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Jack Dawkins
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What am I about to tell you is the truth. It is the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
This is how I live my life. This is who I am. More importantly, this is what I know.
I have always been very interested in females from the time I was a young child. As far back as I can remember, I have enjoyed courting the attention and affection of the fairer sex. There are many possible reasons why the pursuit of females has always taken such an important position in my life.
For one thing, I was primarily raised by a single mother, her firstborn and only son. People in that position tend to be very attention spoiled by their mothers and I was no different. I was her pride and joy, and she raised me to believe I could have everything I wanted. So not surprisingly, I grew to think that women owed me the world.
Additionally, I had a lot of feminine traits as a child and both my parents were concerned I might be a homosexual. I have always been very empathic, intuitive and creative. I have always been a very emotional person. I also didn't play sports as a kid, preferring quieter, nerdier activities. I think because of this both my father and mother always encouraged me to interact with females, to a point of persistence.
My mother had me when she was very young, and our relationship was often more like a friendship than a typical parent/child dynamic. We discussed sex very openly and she was almost my wingman, in terms of advice and support. When I lost my virginity at 15, I used the condoms my mother had bought me.
Finally, I have been through many phases and experiences in my life which have offered me a unique perspective on females. As a child I was always considered charming and attractive, and I have always been very intelligent. But as I grew older, my sometimes anti-social nature and lack of involvement in so many of the activities and interests of my peer group made popularity with females more difficult. It got even worse in my early teens as I realized that I was going to be a very late bloomer. I didn't fully go through puberty until I was well into my 15th year. I lost my virginity 2 weeks after I first ejaculated.
I certainly pursued sex, and even got some every once in a while, but I had nowhere near the kind of appeal that many of the more developed males had. I also had recently moved from living in Kenya for 5 years and the culture shock was extreme. I wasn't quite a nerd, not exactly a geek, more of a weirdo. Around this time, I started to gain a lot of weight. The change in dietary customs and probably the disappointment of not attracting more females were both contributors.
When I was close to 18, I was in my first serious relationship, one that would last for the next three years. I dated a beautiful girl of Jamaican, Chinese and Indian descent. She was very shy and I think she was drawn to my boldness and unconventional ways. We shared our fantasies, experimented sexually and bonded emotionally. I asked her to marry me.
When we broke up, I was completely crushed. My mother had died and I had no significant relationship to speak of with any family member. I was prone to depressive episodes and weighed about 250lbs at this point, of pure lazy fat. It was a nightmare. I had no one and nothing. It was time to rebuild everything.
I was a man gone mad. I refused to sit home and feel sorry for myself any longer. I was going to replace my girlfriend with someone or something better. I was going to improve my self esteem and get more of what I wanted out of life, and this was primarily women. I wrote notes all over my apartment challenging myself to lose weight, to get my act together, to get back in the game. I meditated, medicated, practiced self hypnosis and went on a diet and exercise routine fit for a body builder.
My esteem and confidence was going up. I was still fat and somewhat broke, but I had style and everything else I've mentioned. I could get laid, but it wasn't enough. I had to have more women, prettier women, in more exotic circumstances, in kinkier ways.
Fast forward three years. Bouts of depression have never left me. I still deal with insecurities and challenges and my emotions. But I drive a black BMW convertible and I have a designer wardrobe. I own a large condo with an oceanfront view in every room. I am smart enough to be in Mensa and as it turns out after having lost over 70 pounds of fat and gaining 15-20 pounds of muscle, I am attractive enough to be a model.
I am also more successful with women than almost anyone I know.
I've been in a polyamorous relationship with two beautiful and intelligent women, both of whom referred to me only by Sir. I have been in every manner of group sex situation, I have fucked several models, some that you might even recognize. I have had women spoil me with clothes, jewelry, fine dining, trips to exotic islands and even other women, brought to me for my enjoyment. I have had sex with more women than I care to admit, and gotten head from a significant multiple more than that. I have also maintained the love, respect, loyalty and submission of the most amazing woman I have yet come across for almost 2 years.
British artist and poet William Blake once said, "The road to excess leads to the palace of wisdom." So what wisdom have I gained from my relentless pursuit for pleasure? I do not claim to have the answers to the universe. I do not claim to be a pious man. But I have learned many things and I want to share them with whoever will listen.
