How many women regularly orgasm through intercourse?

[muttley44]

IMO, it's one thing for a woman to take charge of her body and be proactive about pleasuring herself in bed, and it's another for the guy to just lay there and tell her to get herself off because he doesn't want to have to try. But, YMMV.

Absolutely 100% agree. Big difference. The guy sounds like an asshole

 

[griffingirl]

get your groove on

From what i have read it is not considered common to orgasm from intercourse.
Since being married I often do. I think some important factors are good foreplay and pulling the man close and holding while you get your own groove on

 

[OnceFuturePoly]

What about penis size? Have you ladies found it easier to orgasm from intercourse with a larger penis?

Yes, I have.

Yes. Larger & harder = a must. At my age, 47, that can be more difficult to cum by. (Ha!)

I've observed in some women that PIV thrusting can transfer to the clit.

The inner lips are dragged back and forth, and pull on the clit hood and/or the very top of the lips slide against the clit.

To get this effect, a woman needs inner lips that can easily be push/pulled to produce the effect, and they need a penis with a large enough girth to engage the lips to move with the penis.

In some porn, you can see the lips disappear into the vagina on the thrust, and on the out-stroke, come out of the vagina firmly wrapped around the penis, pulled taunt.

Could this be good stimulation for the right match of penis/lips/clit?

 

[OnceFuturePoly]

Then there's the "legs together" thing with the guy's legs outside the gal's.

Squeezing hers legs together pushes the clit against the penis for more stimulation.

It also extends the effective vagina length by including the mons pubis, which may help when a long penis is being driven too deep.

 

[muttley44]

I've observed in some women that PIV thrusting can transfer to the clit.

The inner lips are dragged back and forth, and pull on the clit hood and/or the very top of the lips slide against the clit.

To get this effect, a woman needs inner lips that can easily be push/pulled to produce the effect, and they need a penis with a large enough girth to engage the lips to move with the penis.

In some porn, you can see the lips disappear into the vagina on the thrust, and on the out-stroke, come out of the vagina firmly wrapped around the penis, pulled taunt.

Could this be good stimulation for the right match of penis/lips/clit?

Sort of like this?:

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[curiouskizzy]

Wow that's sexy. I think a lot of arousal comes from the mind. I know that I was attracted to my boyfriend for far longer than I knew - if you know what I mean. We always just talked, watched films, had dinner. The one day without any warning I was sitting on the kitchen counter and he stepped forward and kissed me on the lips - no tongues, just a sensual kiss. I flooded right there, and the surprise and shock made it even more erotic. When we finally made love, it was so intense that we could hardly move for fear of climaxing, the feeling of being on edge, so totally in the moment together, was incredible.

 

[40ishCouple]

Then there's the "legs together" thing with the guy's legs outside the gal's.

Squeezing hers legs together pushes the clit against the penis for more stimulation.

It also extends the effective vagina length by including the mons pubis, which may help when a long penis is being driven too deep.

This is exactly how I come with my husband Bob most of the time....we have it down after 25 years.

 

[FrozenRose]

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[talldad1]

I am usually very orgasmic and very in tune with my body. Usually. Especially lately, I feel like I have a mild orgasm pulsating through my body throughout sex, yet I will have a strong body rocking orgasm from clitoral and gspot stimulation (hmmmmm). But the strongest orgasms I have are from actual sex - penetration, with a slight grind of hips at each stroke to rub my clitoris against the body. So easy to cum that way! I can have multiples with just plain fucking. If I ever need a little help, I'm not afraid of using a very wet finger to help myself along.

Very sexy, I love to grind myself against a woman's clit when fucking her to give her maximum stimulation. And I love it when it's enough for the woman to orgasm.

