny things in his jacket and pants pockets for him to find later in the day.

I play Xbox with him even though I suck.

I watch American football with him and have been trying to learn on my own how it works so I'm not constantly asking him questions during the game.

I park to the side of the driveway so he can put his car in the garage (he loves his car more than I love mine).

I bring him lunch at work when he's too busy to go get his own.

I stopped carrying my cell phone with me everywhere because I know he hates it.

I'm limiting my furniture rearranging to once every six months since he hates doing it.

I stay up and wait for him to get home so he isn't coming home to a dark empty house.

 

[silverwhisper]

watch american football with him and have been trying to learn on my own how it works so i'm not constantly asking him questions during the game.

now that's love. :>

ed

 

[MintSoda]

That game is highly ridiculous if you ask me.

 

[GRIFFBABY]

Love

First I am a bit jaded about the love thing. However, to show in daily life my love for someone I would leave them a note or do something sweet out of the blue. Not everyday but from time to time. It helped alot.

 

[Undomiel]

Well me any my boyfriend just do little things that mean a lot. Like bring over ben and jerrys ice cream when one of us is feeling a little down. I tried hinting once how strongly I feel for him, but it freaked him out a little. i guess it was too early on in our relationship. Gonna leave it to him now to say something, but I really wish he'd say something soon! I know I can't rush him but it'd be cool.