Phoenix Stone
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Lots of good replies. And Sheath, I SO know where you're coming from. (At least I know a feeling that feels the way you are describing.) And I get it every year about this time. Spring Fever. Don't know if this helps but I actually believe some of us are Hardwired to feel this way regularly, to be the scouts, the ones to get the tribe moving, perhaps to something better.
Can you move to a new place, or new house in your old place, or would you want to? I concur with several others who talked about doing something risky and unstructured -- for me it would be white water rafting, skiing, or if I was Truly desperate, another bungee jump.
Those things Can get it out of your system and relax you but you have to actually do them and not just think about them. It's possible that doing something like taking a salsa dancing class could help, too. Or even, believe it or not, ballroom dancing, where you switch partners all class. It gives you that feeling of being close to someone else, even random someone else's -- which gives it that edgey feel -- but without any kind of risk. If you are alone a lot (except for kids) something where you are interacting with other adults is a good idea. Take a motorcycle riding class, if you don't know how? Something that feels a little scary but done in a way that won't put your kids' mother's life at risk.
For me, masturbating just makes it worse, and me more lonely. That massage is a better idea, especially if it's a sort of painful one, and is done by a man. Something that wears you out, doesn't just stir you up.
It's easy to get pretty far off your own path, if you were with someone else for a while. Looking at your serious dreams for yourself can help, too. Things like going back to school, and starting just one exciting little bit, like signing up for one related class. DON'T do you usual distracting things. YOu're just fighting it. And don't just give in because the things it will tell you to do, if they don'[t get you into trouble, will just make the feeling stronger. The trick is to find the Message behind the feeling. Whatever you use willpower to resist can blindside you later. The more willpower you have to use, the the more important Not to. Make a plan based on what the feeling is trying to tell you. Do you need to move to a new town at some point in the future, for example? If that's what it's truly saying (and not, say, telling you you need to move your Body more) then figure out what town you are going to move to, and when. Even if it is when your kids are grown. Get a map, pictures, the classifieds. Let that restlessness turn to excitement for something real.
If the message in the restlessness is a need for, say, more daring interactions with other adults, then maybe a dance class or joining Toastmasters. Those are lousy examples but my point is to make it tangible, and let that feeling have a little rope to speak to you. Don't flatten yourself.
Hope there is some chance that some of this can help you more than I'm able to help myself right now. I'm getting the midlife version of Spring Fever right now. Wanting to do everything at once, but not in a financial position, to, say, ski. Mine may be more sexual right now.
The last time I got this bad we moved to a new town, thank goodness, and I felt so much better. That was what I needed then. When we moved, I just did everything I could think of to address the feeling, including joining a bunch of groups to meet other moms, and taking a painting class. It worked. But now it's back -- with a new and different message. Which I tried to write about on some other threads and even started a putting lust back into love thread, which was sorta off track. Guess the only way you find out is to try. Like your soul satisfiers thread. Today I mentioned the edgy stuff, which I think is more what you are wanting to work on now. As am I.
Maybe we should throw a party? A come as you'd like to be Costume Party, with wild music, under the night sky, lots of other restless adults, a trampoline, motorcycle rides, a tatoo artist. We can all get our navels pierced, and What? I don't know. Howl at the moon. See if we can figure it all out.
Can you move to a new place, or new house in your old place, or would you want to? I concur with several others who talked about doing something risky and unstructured -- for me it would be white water rafting, skiing, or if I was Truly desperate, another bungee jump.
Those things Can get it out of your system and relax you but you have to actually do them and not just think about them. It's possible that doing something like taking a salsa dancing class could help, too. Or even, believe it or not, ballroom dancing, where you switch partners all class. It gives you that feeling of being close to someone else, even random someone else's -- which gives it that edgey feel -- but without any kind of risk. If you are alone a lot (except for kids) something where you are interacting with other adults is a good idea. Take a motorcycle riding class, if you don't know how? Something that feels a little scary but done in a way that won't put your kids' mother's life at risk.
For me, masturbating just makes it worse, and me more lonely. That massage is a better idea, especially if it's a sort of painful one, and is done by a man. Something that wears you out, doesn't just stir you up.
It's easy to get pretty far off your own path, if you were with someone else for a while. Looking at your serious dreams for yourself can help, too. Things like going back to school, and starting just one exciting little bit, like signing up for one related class. DON'T do you usual distracting things. YOu're just fighting it. And don't just give in because the things it will tell you to do, if they don'[t get you into trouble, will just make the feeling stronger. The trick is to find the Message behind the feeling. Whatever you use willpower to resist can blindside you later. The more willpower you have to use, the the more important Not to. Make a plan based on what the feeling is trying to tell you. Do you need to move to a new town at some point in the future, for example? If that's what it's truly saying (and not, say, telling you you need to move your Body more) then figure out what town you are going to move to, and when. Even if it is when your kids are grown. Get a map, pictures, the classifieds. Let that restlessness turn to excitement for something real.
If the message in the restlessness is a need for, say, more daring interactions with other adults, then maybe a dance class or joining Toastmasters. Those are lousy examples but my point is to make it tangible, and let that feeling have a little rope to speak to you. Don't flatten yourself.
Hope there is some chance that some of this can help you more than I'm able to help myself right now. I'm getting the midlife version of Spring Fever right now. Wanting to do everything at once, but not in a financial position, to, say, ski. Mine may be more sexual right now.
The last time I got this bad we moved to a new town, thank goodness, and I felt so much better. That was what I needed then. When we moved, I just did everything I could think of to address the feeling, including joining a bunch of groups to meet other moms, and taking a painting class. It worked. But now it's back -- with a new and different message. Which I tried to write about on some other threads and even started a putting lust back into love thread, which was sorta off track. Guess the only way you find out is to try. Like your soul satisfiers thread. Today I mentioned the edgy stuff, which I think is more what you are wanting to work on now. As am I.
Maybe we should throw a party? A come as you'd like to be Costume Party, with wild music, under the night sky, lots of other restless adults, a trampoline, motorcycle rides, a tatoo artist. We can all get our navels pierced, and What? I don't know. Howl at the moon. See if we can figure it all out.