I make no apologies for what I am about to say.
Have you ever asked yourself, as a man, what it is you really want from women? I guess the easiest answer might be sex. But truthfully, we want so much more than that. Some of us want kinkier sex. Some of us want more prolific sexual habits. Some of us want women to love us, to respect us, to be loyal to us, to obey us. Many of us, myself included, want all of the above.
Have you ever thought to yourself that it might be nice to have your partner submit to your every desire? To do the chores you dont like to do, to suck and fuck you on command? To show you the respect and admiration of a king?
Have you ever thought it would be nice to have a threesome? Or a foursome? Have you ever thought it would be nice to have the attention of as many women as you desire, or at least as many as you could get, at the same time?
Have you ever woke up in the morning and thought to yourself that it would be nice to fuck someone new that day? Have you ever gone to a bar, a club or a party and hoped you would "get lucky" that night? Have you ever wondered if the most beautiful girl in the room would come home with you and be your personal little fuck toy for as long as you wanted? Ever craved a purely sexual encounter, your own anonymous whore that you didn't have to pay?
I think most of us have and do, want at least some if not most of these things. So if you aren't getting them, I want to ask you, why not? Do you not think you deserve them? Do you not think you're capable?
You are the chosen one, God's own child. You live alone in this subjective reality and you have no choice about that. But you are the master of your own destiny, the lord of your own will, you answer to no one but yourself. You deserve whatever you can get.
And yes, you are capable of getting those things that you want. If a one-armed man can play major league baseball, you can bring to fruition almost any fantasy you can imagine.
I don't care what you look like. I don't care about your social status or your intelligence or your lack of talent. I don't care how small your dick is. I don't care how perverse your fetishes are or how inexperienced you are. I may have a lot of advantages, but I'm only where I am today because I've gone up against tremendous odds.
There is no disadvantage that cannot be overcome.
You can do this, and I am going to teach you how.
The first thing you have to realize is that human beings have changed very little from the caveman days. The alpha males fuck the alpha females, and pretty much whoever else they want. Women were and still are the weaker sex. They are physically and socially less powerful than males. Yet with all these disadvantages, many women do amazingly well. History is littered with examples of great men reduced to slaves by the guile of a seductive female.
Women have secured a better and better position in society as time has progressed. Women are more powerful than ever, and they show no signs of slowing down. How have they achieved this? With what bricks have they built this fortress?
Scientific studies show women to be less intelligent than men in some areas, and more naturally gifted than men in others. Men tend to be better at right brained activities while women tend to be better at left brain activities. But more importantly, women are more empathic than men. Most women can feel and understand things that most men cannot. When a man and woman generally speak, the man is usually thinking about the topic of conversation, but a woman is already thinking about the relationship.
She is already plotting on how to keep you in your place. How to control you, how to get what she wants, how to steal your power. The average woman understands social tricks and games the average man would never dream of. As a man, to be even on par with women in your own cohort, you have a lot of catching up to do.
You must use whatever knowledge and skills you can get to repel this affront. Gain enough, and you will be prepared to launch an affront of your own.
Truly, it is best to think of your dealings with the opposite sex as a war. Even your lovers are your adversaries. The enemy will stop at nothing to achieve their goals, you must stop at nothing to achieve yours. You must become a master at accurately assessing the value of any female you encounter and you must become an expert at making yourself appear as valuable as possible. You must attack and operate with cold, calculating precision. You must strategize like Napoleon to seduce like Don Juan.
It is not necessary to hate women. We tend to love the lands we've conquered, and despise the citadels that held their walls. This is natural, but misogyny is an irrational emotion and a weakness. The goal is not to subjugate women for it's own sake, but for the sake of your pleasure. You must see things clearly, without your mind clouded by the rose colored glasses of naivete, or the dark shades of fear and prejudice.
I am going to get a lot more specific now. In order to enjoy the benefits of being the alpha male, you have to be the alpha male. It is not enough to pretend to be the alpha male, women are too clever for that. They will see through it. You must believe it yourself, to your core, in order for it to work.
The internet and the book store is filled with self help guides on attracting women. Never be afraid to seek knowledge in whatever area you desire power in. As Newton said, when you learn the work of your ancestors, you are standing on the shoulders of giants.
