How soon should phone or cyber happen?

[Blase]

I know that there's no answer that's right for every situation, but does anyone else feel that "a little later" is often a better answer than "right away"?

This is a realization that I came to over time as I had a few virtual encounters and found that the most satisfying ones were generally the ones preceded by some other type of interaction, like chatting about a mutual interest (indeed, some of them came from such situations). The play sessions that happened right away often left me and the other person with nowhere much to go, afterwards.

Please share your own thoughts and insights.

 

[hunnyblonde]

I absolutely love that you asked this. *big smile* I seem to be really susceptible to stimulation, even the online variety, and for that reason I don't play often. I've really only truly had two partners, both of which were very long-term. *wistful sigh* But it makes me smile and glow remembering that first encounter with a lover, which for me never happens until a good long while after the first electric "hello". *grin* I can't help myself, I just have to put off the dessert and consume everything I can of the person themself before really tasting them. I'm a learner, and I want to delve into everything you are before I'm ready to let you set me aflame.

I think the number of men who feel like you do about things is much less than the number of women, so you are very rare in that way. And um... yes... I'm intrigued. *little laugh*

It's very nice to meet you Blase. *soft smile*

 

[John_Whittaker0826]

You're right, it is a very individual thing, but there are probably some tried & true background things to consider.

If you are both simply looking to get off & have hit it off quickly let it happen and have fun while understanding that it's probably a one time deal.

If you're looking for more than that, then open & honest communication is the key. I've echoed this a few times on these boards, but I think it bares repeating. When I've met someone online thaT I want to be friends with, I tend to go slow, try to get to know as much about them as possible, and honestly, that hot phone call or cyber typically kind of just sneaks up on us and for the most part, we have a good time and will be talking again in a day or two.

I try to treat my online friends as though we were sitting across from one another at a Starbucks or something similar. Respect & understanding go a long way.

Good luck!

 

[Cinner]

Well said, John.

 

[SmileyGirl]

I concur But it's a pity that alot of people aren't so honest. Just because it's online you hurt the same, if not more when someone is not honest. It's a far more emotional relationship once you get to know someone over a long period of time. But on the flip side it is online and for most people there will never be longevity. Take care of your own heart is important to remember at all times.

 

[sereneone4u]

I think it depends on the individuals involved.

Sometimes it is just "right" to do it right away and other times it is best to wait.

For me, phone is not something I do with just anyone. Not that I cyber with just anyone either but the phone is just more intimate and means more to me.

 

[mysteriousme82]

I think it depends on the people involved. I've had phone or voicechat with women right out of the gate, because it was about us being complete strangers sharing something so personal and intimate. But I've had partners who I've known since high school who never said they were into it until a while ago.

If the imaginations are roaring, why not enjoy the fun? I think everything else in our world has to be done by appointment or by a target date... hearing a person have a hot orgasm should not be like that. Spontaneous, tremendous and the more times the woman can cum, the hotter my own orgasms are.

But I might be different because I have an audio fetish. The sounds of a woman getting off is an intense rush to me to listen to.

 

[SexyNaomi]

Easy, pick up the phone book, start at Aaron A. Aaronson and work your way from there.

 

[texas cop]

Easy, pick up the phone book, start at Aaron A. Aaronson and work your way from there.

not sure i would do it that way but ok... if its agreed upon by both parties, immediately is just fine with me