 

[amandablue469]

Quick and easy

When I want to get off really quick and it's all about me, I will ride my husband, then lay flat on his chest and put my legs out straight between his and make him pull his up a little (almost like I'm in the man and he's the woman), and then I will grind away. It makes me cum immediately rubbing my clit on his pubic bone while he's in me. NOTHING turns him on more than when I take charge and take mine. Once I take mine, I'm in for a whirlwind of flipping over and him taking his. Sometimes it's so hot to just get after it like that.

Other than that, I regularly orgasm when he's in me. It's all very nice but still there's just something about his fingers that know what to do and drive me to multi-orgasms. Yum.

 

[FrozenRose]

Very sexy, I love. to grind myself against a woman's clit when fucking her to give her maximum stimulation. And I love it when it's enough for the woman to orgasm.

I find that men love a woman that loves sex and knows what gives her pleasure, and that that makes the experience so much better for him too. Makes him feel so desired to have a woman crave his cock where he doesn't even have to ask. I have never understood women who didn't love the intense closeness of skin on skin contact, but that's how I've been, and hope to always be.

 

[heartoftexasgrl]

I know I'm not the norm, but I can orgasm pretty easily from intercourse. The only exception is if I'm on top. For some reason, it just doesn't work for me. Weird, I know.

 

[BeYourLoisLane]

I actually have never had an orgasm through intercourse. TBH, I have never had one that I didnt envoke on my own. Makes me kinda sad

 

[muttley44]

I actually have never had an orgasm through intercourse. TBH, I have never had one that I didnt envoke on my own. Makes me kinda sad

For starters, 2/3s of women are exactly like you. Hands free vaginal orgasms are only common in porn. The fact that it makes you sad means you think it's a problem that needs to be fixed. Get your head out of that space first and foremost, enjoy sex for the process, not the outcome. I know a few women that prefer not to cum during PIV sex altogether.

Have you tried stroking your clit while he's inside? My ex was just like you until she started doing that. I thought it was common practice. She said she never thought of doing that because she thought it was rude.

 

[Holley]

I was replying to someone else's post and it got me thinking about how lucky I am. My wife cums through regular intercourse virtually every time we have sex. I've always heard that is fairly rare. Do you find that to be true? She doesn't need anything but my cock inside of her; no fingers on clit, no extra stimulation. I know how lucky I am. To me there is nothing like cumming together every time.

I do, not everytime but more often than not, I think it has to do with the foreplay.
But then there are times I just injoy the intercourse

 

[BeYourLoisLane]

For starters, 2/3s of women are exactly like you. Hands free vaginal orgasms are only common in porn. The fact that it makes you sad means you think it's a problem that needs to be fixed. Get your head out of that space first and foremost, enjoy sex for the process, not the outcome. I know a few women that prefer not to cum during PIV sex altogether.

Have you tried stroking your clit while he's inside? My ex was just like you until she started doing that. I thought it was common practice. She said she never thought of doing that because she thought it was rude.[/QUOTE]


I try to enjoy it for the process, but unfortunately, my husband doesnt believe in foreplay...AT ALL. So most of the time I am not ready to have sex when we do, and when I try to tell him that some attention to me is required, his response is that once we start I will be fine. So to me, there is a problem that needs to be fixed, and me verbally explaining doesnt work. He is more concerned with himself and thinks hes just "that good" that I will be fine in the end anyway. Everytime I tell him honestly how I felt, and that I didnt have an orgasm, and he just says well maybe its you. If I try to help myself along, he gets frustrated. So when I say "one that I havent envoked on my own" I mean by myself, alone in the house. I need to be turned on in some way, and hes not interested in doing that, so when hes not home, I watch things or read so I get in the mood, then its very easy to have one.

