How much does size matter?

[Arielsdream]

Is this a good non condescending response:

Length: average to longer then average

Width: average to wider.

Women can stretch out to fit but its harder to "shrinkdown"

And straight non curved

 

[BareBackRider2]

Is this a good non condescending response:

Length: average to longer then average

Width: average to wider.

Women can stretch out to fit but its harder to "shrinkdown"

And straight non curved

Perfect

 

[policywank]

Obviously there are many elements to an enjoyable sexual experience beyond cock size. As many have said a man with a smaller penis can be an excellent lover. But since that sounds like something women say to address male insecurity let me also make the opposite point - sometimes guys with big dicks are lousy lovers. I'm not just talking about being too big (which can be an big issue - pun intended), but guys that are inattentive or too fast or just think all they have to do is stuff it in.

So yes size matters, but not in a bigger is always better sense and it is far from being the only thing that matters. For me the ideal is 7" - 8" or at least approximately is I also don't bring a measuring tape on dates. Good thickness makes me feel more full when he is fucking me, but I prefer not so thick that it hurts to deep throat or do anal. Anything in the 5"-10" range is workable though. Bigger is rare and somewhat uncomfortable. Smaller is ok but getting into the range where stimulation is limited to the clit in which case I prefer oral.

 

[BongoGal]

Length has never mattered much to me. Width can take my breath away, however.

 

[Setanta84]

Who the fuck cares.
I like the dick that's on the guy I like.
Anything else is just details.

Why the hell do guys care so much? Just get really good at oral and work on your charm, use your imagination and be passionate ... and no one will give a damn what's between your legs.

I've slept with a lot of women. I think Erochic and BG are providing the best answers you are going to get here.

Have you ever heard the saying 'when a woman is in love with you, all other men are ugly to her'? I find that's true of dick size, too. When she's really into you, you have the biggest dick in the world and it gradually gets smaller in her mind as interest wanes--and yours too, if you are like me and tend to attract attractive psychotics who are great in bed.

With the women who actually give a fuck about it outside of partners, girth is the thing almost all of them like. This has to do with basic human anatomy. Most of the wiring that is going to give her pleasure responds to girth, not length.

I've met/slept with exactly two women who prefer length. This, honestly, has become a red flag to me. In one case, she actually liked the pain of having something hit her cervix, which seems fucking nuts to me. In the other, she seemed to genuinely enjoy it but I think it was more psychological than anything.

 

[Eilan]

Okay, then. Which feels better regardless of what it does or doesn't accomplish - length or thickness?

Since you're clearly not getting the validation you're after from the responses, why don't you tell me how you want me to respond and that's what I'll say?

 

[SandraMustard]

Since you're clearly not getting the validation you're after from the responses, why don't you tell me how you want me to respond and that's what I'll say?

I tried asking that question. From the OP I got denial (and a thinly veiled "go away") and criticism about rudeness from another male. They want honest answers but only if it supports their fantasies.

Did you notice the post that wanted big cocks? They thought it was perfect.

 

[southern_gal]

Yeah. Too bad Lit doesn't have a decent method for searching the forums by topic. Would have saved a lot of wear and tear on your typing fingers and us from listening to your angst.

I have angst? I'm not the one hung up on the size (or the lack thereof) of my pee pee.

 

[MatthewVett]

A Croatian study looked at this question. I wrote up the results here: https://matthewvettblog.wordpress.com/2013/04/20/is-penis-size-important/

 

[SandraMustard]

Southern_gal, you forgot to mention that all 34,451 threads were started by men.

 

[Eilan]

Men who start cock size threads deserve ridicule.

 

[southern_gal]

Southern_gal, you forgot to mention that all 34,451 threads were started by men.

I know all about fears of not measuring enough. I spend a small fortune on shoes and purses and have been known to worry more about my hair than my health. I used to go to bed at night when I was younger just so sure that when I woke up, I'd have bigger boobs. I used to worry about being kinda short. To this day I measure my own looks and outfits when I am going out, with my friends and what they look like. Can I become literally green with envy? I would not bet against it.

Having said all of this, it does not effect my sexual desire or performance in the least. Nor will it ever. IF I ever found myself with a man that thought (goodness knows what would happen to the poor dear if he said it OUT LOUD so we're gonna go with him just thinking it) that I was cute or whatever but ......well maybe my boobs were not the right size. Too big or too small, maybe my butt was too big or not big enough. Maybe he was turned off by my other girl parts. Know what? Out he goes and I'll find someone else that thinks I'm what he's always been waiting for.

So guys, for the last time (please) get over it. I mean it. IF (and I know that NO one reading this save perhaps one falls into this category).....IF you look down at what you were BORN WITH (let that sink in for a moment huh?) and decide that it may not be enough to satisfy what ever woman you are with. MOVE ON. We out number you ding dong. Find one of us that will be thrilled with whatever you have. Or you can sit there and obsess about it forever and that alone can cause ED. It's your choice and women for like a zillion years have been saying the exact same thing that most have said here in this thread.

