How to achieve nipple orgasms

[polymath88]

I have spoken to several women that say they can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone. My wife says she has often wondored if she could, but we don't know where to start other that licking and sucking of course. tbh it usually ends up in us fucking or masturbating before she would even have a chance to cum from her nips. Has anyone got any tips, a formula? Do I have to build her up or just go in as usual? Gentle, hard or escalating? Anything like biting or sucking work particularly well? One tit or both etc. etc.

Thanks,
Poly

 

[PollySays]

To Poly from Polly:


I tend to orgasm off simply playing with my nipples alone, during more a solitary 'masturbation' than playing with someone else. I'm not sure if it will help your situation, but, here's my 2 cents:

Texture play is wonderful. Take off her bra. Play with her nipples through her shirt. My favorite is a roughly textured Tanktop I own. I hate wearing it in the day, but for this time, it's the greatest shirt on earth. Simply rub. Stroke, test. See what brings about those whimpers and coos. My nipples are usually quite erect most of the time, so I usually end up guiding them back and forth against the fabric.

Do you have a beard or goatee or even just some facial stubble? As long as it's not the Son of Brillo Pad, try running that along her nipple. More texture play.

I tend to pinch, tweak, and tease when alone. Lick my fingers and roll my nipples between fingertips tightly. I'd imagine a good set of wet lips, not biting, but simply rolling and teasing, would be a wonderful building block.

Biting does, however, work for me. (Well, in my case, it's usually a sharp pinch or smaller hair clips. Those little alligator teeth ones? Ouch/fun!) Just don't try to bite it off! Work up on the nips. If she's doing okay with it and giving the right reactions, keep going! If you get slapped in the head, STOP!

Alternate between sides. Doing too much to one and ignoring the other can. Well. Be boring after awhile. My breasts start to get a bit numb if I go too long on just one side.

 

[polymath88]

Hi Polly,
very useful. Information like you get numb if one side gets too much attention is just what I wanted. She does like a light bite if she's horny enough, sometimes I catch her twisting her own nipples, which is weird for her, she doesn't like touching her own bare breasts... maybe because she doesn't like masturbating and it is too arousing for her!
Anyone else with anymore tips like Polly's?
I'll be sure to road test them.

Thanks

 

[ConfusedAgain]

A guy almost got me to recently. All he did was get behind me and I leaned back then kept circling them with his fingers, started with 1 and then added more. He kind of pressed and massaged them through a thick shirt. The intensity varied but mostly escalated. Soft circles then harder as I got into it. Then he went underneath my shirt, over my bra. Then the licking and sucking and eventually fucking because I couldn't take it anymore.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Your wife's ability to orgasm from nipple play will be largely dependent on how sensitive her nipples are and how they are wired to the rest of her anatomy. On some women touching their nipples sense tingles southward, other women don't derive any pleasure at all from nipple stimulation/play.

Assuming your wife has "normal" to sensitive nipples, then it will be a matter of finding the right combination of things to drive her wild.

- It could be textures as earlier mentioned
- Temperature hot or cold or a combination/alternation of the two
- Toys or clamps that focus on stimulating the nipples. Use caution and go slowly, nipple clamps can become painful quickly, though that can also be part of the enjoyment
- She may react well to topical stimulants such as peppermint toothpaste, which will produce a warm and tingly sensation or possibly a bit of burning if she's overly sensitive.
- Possibly a warming body lotion (KY makes several ) applied to her nipples.
- Possibly a breast massage, which would not only be extremely relaxing, it should also be extremely arousing. Work the entire breast and the muscles that surround and go behind the breast, everything from her collarbone down. Once you finish the breast massage, then focus totally on playing with her nipples. With plenty of lubrication for all of this, the sensations should drive her crazy.
- If she's into porn, then possibly finding a breast stimulation movie, or a breast play heavy movie for the both of you to watch. Not only will this be arousing and put her in the right mindset, it should give you some ideas of things to try.
- You should be having this conversation with her. She should know her body well enough to know what types of things she will be interested in trying and those to stay away from. She may not play with her breasts/nips very often, but I guarantee she knows what she likes done to them.
- Ask her if she has any breast play fantasies that she'd like to share, or at least draw on to help with finding a solution to your mutual goals.

And last but not least, report back with your results as you work your way to the goal.

 

[polymath88]

So the report back goes... Not achieved. Apparently got close, but both went numb after a while.
It apparently became unbearably good, so focus was changed to the other breast, although we were already alternating.
I was asking for direction etc. And I was met with variable success, but the end goal was not achieved. So anymore pointers?
Of course she might just not be wired up like that.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Don't get discouraged on your first attempt out of the gate, or the 100th. With each attempt, you not only find more ways to go about it, she will get more relaxed with the process and the likelihood of orgasm increases.

Probably the biggest thing, as it is with any type of orgasm, is that she be comfortable, relaxed and highly mentally stimulated, then the physical stimuli will produce it's rewards.

So here is a question for you, are you fucking her mind or are you fucking her body? Get her body relaxed, get her mind into the game, and you'll get there!

 

[polymath88]

I definately fucked her mind with the thrill of our housemates' possible return whilst doing the foreplay. But I totally agree, she's all up in her head. She doesn't do a lot of what she has the potential for because she's worried what I might think, that someone might hear her, or some other stigma.
I don't know how to work on that... maybe this should be a new thread if it's all it is.

 

[PollySays]

Might I suggest headphones or a sensory dropout?
Sometimes taking away just the one thing can help. If you're thinking being distracted with thoughts is the problem, add a blindfold or perhaps some headphones. Her mind may become more into that than thoughts of Is the tv still on, did I forget to start the washer, that what you're doing is going to be far more effective.

I've worried about the oven far too many times during my alone times.
And it either takes forever or I get numb from trying too hard.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Either remove the distractions or remove yourselves from them. Get a hotel for the weekend, then there is no worry about the messes you make, who hears, intrusions, appliances left on, etc.

 

[polymath88]

Jesus Christ, I hope she isn't thinking about the oven!
I know overhearing is a taboo for her. We're away soon... might be a good time to try. She asks every now and then to try blind folding, I think it might force her into her head more.

 

[HappyAlone]

This thread got me curious. Is it normal to not have much of any sensation from nipple play??

 

[NippleMuncher]

This thread got me curious. Is it normal to not have much of any sensation from nipple play??

It's certainly an individual thing, but yes, there are some who have little sensation and derive little enjoyment from nipple play. Sometimes it's medical, sometimes nerve damage, sometimes just the way she's wired.

 

[xxLadyJxx]

This is interesting. My nipples can be quite sensitive but not sure if I could actually orgasm from nipple stimulation alone. Only one way to find out I suppose, I think I'll ask my bf to try and that would definitely be fun. I know if he came up behind me, rubbed my nipples really softly and kissed one of my ears I could probably get close.