 

[karyn76]

if i'm rly rly turned on after like 20 mins of hot foreplay and kissing and caressing, then sometimes i can cum from cock ... but usually its tongue and fingers that take me to nevah nevah land

 

[Flybigirlsea]

I do. It's an intimacy thing, feeling what the oher person is feeling. I love it when we're so turned on that he can barely move in me without us both cumming. We lie as still as we can, and I can feel the pulse in his big vein, and my cunt throbs round him. I could spill over into a full orgasm any second and the excitement is just so intense. Then we both feel the waves building and the orgasm is incredible, we can feel every single sensation in the other, and looking into each others eyes is just like souls touching. Of course at that moment we both give in, and he can thrust as hard as he wants and I'm lifting up to fuck him back, and as we get faster and faster, deeper and deeper, the wave keeps on hitting, so the orgasm is absolutely huge. There is just nothing like the feeling of a super-hard cock swelling, glans throbbing, and feeling the rising swell of his sperm inside me. It makes me cum every single time.

Beautifully put...I am not so fortunate to cum every time with just a mans cock inside me however...there have been a few times when the setting was right and the man was concerned about my pleasure as well as his that we have cum together or he has got me off before he cums. Long, slow, intense foreplay with him bringing me to the edge and holding me there without letting me cross over, dominance with assurance and confidence without being pushy or cocky, tenderness with lots of touching and kissing, missionary with lots of eye contact and verbal encouragement...that man can make me cum with him, before him or both.

 

[muttley44]

I try to enjoy it for the process, but unfortunately, my husband doesnt believe in foreplay...AT ALL. So most of the time I am not ready to have sex when we do, and when I try to tell him that some attention to me is required, his response is that once we start I will be fine. So to me, there is a problem that needs to be fixed, and me verbally explaining doesnt work. He is more concerned with himself and thinks hes just "that good" that I will be fine in the end anyway. Everytime I tell him honestly how I felt, and that I didnt have an orgasm, and he just says well maybe its you. If I try to help myself along, he gets frustrated. So when I say "one that I havent envoked on my own" I mean by myself, alone in the house. I need to be turned on in some way, and hes not interested in doing that, so when hes not home, I watch things or read so I get in the mood, then its very easy to have one.

Ok, sorry to say this, but your husband's just a lousy, selfish lay. Not sure a marriage counselor wouldn't be a bad idea at this point. I say that because the problem seems to be one of communication and control. He doesn't hear your requests, or just refuses to understand it, and he thinks he knows best.

Another idea is to sit him down and show him how you masturbate and request he at least go down on you that way. Drive home the point that you need your clit involved In the stimulation in order for you to have an orgasm.

It all boils down to he needs to realize he's being an asshole.

 

[absorb]

Same for me.

When I want to get off really quick and it's all about me, I will ride my husband, then lay flat on his chest and put my legs out straight between his and make him pull his up a little (almost like I'm in the man and he's the woman), and then I will grind away. It makes me cum immediately rubbing my clit on his pubic bone while he's in me. NOTHING turns him on more than when I take charge and take mine. Once I take mine, I'm in for a whirlwind of flipping over and him taking his. Sometimes it's so hot to just get after it like that.

Other than that, I regularly orgasm when he's in me. It's all very nice but still there's just something about his fingers that know what to do and drive me to multi-orgasms. Yum.

Exactly the way it happens for me as well. On top, I go many, many times. Then we switch postions and its his turn, however, I do find I orgaism pretty much either way. Mabie its turning 40, I laugh, because, it seems I have come into a prime second sexual life, since then. I am very happy about that, and so is my husband!

 

[LoveNLaughter]

"nudgefucking her deepspot"

Wait.....was this autocorrect on your IPhone? If not, I gotta know what this is!! I'm intrigued....

Btw- I never come from vaginal intercourse alone. Now I feel like I'm missing out.

