how orgasm without moaning?

[satindesire]

Hey now, I don't argue with everyone. I only argue with people that make potentially misleading and/or biased statements. If someone avoids any and all contraversial issues, I'll probably never argue with them.

You do realize you're arguing about not arguing all the time, right?

 

[infinity706]

Yes, I realize that. I never said I didn't enjoy arguing. I just have to have a reason. Afterall, about half the time I come to literotica, I don't even say anything at all.

 

[mollynaturist]

I'm sorry dear but your friend is an idiot.

Sexual addiction is a very real thing that destroys people's lives. Her telling you that sexual addiction doesn't exist is like her telling you that there is no such thing as AIDS.

I think you either need to educate her or get new friends.

http://www.medicinenet.com/sexual_addiction/article.htm

She is OLDER than me and knows better than me so its hard to disagree but I think it would be cool to talk to a therapist either way

 

[firesflair]

umm, just wanna point out, not wanting to go without masturbating for 8 hours could just be a high libido, rather then a sex addiction. I know if I had the option, I would totally do it when ever I had the urge, rather then wait until I get up/go to bed. I mean it can be really annoying, if you get horny enough.

 

[satindesire]

umm, just wanna point out, not wanting to go without masturbating for 8 hours could just be a high libido, rather then a sex addiction. I know if I had the option, I would totally do it when ever I had the urge, rather then wait until I get up/go to bed. I mean it can be really annoying, if you get horny enough.

I believe I made it very clear that if it was a COMPULSION, not just a simple "want", it was a problem.

 

[NightL]

umm, just wanna point out, not wanting to go without masturbating for 8 hours could just be a high libido, rather then a sex addiction. I know if I had the option, I would totally do it when ever I had the urge, rather then wait until I get up/go to bed. I mean it can be really annoying, if you get horny enough.

...I agree with this... and looking at her profile she is young... Two of my past partners, at much the same age, would enjoy bathroom breaks a couple of times a day... a hell of lot more healthy than going outside for a cigarette.

I would hate to think a healthy young person would view themselves as having a pyscological disorder based on the fact they think about masterbating. My goodness we would all end up at the clinic...

Re. the moaning... maybe daydream you are going to get spanked if caught making a sound... but I think you will cope just fine... but perhaps it should be those red flushes you should be more worried about.

 

[infinity706]

...I agree with this... and looking at her profile she is young... Two of my past partners, at much the same age, would enjoy bathroom breaks a couple of times a day... a hell of lot more healthy than going outside for a cigarette.

I would hate to think a healthy young person would view themselves as having a pyscological disorder based on the fact they think about masterbating. My goodness we would all end up at the clinic...

Re. the moaning... maybe daydream you are going to get spanked if caught making a sound... but I think you will cope just fine... but perhaps it should be those red flushes you should be more worried about.

I don't know if getting spanked is much of a solution. Way too many women I know get pretty wet, thinking about such things. That might make the moaning problem worse, too.

 

[fire_breeze]

She is OLDER than me and knows better than me so its hard to disagree but I think it would be cool to talk to a therapist either way

Sweetie, just because someone is older does not mean that the person is wiser and knows better than you.

Trust me. I have met plenty of incompetent, idiotic, uninformed people whose biological age is greater than mine (and by at least a decade, I might add), but whose immaturity level was that of a horny teenager.

You asked a question, and there were some great, insightful answers, backed up, I might add. If you need to talk to a therapist because you feel it might help you, go for it. If you think it's cool, then a wise friend and a glass of wine is much more fun. And considerably cheaper.

 

[satindesire]

...I agree with this... and looking at her profile she is young... Two of my past partners, at much the same age, would enjoy bathroom breaks a couple of times a day... a hell of lot more healthy than going outside for a cigarette.

I would hate to think a healthy young person would view themselves as having a pyscological disorder based on the fact they think about masterbating. My goodness we would all end up at the clinic...

Re. the moaning... maybe daydream you are going to get spanked if caught making a sound... but I think you will cope just fine... but perhaps it should be those red flushes you should be more worried about.

I see that I've apparently miscommunicated somehow. The sheer number of people who have completely missed me explaining the difference between a normal libido and a sexual compulsion is too high for this to be a simple case of ignorance.

I am young as well, with a much higher than normal libido. I am not anti-masturbation at all. I masturbate regularly, like most average people on the planet. I have no problem with masturbating or people who masturbate. Is that clear enough? I hope so.

However, I believe that being a responsible employee is extremely important, especially in this difficult economic time, and if a person feels such a strong compulsion to masturbate while doing something that should be more important, I.E. it's affecting their normal life to the point where it's interrupting them and preventing them from normalcy and healthy relationships, it is a problem.

I.E. going 8 hours for work without masturbating is NOT a long time to wait. If a person feels such a strong compulsion that it's interrupting their JOB, which is how they pay their bills and keep themselves from homelessness, it might be a problem.

Now, if this compulsion to masturbate is so frequent it's disrupting their life, it may behoove them to speak to a therapist, as sexual compulsion/addiction is not a "normal libido", it's a mental illness. Encouraging the behavior because a person might find the idea "sexy" is highly irresponsible and harmful. After all, it's not OUR lives that are potentially being disrupted and harmed by this possible mental illness. Saying for example..."Oh, gambling all the time is normal. She's young and likes to gamble, telling her that gambling all the time might be bad is stupid!" is patently irresponsible, because none of us know but her if this situation (masturbating) is normal or not. She has to look at how much her libido is affecting her life, and if it's interrupting normal activities that are more important. I believe I've made it entirely clear that I do not know for sure if she has a sexual compulsion and she should evaluate her life on her own terms, I was merely putting up the possibility that if she's masturbating so much that it's a problem, she might talk to a therapist. Using, I might add, words like "might", "possible" and "Maybe" in order to show the fact that it was a POSSIBILITY, not something I was 100% completely sure of.

I fully realize that this is a highly sex-positive site and telling someone that doing something sexual might be bad is shocking here, however, we have a duty as human beings to care for each other, especially when someone asks for help. I was attempting to help the OP, to the best of my abilities, with nothing but good intentions behind my words. I am a very sex-positive person but I advocate RESPONSIBLE behavior at all times, regardless of whether or not the idea of the OP masturbating constantly is "sexy" and would make good masturbation fodder.

I believe I've explained this to death and anyone else who comments further on it, I'll refer them to the above paragraphs. I hate being a dead horse and I believe this one is maimed beyond identification.

 

[infinity706]

Just for the record, I agree 100%.