How many times have you been in love?

[sweetnpetite]

I was thinking about it yesterday on account of one of those facebook quizes (how many times will you fall in love before you get married) and I realized that I've been in love 7 times! I'm 34, I don't know if that's a lot or a little. Some poeple say that you can only be in love once or it's not real, but I don't agree.

I started with my first boyfriend who was my first kiss (at 15) and my first real love. I didn't count the little boy that I was in love w/ when I was 3, nor did I count the boy I had a crush on when I was in 6th grade, but I did count the boy I had a crush on in high school that I was friends with. He was the only one who made the list that I never dated. Yet another friend that I was quite crazy for as a teen didn't get counted either. What made the difference? I can not say for sure. Only you can really say what counts for you.

My 7 people were people that I felt that I would never stop loving, and to a certain extent I never have and probably never will. I did have a couple of maybe's that didn't make the cut, and possibly even a couple that should have. There is one by far that beats them all.

Only two of them probably were in love with me back. Not saying that they didn't like me or even tell me that they loved me, but really in love- I think two. At least two were I felt and feel that it was reciprical. Yeah, I guess I have a thing for unrequited love.

So how many times have you been seriously in love? Use whatever criteria feels honest to you.

 

[Xelebes]

I've had infatuations (crushes) countless times before but nothing that comes to love so far. I'm banking that when I hit 25, I'll have better luck.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Once, in person. Via email? Another five or six!

 

[Safe_Bet]

I didn't even love myself until I met Amy. She taught me how to do that... so twice. Both with her!

 

[voluptuary_manque]

I didn't even love myself until I met Amy. She taught me how to do that... so twice. Both with her!

Awww . . . For that, you guys deserve flars.


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[FallingToFly]

The real thing?

Three times.

Micah, because he was the first.
I was in love with who I thought my ex-husband was.
James. I have a feeling he may very well be the last.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Four before Mr. Omega, and then himself, and two since then.

 

[Emperor_Nero]

So far ... three.

First came in high school and the first time I realized what love was.

Second came in college and opened up the world for me.

Third came much later and took me completely by surprise.

Still have very strong feelings for all of them to this day, even though I've been married to one of those three for the last 23 years.

 

[MagicaPractica]

Tons of crushes but only four guys I have loved.

 

[Tricialen]

Three times...first love...Michael..fifth grade to seventh..then he moved away...second love another Michael...married him..together forever...but it didn't last...and finally another Michael...humm I seem to be following a pattern...wonder what that means?

 

[YoursSINSerely]

Five.

I'm not naming names, places, or countries.

I don't kiss and tell.

 

[TE999]

Three times...first love...Michael..fifth grade to seventh..then he moved away...second love another Michael...married him..together forever...but it didn't last...and finally another Michael...humm I seem to be following a pattern...wonder what that means?

You're gonna row the boat ashore, Alleluia?

 

[Tricialen]

You're gonna row the boat ashore, Alleluia?

At least when I call out 'Michael' I don't get into trouble

 

[TE999]

At least when I call out 'Michael' I don't get into trouble

That's why I'm fuzzy on women's names.

 

[Stella_Omega]

At least when I call out 'Michael' I don't get into trouble

handy that! Just-- steer clear of last names...

That's why I'm fuzzy on women's names.

You could do like Peter O Toole, in "What's New Pussycat;" He called all women "Pussycat," except the ones he didn't like-- they were called "Oh, No."
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[TE999]

You could do like Peter O Toole, in "What's New Pussycat;" He called all women "Pussycat," except the ones he didn't like-- they were called "Oh, No."
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Heh! I remember Tom Jones belting out the theme song amidst a shower of panties...but the movie I've forgotten...I'll get it on NetFlix.

Thanks, Stella.

 

[AngeloMichael]

Twice I tried to convince myself I was when I wasn't, in actuality, 0. Probably why I'm obsessed with writing about characters that are.

 

[vrosej10]

Twice I tried to convince myself I was when I wasn't, in actuality, 0. Probably why I'm obsessed with writing about characters that are.

Three times myself. My high school boyfriend and both my husbands.

 

[sadangel]

Twice. Ten years ago was the first. It didn't last long due to death of the one I loved.

Now. And it's good. *soft smile*

 

[vrosej10]

Twice. Ten years ago was the first. It didn't last long due to death of the one I loved.

Now. And it's good. *soft smile*

Good for you.

 

[herecomestherain]

Four.

 

[penandpaper]

Interesting. Three to five seems to be the average.

I would say I truly cared about my past girlfriends (and may have used the word love at the time), but now being with my wife, I don't think what i had back then was love. It was caring, romantic, lusty, engaging, and committed. But, it wasn't love.

I think my father said it best when he saw me go through yet another breakup in my late twenties. He simply said, "You know how pissed your friends can get you. You know how upset and crazy they can drive you with their actions because they know you inside out and you know them inside and out. Well, a wife is that a hundredfold. Yet, at the end of the day, you have to accept it, turn to them, say I love you, and mean it."

Good advice from a man who never ever states his opinion about anything.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Children taught me about love. My dogs taught me about love. Its all about doing what you can to create the optimal environment for the other to flourish and thrive.

 

[NoJo]

Five. Four of those unrequited. Each love is a bittersweet pain in the ass

 

[Corylea]

I didn't even love myself until I met Amy. She taught me how to do that... so twice. Both with her!

God, you two are so adorable together!

Children taught me about love. My dogs taught me about love. Its all about doing what you can to create the optimal environment for the other to flourish and thrive.

Aww. You're quite likable when you drop the performance art for a bit.

handy that! Just-- steer clear of last names...

You could do like Peter O Toole, in "What's New Pussycat;" He called all women "Pussycat," except the ones he didn't like-- they were called "Oh, No."
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One of my ex-lovers had a bazillion girlfriends -- at once -- and he called all of us "Babe." He never said that it was to keep from calling out the wrong name at the wrong time, but that was my guess.



I'm polyamorous, so I have more opportunities to fall in love than monogamous people do. Or maybe just more permission to.

D in college, then L in college -- which led to my coming out, then a different D in grad school, then my husband, then M, then P, then R, then S -- who turned out to be quasi-fictional. What does that make -- eight? Hmm. Not really enough; I'd better get busy.