 

[WynneWynneLife]

Unlike most woman I have only orgasmed once or twice with one man and that was with my late husband Pat and I used my finger to make myself cum. I have masterbated myself when alone thousands of times but in my case I think that being a survivor of molestation at 6 and a horrible kidnapping and multiple rapes at 15 have had a lasting effect. But don't feel sad for me because I love sex. Tho I hope before I am 60 I will be a bit more orgasmic with a partner and that is one reason I am now a member of LIT> Here's hoping. And all this was probably more than anyone wanted to know. Sorry

 

[SweetErika]

Unlike most woman I have only orgasmed once or twice with one man and that was with my late husband Pat and I used my finger to make myself cum. I have masterbated myself when alone thousands of times but in my case I think that being a survivor of molestation at 6 and a horrible kidnapping and multiple rapes at 15 have had a lasting effect. But don't feel sad for me because I love sex. Tho I hope before I am 60 I will be a bit more orgasmic with a partner and that is one reason I am now a member of LIT> Here's hoping. And all this was probably more than anyone wanted to know. Sorry

There's absolutely no reason to apologize! The diversity of views and opportunities to learn are what most of us love about this place.

This particular thread has turned out to be pretty homogeneous in that there's an unusually high number of women saying they orgasm during intercourse. That's probably because a lot of women who are more typical are hesitant to admit it in the face of so many views from the minority. So, I think it's wonderful that you had the courage to share your honest experience!

Also, as I'm sure you can imagine, a TON of us have been abused and/or assaulted at some point. It takes a lot of fortitude to post our histories for the world to see, but it's so important because we never know who it's going to help and it totally DOES affect our personalities, relationships and sex lives.

In the not-so-distant past, there was a poll thread in a very large, diverse forum here that asked how many people were aware they had a friend or family member who had been raped. I was shocked at how many people said they didn't think any of their loved ones had been raped because we all know the statistics for just the reported rapes are simply staggering. Anyway, we can do so much by sharing our experiences and raising awareness of the horrific reality.

So you go on and share whatever you want/need to here (OK, as long as it doesn't jeopardize your/someone else's safety or violate the site's rules). How To/the HT Cafe is a great place to do that and get support on a variety of issues. And definitely keep being honest and adding your history and views into the mix, even if they seem really different or you worry some people might not want to hear them. Rest assured that there are plenty of people here that seriously appreciate you willingness to share things like your trouble orgasming with a partner and your trauma history.

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[berk1234]

There's absolutely no reason to apologize! The diversity of views and opportunities to learn are what most of us love about this place.

This particular thread has turned out to be pretty homogeneous in that there's an unusually high number of women saying they orgasm during intercourse. That's probably because a lot of women who are more typical are hesitant to admit it in the face of so many views from the minority. So, I think it's wonderful that you had the courage to share your honest experience!

Also, as I'm sure you can imagine, a TON of us have been abused and/or assaulted at some point. It takes a lot of fortitude to post our histories for the world to see, but it's so important because we never know who it's going to help and it totally DOES affect our personalities, relationships and sex lives.

In the not-so-distant past, there was a poll thread in a very large, diverse forum here that asked how many people were aware they had a friend or family member who had been raped. I was shocked at how many people said they didn't think any of their loved ones had been raped because we all know the statistics for just the reported rapes are simply staggering. Anyway, we can do so much by sharing our experiences and raising awareness of the horrific reality.

So you go on and share whatever you want/need to here (OK, as long as it doesn't jeopardize your/someone else's safety or violate the site's rules). How To/the HT Cafe is a great place to do that and get support on a variety of issues. And definitely keep being honest and adding your history and views into the mix, even if they seem really different or you worry some people might not want to hear them. Rest assured that there are plenty of people here that seriously appreciate you willingness to share things like your trouble orgasming with a partner and your trauma history.

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I'll second all that you just said so much more eloquently than I ever could.

 

[berk1234]

My wife and I have a bit of a dark sense of humor...okay pretty dark. We've been together 15 years and don't see any reason why we'd ever split. We joke that she has ruined me for ever having sex with another woman. My wife cums from intercourse virtually every time but doesn't like receiving oral or me using my hands. It has been so long now that if I were to ever be with another woman, I'd be lost as to what to do. That is just reason 1,546 why I'll never cheat/leave my wife.