World-famous pick-up artist and seduction counselor, Mystery, once identified the five characteristics of an alpha male as confidence, a great smile, being well groomed, possessing a sense of humor, connecting with people, and being seen as the social center of the room. Math is not Mystery's strong suit, but perhaps that is part of why he understands women so well.
These rules are so simple, it's almost surreal. Truthfully, being succesful with women is more about removing the cloud of doubt and frustration in your mind than it is about learning anything you didn't already know. I'm not going to go into specifics on tactics to attract mates and be an alpha male here, but I will speak generally.
In order to attract women, you must demonstrate value. Women are attracted to the man in the center of the room because he appears in charge, powerful. Women are impressed with a man who is smiling because it makes them wonder what he is smiling about. Being well groomed gives off the impression that you are in control. Having a sense of humor and connecting with people makes you seem beneficent. Confidence is the ultimate turn-on, because every woman is in awe of a man who is fearless.
If you are not the center of a room, you are not going to pull the hottest girl in the room.
If you are dressed like every other guy, you will be lucky if you can pull any chick, let alone the girl you want.
If you exude indecisiveness and insecurity, you will repel your target.
The more value you can demonstrate, the more you can demand in return. Women, any woman, will do anything for a man who can demonstrate enough value that she believes she is being fairly compensated.
So my advice is to set yourself goals so you know how much you have to increase your perceived value. You can always change your personal standards when you are ready, and you can always increase your value, but it's easier to work for something when you have a goal in mind. Ask yourself what it is you really want and what are you willing to give up to get it.
Do you feel like a fool when you buy a girl an expensive dinner and you never see her again? How about when you eat a girl out, and she falls asleep before she can return the favor?
So then say to yourself, I am not going to allow women to take advantage of me. I am not going to give before I receive. I am going to set a high price on myself and I will market myself at that price.
I will give you some of my personal standards, just as an idea. Yours may be dramatically different:
1. I do nothing with anyone that I don't want to do. If I take a girl home and no longer want to fuck her, I do not fuck her. I do not kiss most of the girls that drain my cock and I almost never eat pussy. In the vast majority of my hook-ups, they consist almost entirely of some kinky mental play, some fondling and climax in fellatio. I just want the nut cracked and that is how I enjoy doing it. The vast majority of women are not worth the condom. She is here for me, not the other way around.
2. I will not waste my time with women who show no sexual interest. If they can demonstrate significant value as a platonic friend I will consider moving them into this category, but I very, very rarely do this for women I am actually attracted to myself.
3. I will not tolerate anything other than at least mildly submissive behavior and an indication that she may be more malleable in the future. I am not looking to add stress in my life by fighting or arguing over pussy. They will show deference or they will be rejected.
4. I do not buy a woman's affection. I will not spend any significant amount of money in the pursuit of pussy.
These are a few pretty solid examples, but my mental list of personal standards is much longer. For the most part, I rarely have to bend any of my rules to get what I want. I do sometimes make concessions for girls I see as particularly valuable and I almost always regret it.
So, what do you do once you have a woman's attention? Establishing initial attraction can be the hardest part, but it is still easy to fuck it up from there. In order to maintain in the dominant position and get a woman to do what you want, you have to keep her in what I refer to as the "sweet spot."
It is understood that a person is at their best when presented with a challenge slightly more difficult than what they have previously been able to accomplish. Anything easier is boring, anything harder is too frustrating. This principle is often seen in sports and is a fundamental of video game design.
You can, in fact you must, use this principle to dominate women. You must at all times be a challenge, and you must maintain your position in the sweet spot. The moment you tell her she couldn't possibly improve, you are not a challenge and she will seek one elsewhere. Tell her she is good for nothing and she will run away. You must manipulate the situation at all times so that your target is constantly challenged by you to the right degree. It is very hard for anyone to deny such a challenge, and if you can offer this challenge to a woman there is almost no limit to where you can lead her.
Stay just out of her reach, and she will always be in your clutches.
I hope this topic raises lots of questions. I do realize that this post is far too long for most people on the GB, but if I can connect with even a few people it would have been worth it. Truthfully, it was worth it just to articulate these thoughts.
One question I get asked a lot when I explain these feelings of mine, is to my mental and emotional health. Am I a sociopath?