For the 34,451st time.

 

[SandraMustard]

Men who start cock size threads deserve ridicule.

I don't know about starting threads but when they try to steer their ego-barge upstream, yes.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

Men who start cock size threads deserve ridicule.

Why does anyone deserve ridicule for insecurity?

Do small breasted women deserve ridicule?

 

[SandraMustard]

Why does anyone deserve ridicule for insecurity?

Do small breasted women deserve ridicule?

The five that started threads? No. Compassion. As a tiny-dick man would.

 

[southern_gal]

Why does anyone deserve ridicule for insecurity?

Do small breasted women deserve ridicule?

How small minded do you have to be to ridicule someone for something they are BORN WITH? I'm not talking about excessive bad habits that make us bigger than we want to be or our choice of clothes or anything that we SELECT.

If we are born a certain way how is that in any way reflective of who we are and how we should be thought of? IF a woman has small boobs then that's what she has. It has NO bearing on who she is as a person and how much enjoyment she can bring a partner. The same is true of men and penis size.

Look at it like this. How much time do we spend in an average lifetime having sex? Say you are married for a long time. Let's go with the fairy tale and say 50 years. I imagine the time spent having sex is sooooo small in comparison to the total of 50 years spent together. Would any sane person ( KEY word here........sane) think that a lifetime spent with someone that makes us feel special and desired and secure could be effected by something that can not be controlled any more than the size of your feet? This is why I roll my eyes at the never ending size threads.

Just get over it and stop obsessing. It simply does not matter.

 

[rhod101]

I know all about fears of not measuring enough. I spend a small fortune on shoes and purses and have been known to worry more about my hair than my health. I used to go to bed at night when I was younger just so sure that when I woke up, I'd have bigger boobs. I used to worry about being kinda short. To this day I measure my own looks and outfits when I am going out, with my friends and what they look like. Can I become literally green with envy? I would not bet against it.

Having said all of this, it does not effect my sexual desire or performance in the least. Nor will it ever. IF I ever found myself with a man that thought (goodness knows what would happen to the poor dear if he said it OUT LOUD so we're gonna go with him just thinking it) that I was cute or whatever but ......well maybe my boobs were not the right size. Too big or too small, maybe my butt was too big or not big enough. Maybe he was turned off by my other girl parts. Know what? Out he goes and I'll find someone else that thinks I'm what he's always been waiting for.

So guys, for the last time (please) get over it. I mean it. IF (and I know that NO one reading this save perhaps one falls into this category).....IF you look down at what you were BORN WITH (let that sink in for a moment huh?) and decide that it may not be enough to satisfy what ever woman you are with. MOVE ON. We out number you ding dong. Find one of us that will be thrilled with whatever you have. Or you can sit there and obsess about it forever and that alone can cause ED. It's your choice and women for like a zillion years have been saying the exact same thing that most have said here in this thread.

For the 34,451st time.

Fair play to you for having that confidence in yourself and demanding that you be treated with as much respect as you would give someone else. I must admit to generally enjoying reading your posts.

I think that the issue is however that not everyone has that confidence. I can't speak for all men, but there is a hell of a lot of media bombardment about the importance of penis size. I'd guess the equivalent for women would be waist size and how much do both women and men spend obsessing about that?

Reading some of the threads on men watching their wives with another man and cuckolding and sissies etc, there seems to be quite an obsession with big cocks and usually this obsession is from other men. It's just in-built in our culture with locker rooms etc that it's important and as such some men can obsess over it.

 

[southern_gal]

Fair play to you for having that confidence in yourself and demanding that you be treated with as much respect as you would give someone else. I must admit to generally enjoying reading your posts.

I think that the issue is however that not everyone has that confidence. I can't speak for all men, but there is a hell of a lot of media bombardment about the importance of penis size. I'd guess the equivalent for women would be waist size and how much do both women and men spend obsessing about that?

Reading some of the threads on men watching their wives with another man and cuckolding and sissies etc, there seems to be quite an obsession with big cocks and usually this obsession is from other men. It's just in-built in our culture with locker rooms etc that it's important and as such some men can obsess over it.

Tell me about media bombardment on size and looks. Looked at a Barbie Doll? We get our first one when we are like 5 months old. Try living up to that bitch. Media bombardment......Look at clothes advertising. Women are all models. Literally. Then we wonder why the dress or blouse does not look as good on us as it did the model.

Media bombardment also has another agenda.........they are trying to sell something. Always. Every time. This media bombardment is likely written by men trying to sell male enhancers to other men. Or something. It is between your ears guys not between your legs.

