How to complete this story : A loving son wants his mother to get a boyfriend (not the son) for herself

[Euphony]

Ok, unsure why but I'll bite.

You have VERY competing interests, "white knighting" for your mom (benefit = you feel good/heroic for saving her from her situation), HER sexual needs (just because they aren't being met doesn't mean YOU know how best to meet them/any mildly handsome "enough" dick will work. YOUR sexual need to be involved in her situation AND get your own needs met/pleasure from it. If it's as you say, your mom is already drowning in loneliness, religious and societal pressure to just swallow that loneliness, and a billion other day to day issues we all face. She's covered in strings full of knots and you presenting your own knots needing unwinding doesn't help HER and is probably more than most could handle in her situation.

I would completely reframe it.

Your mom needs to be the force for change in the story. The protagonist. Your role is the helper, encourager, and listening/sounding board for her to use at HER discretion in the ways she feels work best for HER.

I would start with establishing open communication between the two of you, not leading off with sex stuff. That's her advanced Uni course. It's personal, it's private. It only becomes your business if you make her comfortable in all the other ways you can so she ALLOWS you to be part of this intimate piece of her.

When it's time to spool up the sex talk/situations, I would have the son function as an example, a reminder of the joys a fulfilling sex life can be spiced with honest dialog/description by the son that would likely mirror her own hesitations, fears, guilt, emotions, etc. Make his journey as terrifying, difficult, but ultimately worthwhile as hers would be. He works best as an honest example of the trials and tribulations of being yourself by fulfilling your needs which requires overcoming all of modern love's/dating's obstacles.

Sissy/Fem isn't my thing, so not a strong suit, but it feels big enough of a fetish entity to need HER to be on solid emotional and relationship footing first, before adding that to the complexities. Her conflict comes from having finally won her sexuality back by walking through fire through hell and back, she's also going to share this person in essentially an open relationship?

It feels like you were leaning hard on the reciprocity angle ("remember how I fixed you mom now you fix me") and I personally can't suspend my disbelief enough to be okay with it. The son bringing a beautiful dick around isn't a real solution in my mind and robs her of any AGENCY which is the very thing she is most desperate for right now (she is powerless to her husband, to her religion, to her society, she is emotionally being swept out to sea)

Give the woman back her power. Let her find her way with her son being a helping hand to help her balance herself on the rare instances when she stumbles and needs to pick herself up. DON'T LET HIM CARRY HER. (it doesn't work)

Describing "beautifully," "honestly," "realistically," all have different meanings to different authors. Whatever direction I were to go in, I would stay far away from the middle. Don't write some of it realistically and some (conveniently) fictitiously. Neither is a wrong direction to go in, it's when the reader is thrown back and forth between the two and can't figure out the nature of the narrative that you have real problems.

Your scenario is worth writing about but, as I said, is terribly knotted, conflicted, and complex. You can address those or pass for a more fantasy telling. Trying to untie only some knots or fixing the easy stuff but ignoring the big conflicts because of difficulty will stand out. If that's a problem for you or your readers is up to the individual.

 

[Bareskinny]

bilash... I read your "confo" on Reddit and found it very revealing. For one, there's nothing wrong with fantasizing about your mom. Many boys do it, and many girls fantasize about their dads.

Second, while I think you do have a genuine concern for your mother's happiness, I still see it coming from some kind of (sexual) desire to be your mom's subservient child. I think your mother, and most mothers for that matter, prefer to see their children become self-sufficient and leave them alone so that she can go on with her own life after they grow up. Most parents don't want to have to manage their children into adulthood and beyond, though I know there are some mentally deranged mothers and fathers who can't stop parenting their adult offspring. This is why many adult men and women role play as "big and littles" with other adults.

Third, the reason why your dad no longer desires sex with your mother is that he could very well be impotent. That is, incapable of getting an erection. He may have not told your mother about this due to issues of pride and shame in whatever culture he is from. Consider that before judging him.

Fourth, your confession about getting your friend to flirt with your mom and pressuring her to have sex with him is dangerous. If your father found out, he could very well react by beating her, or even killing her, and perhaps your friend too. The levels of shame in Asian patriarchal societies have lead many men to do this. That's why you should stay out of it, and not cause any additional problems she is already dealing with.

I also want to offer that I grew up with a single mom and that I was her only child. She largely remained celibate while raising me because she devoted herself to me. But, she did date again when I got into my teen years and eventually remarried. I often fantasized about her sexually, but I never expressed that to her. And while I do perceive myself as a submissive "boy", I explore that with other men and women.

If you genuinely want to write stories about your actual mother, free feel to do so. It sounds like you harbor feelings of inadequacy about yourself, which creates this fantasy of hiring a friend to sexually please your mother. This is very much a cuck platform, and nothing shameful about it. Your Reddit confession sounds like a great story, and it sounds like you've hashed this out in your head hundreds of times, and probably already know what to write. HOWEVER, trying to find a sex partner for your mother in real life is something you should stay out of. You'll only make it worse for your mother and father, and friend.

 

[bilash]

the reason why your dad no longer desires sex with your mother is that he could very well be impotent. That is, incapable of getting an erection. He may have not told your mother about this due to issues of pride and shame in whatever culture he is from. Consider that before judging him.