I have asked myself this question many times. Maybe I am missing the big picture. Maybe I have grown incredibly skilled at a task that will not bring me ultimate happiness. It is definitely possible that the events of my life have shaped me into patterns of behavior that are unhealthy. I don't have the answers to those questions, but I do not think I am a sociopath.
Next I get asked about my morals.
I do not see anything I do as immoral. Distasteful at times, yes, but life is not always pretty. I very rarely lie to women, although I will sometimes encourage them to make false assumptions. I have never lied to my girlfriend in my life and she can read this just like any of the rest of you.
Many of my sexual desires tend to be on the darker side and I have always enjoyed learning about BDSM and being a part of the BDSM community. The moral creedo of the BDSM community is to always play Safe, Sane and Consensually, and I obey these laws in my sexual life without exception.
I also have two little sisters. They are my pride and joy and I love them more than I love myself. I would kill or die for either of them, happily, at any time. People often ask me how I would feel if they were with a man who had my attitude.
I hold no illusions that both of them will one day be approached by a man such as myself. At that time, I want them to be armed with knowledge by knowing that there are men like me out there. I want them to be strong warriors in the battle of the sexes in their own rights. This guide was written for straight men, because that is the mentality I understand most intimately. I have all the respect in the world for women playing their end of the game, but that doesn't mean I will fall on my sword when I run into a weaker player.
Finally, I am asked what I hope to gain from such a superficial lifestyle.
Does this outlook never leave me feeling vapid and hollow?
Yes, at times it does. It is easier to ignore the simple truths of the world and simply act on instinct and hope for the best. I have done this many times and always regretted it. Heavy is the head that wears the crown.
Of all the amazing experiences I've had, nothing makes me happier than having maintained a positive relationship with the woman that I love. I apply the same skills in our relationship that I do elsewhere, I just happen to assign a very high value on this particular female and I believe she deserves it. She is my own slavegoddess, hey body is my playground and her mind is my canvas. She does things for me that she never imagined she would be doing for a man, but I think she enjoys it in the sweet spot.
My life is perhaps a bit superficial, it's true. There is so much I could say to defend myself as a hedonist, but I'd rather use the words of another poet/painter, Kahlil Gibran.
Pleasure is a freedom song,
But it is not freedom.
It is the blossoming of your desires,
But it is not their fruit.
It is a depth calling unto a height,
But it is not the deep nor the high.
It is the caged taking wing,
But it is not space encompassed.
Ay, in very truth, pleasure is a freedom-song.
And I fain would have you sing it with fullness of heart; yet I would not have you lose your hearts in the singing.
Some of your youth seek pleasure as if it were all, and they are judged and rebuked.
I would not judge nor rebuke them. I would have them seek.
For they shall find pleasure, but not her alone:
Seven are her sisters, and the least of them is more beautiful than pleasure.
Have you not heard of the man who was digging in the earth for roots and found a treasure?
And some of your elders remember pleasures with regret like wrongs committed in drunkenness.
But regret is the beclouding of the mind and not its chastisement.
They should remember their pleasures with gratitude, as they would the harvest of a summer.
Yet if it comforts them to regret, let them be comforted.
And there are among you those who are neither young to seek nor old to remember;
And in their fear of seeking and remembering they shun all pleasures, lest they neglect the spirit or offend against it.
But even in their foregoing is their pleasure.
And thus they too find a treasure though they dig for roots with quivering hands.
But tell me, who is he that can offend the spirit?
Shall the nightingale offend the stillness of the night, or the firefly the stars?
And shall your flame or your smoke burden the wind?
Think you the spirit is a still pool which you can trouble with a staff?
Oftentimes in denying yourself pleasure you do but store the desire in the recesses of your being.
Who knows but that which seems omitted today, waits for tomorrow?
Even your body knows its heritage and its rightful need and will not be deceived.
And your body is the harp of your soul,
And it is yours to bring forth sweet music from it or confused sounds.
And now you ask in your heart, "How shall we distinguish that which is good in pleasure from that which is not good?"
Go to your fields and your gardens, and you shall learn that it is the pleasure of the bee to gather honey of the flower,
But it is also the pleasure of the flower to yield its honey to the bee.
For to the bee a flower is a fountain of life,
And to the flower a bee is a messenger of love,
And to both, bee and flower, the giving and the receiving of pleasure is a need and an ecstasy.
