How many is too many?

[asianbaby3]

Ok so I was thinking this over. After reading a few survey threads, I've noticed several ask how many girls or guys you've slept with. Off the top of my head, I wasn't really sure. I actually ended up making a list to see how many there really were. It took me a good couple of minutes of racking my brain but I got it down to 13 (which I'm pretty confident is the correct number unless you count blowjobs, which makes it 14... or it may still be 13, if you don't count a nonconsented encounter). But that's besides the point.

Anyways, my question is this. Guys and gals.... I know for some people, the number of people their partner has slept with can be discomforting or a shocker. So just wondering, what number do you consider as being too many?

I personally don't talk about it with my significant other. We both know we've probably slept with more people than we'd like to know. So we agreed not to talk about it and pretend we were each other's firsts..... well he does anyways. lol.

So yea... everyone's input on this would be greatly appreciated.

 

[RuReal]

Frankly I don't care what the number is as this is not a huge concern for me. It just means more experience is all.

 

[kaycee217]

The number isn't as important to me as the person's safe sex practices (or lack of).

 

[promod01]

numbers really aren't important to me either as long as i know theres no chance of me getting any kinda std or anything like that im happy

 

[shampoomohawk]

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[DewMee]

Too many? There's never enough.

 

[Salvor-Hardon]

Too many? There's never enough.

hear hear!

 

[desired_tempest]

If a person asks me how many men and women I've been with I give the true number. I also throw in that most of them were one night stands. I know people that have been with a large amount of women and I didn't think any less of them. Did it make me run to the clinic to get tested? Fuck yes it did. I'm proud to say I have never had an STD. I'd like to keep it that way. Decided to change my life and do better for myself.
But I do have to agree the more sex you have with different people the more you learn and the better you get.

 

[TallMan60]

Too many? There's never enough.

I agree with you, and I love to talk with people about their past expeiences.

 

[roxxana]

x

if you can be shocked don't ask ....

 

[PublicAffection]

I have always been honest and forthcoming about my sexual history, including one night stands and weekend flings. To me, there is nothing wrong with having multiple partners and as said above as long as there are no STD's floating around the situation and everyone has practiced safe sex then that's all that matters.

If someone can't handle knowing that I have a sexual past, then that's their problem. I'm far beyond being able to play virginal innocence.

 

[roxxana]

x

I have always been honest and forthcoming about my sexual history, including one night stands and weekend flings. To me, there is nothing wrong with having multiple partners and as said above as long as there are no STD's floating around the situation and everyone has practiced safe sex then that's all that matters.

If someone can't handle knowing that I have a sexual past, then that's their problem. I'm far beyond being able to play virginal innocence.

for sure - i think you can guess i am expereinced ! much as i try to play sweet !

but i think what i lik eis a giveaway

 

[TheonHypatia]

to find what one needs in life is good for the health of oneself

Sex is a strong drive in everyone. Men have always had the pleasure to find it without too much comment from others. In fact it was and is a right of passage, still. Now, women have demanded the same choice and the rules have changed. Now man and woman sit and watch CD's or the laptop videos or us, here on Literotica. I think that's great. Perhaps now we can find out what the other person would like or need in their life and learn how to give to that special person be it man/woman, woman/woman, man/man, whatever. We sure don't get it from our parents, or school or our MD's. Maybe we can begin to learn from each other and have some hot wild fun at the same time. Does anyone agree with me

 

[kaycee217]

Sex is a strong drive in everyone. Men have always had the pleasure to find it without too much comment from others. In fact it was and is a right of passage, still. Now, women have demanded the same choice and the rules have changed. Now man and woman sit and watch CD's or the laptop videos or us, here on Literotica. I think that's great. Perhaps now we can find out what the other person would like or need in their life and learn how to give to that special person be it man/woman, woman/woman, man/man, whatever. We sure don't get it from our parents, or school or our MD's. Maybe we can begin to learn from each other and have some hot wild fun at the same time. Does anyone agree with me

Is that a fact?

 

[lustatopia]

The consensus here seems to be that so long as your partner doesn't have an STD, number of former lovers is irrelevant. As someone who has been a total slut my whole life I'm not making a moral statement when I say: Of course it matters how many lovers one has had!

If I were to deflower a virgin: She shall remember me forever more. Should I make love to a young woman with no more than one lover between me and her virginity she will bond with me still. But should I fuck little Hello Kitty up there, I better be a pretty spectacular dancer between the sheets, if you get my drift.

That's human nature, it's the way evolution hard-wired us. We bond with those we were first with and those who come much, much, much later, well, love is not unconditional. I am old now, but I still remember my first lovers as if it were yesterday, they populate my fantasies, and I imagine still will even as I lay on my death bed and as my consciousness fades into dreams, it will my first loves who come to guide me off towards the bright light.

Not numbers 25 through 68.

 

[PublicAffection]

The consensus here seems to be that so long as your partner doesn't have an STD, number of former lovers is irrelevant. As someone who has been a total slut my whole life I'm not making a moral statement when I say: Of course it matters how many lovers one has had!

If I were to deflower a virgin: She shall remember me forever more. Should I make love to a young woman with no more than one lover between me and her virginity she will bond with me still. But should I fuck little Hello Kitty up there, I better be a pretty spectacular dancer between the sheets, if you get my drift.

That's human nature, it's the way evolution hard-wired us. We bond with those we were first with and those who come much, much, much later, well, love is not unconditional. I am old now, but I still remember my first lovers as if it were yesterday, they populate my fantasies, and I imagine still will even as I lay on my death bed and as my consciousness fades into dreams, it will my first loves who come to guide me off towards the bright light.

Not numbers 25 through 68.

