How much pain...

[Cherrysweetdeal]

How much pain must come with a certain amount of pleasure?...

If you behave does that mean you may get punished less or more because to much pleasure would cause an imbalance in the D/s relationship?

This is more of an opinion thread to stop me from thinking about my own problems so enjoy.

Cherry

 

[catalina_francisco]

How much pain must come with a certain amount of pleasure?...

Depends on the people involved, their needs, their thresholds, timing, and countless other things....some find pain and pleasure do not go together.

If you behave does that mean you may get punished less or more because to much pleasure would cause an imbalance in the D/s relationship?

Punishment is not usually meant to give pleasure to either party. So if you are a masochist and you have been good, you may if your lucky be given heaps more pain...if your not into pain, it could mean less pain. Pleasure is up to those involved and what the relationship thrives on. It also depends on what brings pleasure. Some may talk about 'hating' certain activities, and that hatred is a form of pleasure for them, for others the opposite is true.

Catalina

 

[A's Sweet Baby]

How much pain must come with a certain amount of pleasure?...

If you behave does that mean you may get punished less or more because to much pleasure would cause an imbalance in the D/s relationship?

This is more of an opinion thread to stop me from thinking about my own problems so enjoy.

Cherry

Pain at Master's hands can make me cum quicker than just about anything else. And because of that, Master does not punish me with pain. It took me a while to realize that because for a while i had been misbehaving in an attempt to bring about the pain. But Master quickly put an end to that and i am now self-aware enough to be able to ask for the pain i need.

 

[landcruisergal]

Pain, my fav topic.
My master was quick to inform me that his sub before me was a painslut and after a while it bored him.I was told any attempt at "topping from the bottom" would result in my release, even if I didnt realise I was doing it. Harsh. So I have never asked and take care when I suggest things. I lay out all the toys, he simply chooses what takes his fancy at the time.
He knows I am a painslut also, and takes care and deliberation to deal it out as he sees fit.
He uses it to "get me in the right head set", if he feels I am having trouble getting there.
This has become more frequently an opener to our scenes, since I have had started domming my pup, and he wants to make sure I am "exactly" where he wants me.It is often a shock,sometimes even frightening initially.He has never used a warm up. I am left with no confusion to who I am with him.
Pain in varied doses and intensity heighten my reactions, and he can play me like a fiddle.It is a tool for him.He enjoys the visual aspects of play.He loves to see the marks he has left on me. He likes to watch me writhing under his touch.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Bump?......

 

[esclave_PP]

Funny that you should bump this. In our relationship, Master is my sadist and I am his very willing masochist. He calls me his lil painslut (among other things). Like A's, Master does not punish me with pain (well I've only had one punishment and that was with a big ass cane, but that's been the only time). Pain melds into pleasure for me, and I do have some pain limits, but I do try to push myself, but not to please Master, it is to please me. He wouldn't be happy if I did that just to please him, he wouldn't get any pleasure from that. In any case, it really does depend on the individual and their pain limits. There is no hard and fast rule that says, "You must do this or that." So, explore, enjoy and have fun but most importantly, be safe.

 

[red111a]

Not big into pain but i dont mind taking a few knocks in bed. The current lady im seeing is a biter and loves sinking the teeth in when shes really horny. She also has quite long nails and will dig those into my back when im doing the job right. It nothing really and ive been hurt far worse without such a good reward. Dont know if id go beyond that kind pain as it would probally just distract me to much.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

How to cure a SAMMY

... because of that, Master does not punish me with pain. It took me a while to realize that because for a while i had been misbehaving in an attempt to bring about the pain. But Master quickly put an end to that ...

Smart Master.

 

[Red Sonja]

How much pain must come with a certain amount of pleasure?...

If you behave does that mean you may get punished less or more because to much pleasure would cause an imbalance in the D/s relationship?

This is more of an opinion thread to stop me from thinking about my own problems so enjoy.

Cherry

Well first off the thread of what not to say taken aside... I think most of us as pyls here try not to get punished.

Frankly for me punishment would be some sort of withdrawal on his part. Either making me sleep apart from him, or in some other way indicating that displeasure through seperation. I hate that, so I am rarely punished.

When he is inflicting pain, he does that for his pleasure and for mine. Not so much as a form of punishment but rather for mutual enjoyment.

I'd be very sad to think that he was wacking my ass or tightening nipple clamps just because I wanted it, or that he needed a "reason" to do it. It makes me very happy to know he does it, because he wants to and that is all the reason needed.

However, others mileage may well vary.

 

[Joe Schmoe]

If you behave does that mean you may get punished less or more because to much pleasure would cause an imbalance in the D/s relationship?Cherry

I am intrigued by your question about imbalance. Do you see too much pleasure as detrimental?