People of Orphalese, be in your pleasures like the flowers and the bees.
This is how I live my life. This is who I am. More importantly, this is what I know.
I have always been very interested in females from the time I was a young child. As far back as I can remember, I have enjoyed courting the attention and affection of the fairer sex. There are many possible reasons why the pursuit of females has always taken such an important position in my life.
For one thing, I was primarily raised by a single mother, her firstborn and only son. People in that position tend to be very attention spoiled by their mothers and I was no different. I was her pride and joy, and she raised me to believe I could have everything I wanted. So not surprisingly, I grew to think that women owed me the world.
Additionally, I had a lot of feminine traits as a child and both my parents were concerned I might be a homosexual. I have always been very empathic, intuitive and creative. I have always been a very emotional person. I also didn't play sports as a kid, preferring quieter, nerdier activities. I think because of this both my father and mother always encouraged me to interact with females, to a point of persistence.
My mother had me when she was very young, and our relationship was often more like a friendship than a typical parent/child dynamic. We discussed sex very openly and she was almost my wingman, in terms of advice and support. When I lost my virginity at 15, I used the condoms my mother had bought me.
Finally, I have been through many phases and experiences in my life which have offered me a unique perspective on females. As a child I was always considered charming and attractive, and I have always been very intelligent. But as I grew older, my sometimes anti-social nature and lack of involvement in so many of the activities and interests of my peer group made popularity with females more difficult. It got even worse in my early teens as I realized that I was going to be a very late bloomer. I didn't fully go through puberty until I was well into my 15th year. I lost my virginity 2 weeks after I first ejaculated.
I certainly pursued sex, and even got some every once in a while, but I had nowhere near the kind of appeal that many of the more developed males had. I also had recently moved from living in Kenya for 5 years and the culture shock was extreme. I wasn't quite a nerd, not exactly a geek, more of a weirdo. Around this time, I started to gain a lot of weight. The change in dietary customs and probably the disappointment of not attracting more females were both contributors.
When I was close to 18, I was in my first serious relationship, one that would last for the next three years. I dated a beautiful girl of Jamaican, Chinese and Indian descent. She was very shy and I think she was drawn to my boldness and unconventional ways. We shared our fantasies, experimented sexually and bonded emotionally. I asked her to marry me.
When we broke up, I was completely crushed. My mother had died and I had no significant relationship to speak of with any family member. I was prone to depressive episodes and weighed about 250lbs at this point, of pure lazy fat. It was a nightmare. I had no one and nothing. It was time to rebuild everything.
I was a man gone mad. I refused to sit home and feel sorry for myself any longer. I was going to replace my girlfriend with someone or something better. I was going to improve my self esteem and get more of what I wanted out of life, and this was primarily women. I wrote notes all over my apartment challenging myself to lose weight, to get my act together, to get back in the game. I meditated, medicated, practiced self hypnosis and went on a diet and exercise routine fit for a body builder.
My esteem and confidence was going up. I was still fat and somewhat broke, but I had style and everything else I've mentioned. I could get laid, but it wasn't enough. I had to have more women, prettier women, in more exotic circumstances, in kinkier ways.
Fast forward three years. Bouts of depression have never left me. I still deal with insecurities and challenges and my emotions. But I drive a black BMW convertible and I have a designer wardrobe. I own a large condo with an oceanfront view in every room. I am smart enough to be in Mensa and as it turns out after having lost over 70 pounds of fat and gaining 15-20 pounds of muscle, I am attractive enough to be a model.
I am also more successful with women than almost anyone I know.
I've been in a polyamorous relationship with two beautiful and intelligent women, both of whom referred to me only by Sir. I have been in every manner of group sex situation, I have fucked several models, some that you might even recognize. I have had women spoil me with clothes, jewelry, fine dining, trips to exotic islands and even other women, brought to me for my enjoyment. I have had sex with more women than I care to admit, and gotten head from a significant multiple more than that. I have also maintained the love, respect, loyalty and submission of the most amazing woman I have yet come across for almost 2 years.
British artist and poet William Blake once said, "The road to excess leads to the palace of wisdom." So what wisdom have I gained from my relentless pursuit for pleasure? I do not claim to have the answers to the universe. I do not claim to be a pious man. But I have learned many things and I want to share them with whoever will listen.
I make no apologies for what I am about to say.
