How Long do you Go Down?

[Beginner Guy]

This is a take on another thread on the board right now, but I felt it deserved it's own thread.

How long do you usually go down on your S/O. For my girl it is in the 30 to 45 minute range but has been shorter and has been longer.

If it's been a while and your S/O hasn't gotten off yet....do you quit? that just seems like a horrible thing to do to someone. I don't quit unless I'm told to.

What are your thoughts?

 

[UC_Gav]

well im ashamed to say that ive only been down on one girl.

She said she was getting sore and numb after 20 min and just told me to stop. I told her i wanted to get her off since im that kinda guy. She just replied
"Um...i think you have, ive just gone numb"

Only one word for that.....Ouch.
Guess im just crap.

 

[Hello_Kitten]

well im ashamed to say that ive only been down on one girl.

She said she was getting sore and numb after 20 min and just told me to stop. I told her i wanted to get her off since im that kinda guy. She just replied
"Um...i think you have, ive just gone numb"

Only one word for that.....Ouch.
Guess im just crap.

First off, LOVE your AV. Kevin Smith rules my world.

Second, learning how to please someone orally takes time. The first few times I gave head weren't 'successful' and vice versa. Finally found a guy that was patient enough and didn't make me feel bad about not knowing exactly what what to do. He 'trained' me well. We're no longer together and he still begs for blow jobs. I was the first girl he ever went down on. It took quite some time before he could get me off. We took it slow, practiced, practiced, practiced...taught him just the way I liked it. Eventually he could get me off in roughly 10 minutes. Even if you've had really good experiences with other people, it can take a few times with someone new to find out what they really like.

Also, I've went a little numb before, pretty quickly too. On occasion I take a very long time to come [due to medication.] Sometimes I'll just tell the person I'm with "This feels really good, but it's just not going to happen." It sounds like maybe this girl you were with never even had an orgasm before. There's never a question of 'thinking' you got off.

To the original question - I usually go down for about 20 minutes, depending on if I'm just giving blow job and trying to make him come or if it's just part of the foreplay.

Wow, sorry that was so long.

 

[UC_Gav]

Thanks for the advice Kitten.
And thanks for the Kudo's on the AV. Jay is a dick but Silent Bob Kicks ass lol.

I guess ill just have to learn what im doing.
At least theres one thing. Ive been told my finger work is top notch

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Anywhere from 30 to 45 minutes...

But I try to avoid anything on a continuous basis...meaning I make sure to have a variety of things going on to prevent "numbness" or routine...for example, I might start a few minutes with just breathing hot air on her clit and pussy lips...to tease her before actual touching occurs...then long, firm licks....followed by quick flicks all over...some deep "scooping" in her pussy...and light touches on her clit....all of that might last a total of 10 to 15 minutes....

Then I like to keep variety in the works...so I might stop licking and start fingering for a while...teasing the slit and clit as well as inserting fingers.....G-Spot stimulation and regular thrusting in and out....then I go back to licking again....

When I do, I might try sucking on pussy lips hard....then take my time licking and sucking each pussy lip individually...then go back to the clit for a while.....then alternate back to breathing hot air and fingering...throwing in a pussy and clit spanking before going back to oral again.

To me, that type of variety and foreplay fun can go on a LONG time....and usually causes multiple orgasms....long and sustained ones as well....

You know, writing this has made me hungry to do it right now....

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

since I don't have a SO at the moment my lover does quite nicely and I could go down on him for hrs at a time

 

[Truckgirl]

I don't go down on my bf very often which I would like to change but my problem is he's big enough that I tend to gag, any ideas on how to supress my gag reflex?

 

[deyv]

I'd stay down there forever... I think I enjoy that more than the actual fucking.

Mostly it depends on the girl and what she likes - but generally 30 to 40 minutes sounds about right, and like jeff said, variety is good - breathing, licking, sucking, finger massage, nibbling at the thighs, etc. (heaven)

It's been my experience that if she isn't going to get off then she'll let me know that it ain't happening - either by telling me straight out - or asking me to start fucking her - or saying that she needs a drink of water.

Afterwards, we might talk more about it - maybe she wasn't into the oral, maybe my technique was off, had a girlfriend once who could only get herself off (said she had intimacy issues that way). The jest is, I try to get her to tell me what she likes, how she likes it, etc., etc.,

 

[StevenWill]

Until.....

I am dragged away kicking and screaming. Okay, so I love to go down on women. But first I like to spend a lot of time teasing and arousing, licking inner thighs, etc.

s

 

[ozraven]

This is a take on another thread on the board right now, but I felt it deserved it's own thread.

How long do you usually go down on your S/O. For my girl it is in the 30 to 45 minute range but has been shorter and has been longer.

If it's been a while and your S/O hasn't gotten off yet....do you quit? that just seems like a horrible thing to do to someone. I don't quit unless I'm told to.

What are your thoughts?

30 to 45 minutes........you guys are legends......

Most, about 25 minutes......

