How to Avoid coming on too,strong

[FloridaBob]

Soooo, I'm pretty green with this .Ive met a wonderful woman that I adore here. We chat etc ,and she excites me like no other. My question is how to avoid being too overbearing with my excitement. I'd really hate to lose her company.

 

[jehoram]

Soooo, I'm pretty green with this .Ive met a wonderful woman that I adore here. We chat etc ,and she excites me like no other. My question is how to avoid being too overbearing with my excitement. I'd really hate to lose her company.

Well, you might ask her at some point "Do you think I'm coming on too strong? I don't want to give that impression, but I need an honest answer." This would let her know your feelings, but more important, it would show that you care about her feelings, too. After that, the relationship would stand or fall on how much you can keep that honesty going.

 

[FloridaBob]

Thanks for the advice! I appreciate it

 

[sallycee]

good advice from jehoram there.... be honest, make sure you are both on the same page as far as your expectations from each other. I found some people have expectations and just want you to fit into them... that doesn't always work out....... good luck!!

 

[FloridaBob]

Thanks Sally

 

[5by5]

Maybe avoid questions like "what do you want out of this?" - personally, especially in the first initial conversations i just want things to be relaxed, I'm not saying play down how much you like her, just dont act like she's 'yours', she might be chit chatting with others as we women tend to have more options here.
If you're the guy who has time for her but won't have a melt down if she moves on, chances are she'll stick around or even come back to you. At the same time if she's asking you what you want, just be honest, because if you say what you think she wants to hear rather than the truth you're running the risk of messing everything up.

 

[Knitting1]

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