Have you ever asked yourself, as a man, what it is you really want from women? I guess the easiest answer might be sex. But truthfully, we want so much more than that. Some of us want kinkier sex. Some of us want more prolific sexual habits. Some of us want women to love us, to respect us, to be loyal to us, to obey us. Many of us, myself included, want all of the above.
Have you ever thought to yourself that it might be nice to have your partner submit to your every desire? To do the chores you dont like to do, to suck and fuck you on command? To show you the respect and admiration of a king?
Have you ever thought it would be nice to have a threesome? Or a foursome? Have you ever thought it would be nice to have the attention of as many women as you desire, or at least as many as you could get, at the same time?
Have you ever woke up in the morning and thought to yourself that it would be nice to fuck someone new that day? Have you ever gone to a bar, a club or a party and hoped you would "get lucky" that night? Have you ever wondered if the most beautiful girl in the room would come home with you and be your personal little fuck toy for as long as you wanted? Ever craved a purely sexual encounter, your own anonymous whore that you didn't have to pay?
I think most of us have and do, want at least some if not most of these things. So if you aren't getting them, I want to ask you, why not? Do you not think you deserve them? Do you not think you're capable?
You are the chosen one, God's own child. You live alone in this subjective reality and you have no choice about that. But you are the master of your own destiny, the lord of your own will, you answer to no one but yourself. You deserve whatever you can get.
And yes, you are capable of getting those things that you want. If a one-armed man can play major league baseball, you can bring to fruition almost any fantasy you can imagine.
I don't care what you look like. I don't care about your social status or your intelligence or your lack of talent. I don't care how small your dick is. I don't care how perverse your fetishes are or how inexperienced you are. I may have a lot of advantages, but I'm only where I am today because I've gone up against tremendous odds.
There is no disadvantage that cannot be overcome.
You can do this, and I am going to teach you how.
The first thing you have to realize is that human beings have changed very little from the caveman days. The alpha males fuck the alpha females, and pretty much whoever else they want. Women were and still are the weaker sex. They are physically and socially less powerful than males. Yet with all these disadvantages, many women do amazingly well. History is littered with examples of great men reduced to slaves by the guile of a seductive female.
Women have secured a better and better position in society as time has progressed. Women are more powerful than ever, and they show no signs of slowing down. How have they achieved this? With what bricks have they built this fortress?
Scientific studies show women to be less intelligent than men in some areas, and more naturally gifted than men in others. Men tend to be better at right brained activities while women tend to be better at left brain activities. But more importantly, women are more empathic than men. Most women can feel and understand things that most men cannot. When a man and woman generally speak, the man is usually thinking about the topic of conversation, but a woman is already thinking about the relationship.
She is already plotting on how to keep you in your place. How to control you, how to get what she wants, how to steal your power. The average woman understands social tricks and games the average man would never dream of. As a man, to be even on par with women in your own cohort, you have a lot of catching up to do.
You must use whatever knowledge and skills you can get to repel this affront. Gain enough, and you will be prepared to launch an affront of your own.
Truly, it is best to think of your dealings with the opposite sex as a war. Even your lovers are your adversaries. The enemy will stop at nothing to achieve their goals, you must stop at nothing to achieve yours. You must become a master at accurately assessing the value of any female you encounter and you must become an expert at making yourself appear as valuable as possible. You must attack and operate with cold, calculating precision. You must strategize like Napoleon to seduce like Don Juan.
It is not necessary to hate women. We tend to love the lands we've conquered, and despise the citadels that held their walls. This is natural, but misogyny is an irrational emotion and a weakness. The goal is not to subjugate women for it's own sake, but for the sake of your pleasure. You must see things clearly, without your mind clouded by the rose colored glasses of naivete, or the dark shades of fear and prejudice.
I am going to get a lot more specific now. In order to enjoy the benefits of being the alpha male, you have to be the alpha male. It is not enough to pretend to be the alpha male, women are too clever for that. They will see through it. You must believe it yourself, to your core, in order for it to work.
The internet and the book store is filled with self help guides on attracting women. Never be afraid to seek knowledge in whatever area you desire power in. As Newton said, when you learn the work of your ancestors, you are standing on the shoulders of giants.
