How many "technical" mistakes have you made?

Mr Blonde

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Not relationship mistakes...not having a boring scene...etc.

How many technical mistakes have you made where you accidently hurt your partner or exposed them to tangible danger (not theoretical) due to sloppiness?

What was the root cause?

I'd say I've made ten mistakes. Half of them due to not being at top form and half of them trying to be too eager. No one has ended up with permanent scars or trips to emergency room so nothing too terrible.

Still with all the hard lessons I've lessons and the precautions I now take, I would probably injure or endanger my future wife a dozen times over the course of a 20 year marriage. When stated so directly, what do subs think about those risks? What goes through their mind?

:cathappy:

[Edit: "not being in top form" means feeling tired or not really in the mood]
 
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12 in 20 ain't bad. I think any sub-wife would be lucky to have numbers that low honestly.
 
I like the risk, being on the edge, the potential for danger & harm. That said, I'm probably in greater danger crossing the road than I am from a careful & loving partner no matter what we get up to.

Mistakes happen, that's life & if I get hurt living the life I choose well so be it. I'd rather be hurt that way than run over by a careless stranger.
 
Mr Blonde said:
Not relationship mistakes...not having a boring scene...etc.

How many technical mistakes have you made where you accidently hurt your partner or exposed them to tangible danger (not theoretical) due to sloppiness?

What was the root cause?

I don't think He'd mind if I said, so I'll just say one ouchy in the two years we were together.

I can't really speak for Him, but I think He was probably overanxious and a bit too eager. No long lasting harm was done. Just scabbed and sore for a while.
 
The risk is part of the appeal of trying something new. Mistakes happen. You do the best you can to be safe and sane, but still, sometimes you're gonna get hurt. No big deal as long as you aren't doing something tooooo edgy. YMMV
 
Nuts are a problem.

I have whacked M in the nuts with a cane (oops) and zipped his nuts into the zipper of an encasement suit.

I'd say going too quick and not paying spatial attention to those things would be the problem.

I've had M pass out on me. He was vertically supported on a cross and I got him off easily.

I've had one client pass out on me. He was vertically supported on a cross and I got him off easily as well, thank God neither of these were really big dudes.

I'd say in both those cases, you have endorphins, nerves, not eating and trying a new activity out -- all a bit overwhelming. In neither case was I actively doing anything physical to the subject, I was about to or about to change activities.

I don't think anyone playing gets away with never having a moment of panic or worry or whoops. I think it's how you keep your cool in those situations, and the kind of care you give your bottom that matter most.
 
Mr Blonde said:
Still with all the hard lessons I've lessons and the precautions I now take, I would probably injure or endanger my future wife a dozen times over the course of a 20 year marriage. When stated so directly, what do subs think about those risks? What goes through their mind?

:cathappy:

[Edit: "not being in top form" means feeling tired or not really in the mood]


I think that is an acceptable percentage. No one ever wants to injure their pyl, but mistakes do happen for a varity of reasons. RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), anyone? :devil:
 
I refer to them as bloopers. Taken in the right spirit, they are usually laugh material later.

I think most subs know there are risks involved. As with any physical activity. There were 540,000 bicycle accidents resulting in emergency room visits last year in the US.
 
This brings up an interesting issue though. Risk adversity is rarely discussed as a point of compatibility when matching Doms and subs. Maybe it's something that should be paid closer attention to.

While I do believe in SSC, I am not the most risk adverse man, and I do like my sub to have an adventurous spirit as well.
 
intresting

I always heard that a sub will trust their dom to their own death. call it crazy..
but when i play, my dom knows whats in my head. he asks the question til they run themselves into a lake, hiding from being in use; like is to tight, is it okay.. do want to go on.. Im happy he says to those to me, i know im placed high in his realm, even though at times, i may feel im beneath him.

I understand that, he's trying to protect me. In a way, its romantic and sweeet. And if soemthing happens, i hear appologizes for the next two weeks.. and more so.. even flowers..

I guess whats coming out of this mind of mine is.. most subs, go with or where their doms take them. They are a guide to help release our most highly addictive pleasure, and for them to know, they can take us there.. must be an ego builder.. :: tries to push egos out of the room::

Sometimes mistakes can lead into new exploration, or criticing an style.
Look at my dom, he's been through so many submissives. One died on him, she left him.. and never told him.. he wanted to be there.. Some werent compatiable, and here i am.. Dealted with ignorant wanna be's and my dom whose done this for 10 years, plays vanilla on me.. til he thinks im ready.. The biggest lesson i learned, is patience.

Sometimes the adventure of trying new things is a best way to go.. but dont forget that security.. NO where you lead or go.. that is a base for everything.
knowing, one will be okay.

if this doesn't make sense im sorry.. please ignore it.
 
Hmmm, mistakes or bloopers. I really enjoyed reading this thread and hearing about those all so wonderful times when people make mistakes.

There are two incidents that leap to My mind that I have been working with a sub and made a mistake that caused her pain that I had not intended.

The first occasion was when I was using clothes pens and attaching them to a subs tits. I had probably fifteen clothes pens neatly attached to her tits and was working on forming two very nice circles of pens ringing the breasts. As I was placing the next clothes pen something happened as I pinched the back side to open the front. The pen sort of flew apart in my fingers and by some amazing chance (I have no idea how this happened) the spring that was in the middle of the pen ended up clamping itself to her tit. When this happened she immediately screamed out in agony because the little spring ends were quit literally digging into her flesh. I immediately started trying to get it off of her, but damn those springs sure are hard to open when they dont have the wooden parts attached. By the time I finally got it off of her tit it had left a bruised her very badly and had caused a bit of an abbrasion where the spring had been. I felt absolutely horrible and appologized all over Myself. She was actually very kind about it, assuring Me that she didn't think anything of it and that she was sorry that she has screamed so loudly when it had happened. What impressed Me most about the whole thing is that she didn't even shy away from using clothes pens at all. I was prepared to take a break from using them for several weeks, but she wanted Me to use them again the very next time we played.

The second blooper was a little less dramatic but still far more painful that I had meant it to be. I was just starting to explore wax with a sub. We were both brand new to it and neither of us had any idea at all what we were doing as far as the kinds of wax to use and NOT TO USE. So stupid Me, I went out and bought one of those candle in a jar scented candles for our very first waxing experience. Here I thought I was being very creative by picking a nice red candle that had a cinnimon scent thinking she would really enjoy that. Anyway, I am sure you have figured out the rest of the story (tips hat to Paul Harvey). Lit the candle and let it burn nice and brightly as we started our play time. Tied her up and got ready to try waxing for the very first time. Picked up the candle in a jar and tipped it over allowing a good healthy supply of wax to fall on to her waiting belly. The red scented wax melts at a MUCH higher temperature than the kind of wax you should use with wax play. It was at that exact moment that I learned the importance of reading up on things and asking for advise BEFORE you try them!

Anyway, those are My two dang I sure wish I hadn't done that experiences that came to mind when I read this thread.
 
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