Average, about 10 minutes.......

I love doing it, but that's about how long it takes, it's been as a little as 30 seconds too....... depends on what leads up to it etc etc.....

Typically I will also use my fingers in her puss or butt, and more often a vibe as well, in both places......

I am fairly sure my jaw would cramp up after 30........

Akasha usually takes about the same amount of time to get me exploding.....again, can be shorter or longer depending on what has taken place beforehand.....

don't give up on it mate, it's incredible watching her move, seeing belly muscles tighten, hearing her breathing change, the sighs, and finally the explosion and her whole body seems to be cumming......believe me, ity's worth it.....

 

[Hairgrip]

i tend to get a sore jaw every 5-10mins, so stop, kiss him, kiss his chest and then return to the fun of play. it can take 5 mins to bring him off, like this morning or 50.... depending on how sore my jaw is and how lonf it has been since we screwed.
when it come to me... he fingers me till i'm on the edge and then takes about 20mins to 'o' me. i otherwise would take about a zillion hours.
Hx

 

[lilpriss]

I love to give bj's... I never time it... as long as it takes I guess... or until I'm so wet that I need to feel him inside me...

The guy I'm with now is an incredible tease and he's only really gone down on me for an extended period of time once (didn't time it)... I don't know why he was holding out on me???

Whatever... recieving oral sex (for me) is nice, but I REALLY love the feel of bodies pressed together... I.E. total contact... and I really don't get that with oral sex, even when 69ing...

Anyway, if you have one eye on the stop watch and one eye on the task at hand... errrr tongue whatever... then you're not paying enough attention.

 

[The Dipsomaniac]

Ozraven,

i just want to comment on that great AV you currently have. Is that Akasha? It sure as hell is hot!

Your a lucky man if that is your SO!!!

Cheers.

Dips.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

'As long as it takes' is pretty vague, isn't it? On teh other hand, I can tell when I've done enough.

 

[Richard49]

I go down as long as we both enjoy it

The cum is part of the journey
not the end of the trip

 

[sheath]

Hmmm...

I LOVE to perform oral, so I will do it for hours. Anything he wants, for as long as he wants. I love it.

I don't cum from receiving oral, for some reason...it's more of a relaxation thing for me. It makes me feel limp and weak, and tingly all over. So...twenty minutes? That's enough.

Makes me want to give some oral! lol

S.

 

[ozraven]

Ozraven,

i just want to comment on that great AV you currently have. Is that Akasha? It sure as hell is hot!

Your a lucky man if that is your SO!!!

Cheers.

Dips.

It is, thanks, I am a very lucky guy.........

All of my av's feature her......

 

[ozraven]

Anyway, if you have one eye on the stop watch and one eye on the task at hand... errrr tongue whatever... then you're not paying enough attention.

True, bad enough trying to focus the bloody camera as well without trying to muanipulate those small buttons on a stopwatch......

 

[lobito]

As long as she's ok with me being down there, I'm there a while. Chances are it was a long time to get there, so I'm gonna enjoy the stay. If she's not pulling my hair out of my head trying to get me to stop, then I'll take it she has no intentions of making me.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

not sure...

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[kcbigkid]

The last lady I went down on was a Squirter and I have never seen anything quite like that in my life. She would cum and cum and cum. Like a geyser.... I just lapped it up and kept her cumming. This lady was into multiple orgasms and was the first time I have ever encountered this in my life. I eat her for over an hour but I could not count the number of times she came. Her bed was like she had wet it. She knew her body and had towels laid out to protect the sheets and bed. I can't wait to see her a second time.

The longer to eat her out the better................

 

[DuckLover]

I go down as long as we both enjoy it

The cum is part of the journey
not the end of the trip

I think Richard49 hit two MAJOR points, which are interrelated--

1) Enjoyment should be the key. When one of you stops enjoying something (anything) stop, and try something else. Otherwise, keep going.

2) Orgasm is a counterproductive goal. The pressure (expectation, obligation) to cum can make it very difficult to do so. See point #1

Personally, I LOVE cunnilingus, I'll keep it up as long as she wants. That said, I'll usually come up after a bit and switch to fingering her. I find it's more intimate to hold her in one arm, look in her eyes, kiss her, and hold her as she climaxes from my fingers.

 

[kcbigkid]

I agree Cunnilingus for me is almost more fun then intercouse.. Nothing tastes better then the sweet nectar of a lady. 69ing is so pleasurable..............

I think Richard49 hit two MAJOR points, which are interrelated--

Personally, I LOVE cunnilingus, I'll keep it up as long as she wants. That said, I'll usually come up after a bit and switch to fingering her. I find it's more intimate to hold her in one arm, look in her eyes, kiss her, and hold her as she climaxes from my fingers.

 

[watergirl]

I'll go down till he cums, or grabs me and fucks me.... Mmmmmmmm.

 

[shescurious]

I probably go down for about 10-15 minutes. It really does depend on the person though. If it seems he is really enjoying it I will stay down longer...