World-famous pick-up artist and seduction counselor, Mystery, once identified the five characteristics of an alpha male as confidence, a great smile, being well groomed, possessing a sense of humor, connecting with people, and being seen as the social center of the room. Math is not Mystery's strong suit, but perhaps that is part of why he understands women so well.
These rules are so simple, it's almost surreal. Truthfully, being succesful with women is more about removing the cloud of doubt and frustration in your mind than it is about learning anything you didn't already know. I'm not going to go into specifics on tactics to attract mates and be an alpha male here, but I will speak generally.
In order to attract women, you must demonstrate value. Women are attracted to the man in the center of the room because he appears in charge, powerful. Women are impressed with a man who is smiling because it makes them wonder what he is smiling about. Being well groomed gives off the impression that you are in control. Having a sense of humor and connecting with people makes you seem beneficent. Confidence is the ultimate turn-on, because every woman is in awe of a man who is fearless.
If you are not the center of a room, you are not going to pull the hottest girl in the room.
If you are dressed like every other guy, you will be lucky if you can pull any chick, let alone the girl you want.
If you exude indecisiveness and insecurity, you will repel your target.
The more value you can demonstrate, the more you can demand in return. Women, any woman, will do anything for a man who can demonstrate enough value that she believes she is being fairly compensated.
So my advice is to set yourself goals so you know how much you have to increase your perceived value. You can always change your personal standards when you are ready, and you can always increase your value, but it's easier to work for something when you have a goal in mind. Ask yourself what it is you really want and what are you willing to give up to get it.
Do you feel like a fool when you buy a girl an expensive dinner and you never see her again? How about when you eat a girl out, and she falls asleep before she can return the favor?
So then say to yourself, I am not going to allow women to take advantage of me. I am not going to give before I receive. I am going to set a high price on myself and I will market myself at that price.
I will give you some of my personal standards, just as an idea. Yours may be dramatically different:
1. I do nothing with anyone that I don't want to do. If I take a girl home and no longer want to fuck her, I do not fuck her. I do not kiss most of the girls that drain my cock and I almost never eat pussy. In the vast majority of my hook-ups, they consist almost entirely of some kinky mental play, some fondling and climax in fellatio. I just want the nut cracked and that is how I enjoy doing it. The vast majority of women are not worth the condom. She is here for me, not the other way around.
2. I will not waste my time with women who show no sexual interest. If they can demonstrate significant value as a platonic friend I will consider moving them into this category, but I very, very rarely do this for women I am actually attracted to myself.
3. I will not tolerate anything other than at least mildly submissive behavior and an indication that she may be more malleable in the future. I am not looking to add stress in my life by fighting or arguing over pussy. They will show deference or they will be rejected.
4. I do not buy a woman's affection. I will not spend any significant amount of money in the pursuit of pussy.
These are a few pretty solid examples, but my mental list of personal standards is much longer. For the most part, I rarely have to bend any of my rules to get what I want. I do sometimes make concessions for girls I see as particularly valuable and I almost always regret it.
So, what do you do once you have a woman's attention? Establishing initial attraction can be the hardest part, but it is still easy to fuck it up from there. In order to maintain in the dominant position and get a woman to do what you want, you have to keep her in what I refer to as the "sweet spot."
It is understood that a person is at their best when presented with a challenge slightly more difficult than what they have previously been able to accomplish. Anything easier is boring, anything harder is too frustrating. This principle is often seen in sports and is a fundamental of video game design.
You can, in fact you must, use this principle to dominate women. You must at all times be a challenge, and you must maintain your position in the sweet spot. The moment you tell her she couldn't possibly improve, you are not a challenge and she will seek one elsewhere. Tell her she is good for nothing and she will run away. You must manipulate the situation at all times so that your target is constantly challenged by you to the right degree. It is very hard for anyone to deny such a challenge, and if you can offer this challenge to a woman there is almost no limit to where you can lead her.
Stay just out of her reach, and she will always be in your clutches.
I hope this topic raises lots of questions. I do realize that this post is far too long for most people on the GB, but if I can connect with even a few people it would have been worth it. Truthfully, it was worth it just to articulate these thoughts.
One question I get asked a lot when I explain these feelings of mine, is to my mental and emotional health. Am I a sociopath?