One more time and all together as a group. Let's say it loudly. We OUTNUMBER you. There are more of us than there are of you. If after all this you still cannot get over the teeny weeny syndrome, then keep searching until you find one of us that could not care less what you have as long as it works and you treat us the way we NEED to be treated.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

The only point I'm trying to make is that there is a double standard when it comes to the acceptance of ridiculing the small penis.

 

[rhod101]

Tell me about media bombardment on size and looks. Looked at a Barbie Doll? We get our first one when we are like 5 months old. Try living up to that bitch. Media bombardment......Look at clothes advertising. Women are all models. Literally. Then we wonder why the dress or blouse does not look as good on us as it did the model.

Media bombardment also has another agenda.........they are trying to sell something. Always. Every time. This media bombardment is likely written by men trying to sell male enhancers to other men. Or something. It is between your ears guys not between your legs.

One more time and all together as a group. Let's say it loudly. We OUTNUMBER you. There are more of us than there are of you. If after all this you still cannot get over the teeny weeny syndrome, then keep searching until you find one of us that could not care less what you have as long as it works and you treat us the way we NEED to be treated.

I agree with you wholeheartedly and I'm lucky enough to have found a woman who's exceptionally happy with what I have. Not that it's tiny anyway .

I guess I haven't seen as many of these threads as some of you ladies have, but I guess I trying to put into words how some men can feel and the most appropriate way was to draw comparisons with how women are ideally supposed to look. Basically, something as unimportant as cock size can make them feel like less of a man, insignificant etc. Half of the sissy memes basically say this.

Personally, I prefer women to look like women, whether bigger, smaller whatever. It's the confidence and how they carry themselves that I look for.

 

[SandraMustard]

The only point I'm trying to make is that there is a double standard when it comes to the acceptance of ridiculing the small penis.

I don't think the penis-size-thread-starters have small penises. In this thread, the doesn't-matter responses would have drawn appreciation. No, they're just big dicks, why else rail against anything but size-worship?

 

[southern_gal]

The only point I'm trying to make is that there is a double standard when it comes to the acceptance of ridiculing the small penis.

OK but whose standards? The guys with the really big ones? Maybe they are doing the ridiculing. I'm not so sure that women are dividing men up by penis size. If men do that, I cannot help much there. Buy a shiny red convertible maybe?

 

[Jaime_H]

Does anyone really care how big it is? Surely, like tits, it's what it's attached to that counts......

 

[southern_gal]

I agree with you wholeheartedly and I'm lucky enough to have found a woman who's exceptionally happy with what I have. Not that it's tiny anyway .

I guess I haven't seen as many of these threads as some of you ladies have, but I guess I trying to put into words how some men can feel and the most appropriate way was to draw comparisons with how women are ideally supposed to look. Basically, something as unimportant as cock size can make them feel like less of a man, insignificant etc. Half of the sissy memes basically say this.

Personally, I prefer women to look like women, whether bigger, smaller whatever. It's the confidence and how they carry themselves that I look for.

In my opinion (and let's be honest here it's the only one that really matters right) the bigger issue isn't size threads. It's the fear that keeps being perpetuated. Men with average or slightly under average read enough threads or see enough media bombardment and sooner or later they may start to think that they are not man enough and then what happens? ED. I'd guess a large percentage of ED issues is as much a lack of confidence as it is health. So I wish that topic would go away for good. If the woman you are with does not appreciate who you are and what you do for her.......IF she ridicules you for not having enough between your legs then it's your own fault for putting up with her. Move on. We outnumber you. Find one of us that simply wants it hard and wants it to cum inside of us and wants to be made to feel needed and attractive. We're out here. All over the place. IF you are settling for someone that makes you feel inferior..........go read Eleanor Roosevelt.

 

[rhod101]

In my opinion (and let's be honest here it's the only one that really matters right) the bigger issue isn't size threads. It's the fear that keeps being perpetuated. Men with average or slightly under average read enough threads or see enough media bombardment and sooner or later they may start to think that they are not man enough and then what happens? ED. I'd guess a large percentage of ED issues is as much a lack of confidence as it is health. So I wish that topic would go away for good. If the woman you are with does not appreciate who you are and what you do for her.......IF she ridicules you for not having enough between your legs then it's your own fault for putting up with her. Move on. We outnumber you. Find one of us that simply wants it hard and wants it to cum inside of us and wants to be made to feel needed and attractive. We're out here. All over the place. IF you are settling for someone that makes you feel inferior..........go read Eleanor Roosevelt.

I admire your stance and agree that the world would be a better place if everyone were just comfortable with what their genetics gave them.

The only difference I have with what you have written is that you almost make it sound easy to go out and find another woman. Yes there may be more of you, but going out an finding someone is a hell of a lot easier for women than for men. I'm amazed that any woman found me attractive enough to sleep with me.