In our culture , married women are looked down upon if they leave their husband. (islamic culture)
My dad has sugar babies. I knew long ago , didn't tell mom . I knew some years ago that mom now knows too that dad is a cheating a*hole. Dad doesn't like mom and from what I heard from my aunt , dad told mom the reason why he doesn't like her anymore is she has grown old. In islamic culture , women are treated as cattle. "women are men's farming field , you men can enter anyway you like" -> This is part of a line of our Hadis (said by that old long dead bearded guy).
Dad is highly emotionally unavailable , only does his business and rarely talks/interacts with us ; pretty much treats us as his property.
Personally I don't give a damn about what he thinks/does to me as I'm an adult with a stable job now.
But for mom , for her its nearly impossible at this age to divorce him and keep the property which she deserve legally . Can't mention everything here but our culture , social and country law are biased towards men. If mom and dad separtes , dad will win financially in every way.
So now-a-days she thinks she deserves this life , this is what The Almighty have given her in her luck which is fixed.
I'm atheist. Mom is strictly religious and never ever thought of cheating on dad. Dad is a part time religious kunt who uses religion for self-benefit. Dad isn't someone you can respect even if you're Mahatma Gandhi.

 

[Euphony]

In our culture , married women are looked down upon if they leave their husband. (islamic culture)
My dad has sugar babies. I knew long ago , didn't tell mom . I knew some years ago that mom now knows too that dad is a cheating a*hole. Dad doesn't like mom and from what I heard from my aunt , dad told mom the reason why he doesn't like her anymore is she has grown old. In islamic culture , women are treated as cattle. "women are men's farming field , you men can enter anyway you like" -> This is part of a line of our Hadis (said by that old long dead bearded guy).
Dad is highly emotionally unavailable , only does his business and rarely talks/interacts with us ; pretty much treats us as his property.
Personally I don't give a damn about what he thinks/does to me as I'm an adult with a stable job now.
But for mom , for her its nearly impossible at this age to divorce him and keep the property which she deserve legally . Can't mention everything here but our culture , social and country law are biased towards men. If mom and dad separtes , dad will win financially in every way.
So now-a-days she thinks she deserves this life , this is what The Almighty have given her in her luck which is fixed.
I'm atheist. Mom is strictly religious and never ever thought of cheating on dad. Dad is a part time religious kunt who uses religion for self-benefit. Dad isn't someone you can respect even if you're Mahatma Gandhi.

No idea how I became the OP. Did OP delete first comment? Lit board glitching? Wild.
(I do not make a habit of "talking to myself." Not here anyway.)

Anyway, not having the op in front of me I'm a bit guessing here, your scenario works so long as you make it work.

You are posting to an audience that doesn't have this background (and has their own ready to overtake most others) so you'll need to creatively spell out these "rules" and "universe" these characters are living in and under.

Almost anything can work so long as you put forth the effort.

That's why inspiration by the idea is so important (and many story idea posters miss) It's that excitement that carries you through the tough patches where the no fun stuff has to be done.

You've debated merits and possibilities enough. Go write it. You clearly need to.

 

[bilash]

the reason why your dad no longer desires sex with your mother is that he could very well be impotent. That is, incapable of getting an erection. He may have not told your mother about this due to issues of pride and shame in whatever culture he is from. Consider that before judging him.

In our culture , married women are looked down upon if they leave their husband. (islamic culture)
My dad has sugar babies. I knew long ago , didn't tell mom . I knew some years ago that mom now knows too that dad is a cheating a*hole. Dad doesn't like mom and from what I heard from my aunt , dad told mom the reason why he doesn't like her anymore is she has grown old. In islamic culture , women are treated as cattle. "women are men's farming field , you men can enter anyway you like" -> This is part of a line of our Hadis (said by that old long dead bearded guy).
Dad is highly emotionally unavailable , only does his business and rarely talks/interacts with us ; pretty much treats us as his property.
Personally I don't give a damn about what he thinks/does to me as I'm an adult with a stable job now.
But for mom , for her its nearly impossible at this age to divorce him and keep the property which she deserve legally . Can't mention everything here but our culture , social and country law are biased towards men. If mom and dad separtes , dad will win financially in every way.
So now-a-days she thinks she deserves this life , this is what The Almighty have given her in her luck which is fixed.
I'm atheist. Mom is strictly religious and never ever thought of cheating on dad. Dad is a part time religious kunt who uses religion for self-benefit. Dad isn't someone you can respect even if you're Mahatma Gandhi.

I still see it coming from some kind of (sexual) desire to be your mom's subservient child.

In real life I'm in no way submissive. Being submissive to mom is just a sexual fantasy . Though mostly I fantacize some pornstar as my mom and keep thinking she's dominating me sexually.

That's why you should stay out of it

Yeah. That's why I wrote confession to ease my mental pang. I will never ever burn my luck by dong something this risky. But if I ever go for higher studies abroad like uk,us,canada,aus I may visa sponsor mom and advice her to try Tinder or encourage her to visit lifestyle clubs. I think that will be safe and not-nosy. She'll feel safe as these countries aren't patriarchical and I definitely won't invite or tell my dad in my home country. What do you think of it?

It sounds like you harbor feelings of inadequacy about yourself

Actually I don't . I am not insecured in any way , never cared much what others think about me but I do think about context,consequence of my actions. About my cuck fantasy , its just a fetish of mine. Maybe one day I'll safely indulge in it with my girlfriend / significant other in a safe way that works for us. I do have humiliation kink , it is what it is. Not that I don't feel confident . Actually I always have to decide for myself , be the doer , getter in job . So in fantasy , my kink is losing control . When I lose control in fantasy , I don't have to use my brain , others think for me , its relaxing . Unlike my reality where I 've to take all the decisions.

trying to find a sex partner for your mother in real life is something you should stay out of.

I will stay out. But if I change country and later help mom to get visa and encourage her to start dating . Is it a bad idea ? By then , dad won't know because of country difference.