I have asked myself this question many times. Maybe I am missing the big picture. Maybe I have grown incredibly skilled at a task that will not bring me ultimate happiness. It is definitely possible that the events of my life have shaped me into patterns of behavior that are unhealthy. I don't have the answers to those questions, but I do not think I am a sociopath.
Next I get asked about my morals.
I do not see anything I do as immoral. Distasteful at times, yes, but life is not always pretty. I very rarely lie to women, although I will sometimes encourage them to make false assumptions. I have never lied to my girlfriend in my life and she can read this just like any of the rest of you.
Many of my sexual desires tend to be on the darker side and I have always enjoyed learning about BDSM and being a part of the BDSM community. The moral creedo of the BDSM community is to always play Safe, Sane and Consensually, and I obey these laws in my sexual life without exception.
I also have two little sisters. They are my pride and joy and I love them more than I love myself. I would kill or die for either of them, happily, at any time. People often ask me how I would feel if they were with a man who had my attitude.
I hold no illusions that both of them will one day be approached by a man such as myself. At that time, I want them to be armed with knowledge by knowing that there are men like me out there. I want them to be strong warriors in the battle of the sexes in their own rights. This guide was written for straight men, because that is the mentality I understand most intimately. I have all the respect in the world for women playing their end of the game, but that doesn't mean I will fall on my sword when I run into a weaker player.
Finally, I am asked what I hope to gain from such a superficial lifestyle.
Does this outlook never leave me feeling vapid and hollow?
Yes, at times it does. It is easier to ignore the simple truths of the world and simply act on instinct and hope for the best. I have done this many times and always regretted it. Heavy is the head that wears the crown.
Of all the amazing experiences I've had, nothing makes me happier than having maintained a positive relationship with the woman that I love. I apply the same skills in our relationship that I do elsewhere, I just happen to assign a very high value on this particular female and I believe she deserves it. She is my own slavegoddess, hey body is my playground and her mind is my canvas. She does things for me that she never imagined she would be doing for a man, but I think she enjoys it in the sweet spot.
My life is perhaps a bit superficial, it's true. There is so much I could say to defend myself as a hedonist, but I'd rather use the words of another poet/painter, Kahlil Gibran.
Pleasure is a freedom song,
But it is not freedom.
It is the blossoming of your desires,
But it is not their fruit.
It is a depth calling unto a height,
But it is not the deep nor the high.
It is the caged taking wing,
But it is not space encompassed.
Ay, in very truth, pleasure is a freedom-song.
And I fain would have you sing it with fullness of heart; yet I would not have you lose your hearts in the singing.
Some of your youth seek pleasure as if it were all, and they are judged and rebuked.
I would not judge nor rebuke them. I would have them seek.
For they shall find pleasure, but not her alone:
Seven are her sisters, and the least of them is more beautiful than pleasure.
Have you not heard of the man who was digging in the earth for roots and found a treasure?
And some of your elders remember pleasures with regret like wrongs committed in drunkenness.
But regret is the beclouding of the mind and not its chastisement.
They should remember their pleasures with gratitude, as they would the harvest of a summer.
Yet if it comforts them to regret, let them be comforted.
And there are among you those who are neither young to seek nor old to remember;
And in their fear of seeking and remembering they shun all pleasures, lest they neglect the spirit or offend against it.
But even in their foregoing is their pleasure.
And thus they too find a treasure though they dig for roots with quivering hands.
But tell me, who is he that can offend the spirit?
Shall the nightingale offend the stillness of the night, or the firefly the stars?
And shall your flame or your smoke burden the wind?
Think you the spirit is a still pool which you can trouble with a staff?
Oftentimes in denying yourself pleasure you do but store the desire in the recesses of your being.
Who knows but that which seems omitted today, waits for tomorrow?
Even your body knows its heritage and its rightful need and will not be deceived.
And your body is the harp of your soul,
And it is yours to bring forth sweet music from it or confused sounds.
And now you ask in your heart, "How shall we distinguish that which is good in pleasure from that which is not good?"
Go to your fields and your gardens, and you shall learn that it is the pleasure of the bee to gather honey of the flower,
But it is also the pleasure of the flower to yield its honey to the bee.
For to the bee a flower is a fountain of life,
And to the flower a bee is a messenger of love,
And to both, bee and flower, the giving and the receiving of pleasure is a need and an ecstasy.
People of Orphalese, be in your pleasures like the flowers and the bees.