I am the exact opposite. Lol. The sexual partners I have had that I remember vividly are peppered between lot's of "ol' what's his name"s.

To me, sexual experience is not important as far as forming a relationship with someone. I have had very loving relationships with men who were both less and more experienced than me, and I cannot pinpoint a time when their sexual prowess or inexperience has helped or hurt the bond that was or was not between us.

 

[TheonHypatia]

No answer to that question. What's important about that question lies behind it. It's what you do with the information your mind and body receive from the experience. It's not important to remember the number but what has changed in you. Are you a better lover because you have had 100 women. I doubt it. If you don't use what you have learned from your partners then you will be a bad lover. Sex is all about communication between people. If you don't listen than you will not hear what the other person is saying to you. If that happens then yes you will forget them. Just think of the people we remember outside of the sex thing. Our teachers, the people we have met in business, in sports. How many of them do you remember. What is it that makes you remember ...what they said, what they did...These are the people who will come back to you for the rest of your lives whenever that bit of information is needed by your brain for something it is doing or thinking.

 

[taborgirl]

Let me ask this...I'm 32 and have only had sex with one man and I'm not married. Is that too few? Can you have too few? Does it matter for women? Are women, despite society telling us multiple partners is now okay, expected to have fewer lovers than men? If you're a man would you rather sleep with a woman who's had many lovers? Or would you get an ego boost knowing that someone with very few, or quite possibly none, thinks you're the best she's had?

I'm just curious. Please, don't kill my cat.

 

[lustatopia]

I am the exact opposite. Lol. The sexual partners I have had that I remember vividly are peppered between lot's of "ol' what's his name"s.

To me, sexual experience is not important as far as forming a relationship with someone...

I guess I'm not talking about remembering or good relationships so much as something psychically much deeper...

The hottest sex I ever had was with a woman with more experienced than a Babylonian temple whore and she was my lover number who-the-fuck-knows? I'll remember her, alright. But those I loved the most - or not even loved so much but was formed by - were my earliest lovers. Those who created you, you will love those most. Even if you hate them.

Without getting too technical, there is something called "initial conditions" in the analysis of complex nonlinear systems. Maybe you read about Chaos Theory. The flapping of a butterfly's wings off the coast of Brazil cascade down through physical reality amplified, ultimately being the perturbation that sends a hurricane into the coast of Texas, rather than, say, Florida.

It's this sort of initial conditions of our heart, body and mind that we bring to bed with us and our first lovers. With each passing lover the die is increasing set. Until finally old salts like myself are firmly made in our ways, for better or worse. Of course, we may still know good times and refine our techniques incrementally, but the great pre-classical, formative age of our lives is long past.

 

[asianbaby3]

For me personally.. I rather be with a more experienced guy. I had sex with a virgin once and also a guy who I knew was inexperienced just b/c he was a total nerd. Both guys.. the sex was blah. Though, the nerdy guy did have a really huge cock and if he knew how to use it, I'm sure it would've been amazing.. but yea... unfortunate.

Though experienced, I also don't want to know about their 100 hook-ups with random girls or one night stands. I know I've had a few in my day and there have been a broken condom at one point and pregnancy scares in others. I've been tested and fortunately am in the clear, but I can't say the same for other people.

As far as how my boyfriend feels. He rather not know. He likes to think I'm this innocent little girl prior to meeting him. Which I'm the total opposite, and I know he was the same way too. So we kinda hold a don't ask, don't tell agreement.

 

[giventake65]

Both situations have ego-boosting pros and some silly cons. It would be great to be one of "many" -- my wife had been with 10-plus guys, so when she says she likes what my 7" gives her, I know she speaks from experience. On the other hand, being a woman's first or second would be cool, since there's something on the inside that she must have liked as well.

Let me ask this...I'm 32 and have only had sex with one man and I'm not married. Is that too few? Can you have too few? Does it matter for women? Are women, despite society telling us multiple partners is now okay, expected to have fewer lovers than men? If you're a man would you rather sleep with a woman who's had many lovers? Or would you get an ego boost knowing that someone with very few, or quite possibly none, thinks you're the best she's had?

I'm just curious. Please, don't kill my cat.

 

[RuReal]

It can be fun to train your partner sometimes, but other times it is nice to have someone who know what to do. Like I said I don't care about the numbers eather way.

 

[kaycee217]

Let me ask this...I'm 32 and have only had sex with one man and I'm not married. Is that too few? Can you have too few? Does it matter for women? Are women, despite society telling us multiple partners is now okay, expected to have fewer lovers than men? If you're a man would you rather sleep with a woman who's had many lovers? Or would you get an ego boost knowing that someone with very few, or quite possibly none, thinks you're the best she's had?

I'm just curious. Please, don't kill my cat.

It's not too few; it's about attitude, not experience.

 

[amyforfun]

I have always been honest and forthcoming about my sexual history, including one night stands and weekend flings. To me, there is nothing wrong with having multiple partners and as said above as long as there are no STD's floating around the situation and everyone has practiced safe sex then that's all that matters.

If someone can't handle knowing that I have a sexual past, then that's their problem. I'm far beyond being able to play virginal innocence.

Amen....

 

[lonelyjulia]

I've never been shy about sex. I started masturbating before I was old enough to menstruate, had a 23 year incestuous open relationship with my mom and her girlfriends, and slutted my way though an all female college. Since my mom's passing I have been more sexually adventurous than ever before, including experimenting with men (two orally, three anally, once as the sandwich of an MFM), showing off my body to strangers, becoming anally obsessed, and increasingly devoting myself to my supremely kinky 20 year old Tanya. I have experienced far more pussies than birthdays.