How is the possibility of hooking up with same sex, any different then "hetero"?

[lobito]

How is the possibility of hooking up with same sex, any different then "hetero"?

I'm sure I'll get my share of "You're not gay you are just posting crap" stuff, but seriously...

What if I wanted to "hook up" with a guy? Is it any different than wanting to "hook up" with a gal? other than the obvious?

Enlighten me on the subject of homosexual hook ups.

 

[Queersetti]

Re: How is the possibility of hooking up with same sex, any different then "hetero"?

I'm sure I'll get my share of "You're not gay you are just posting crap" stuff, but seriously...

What if I wanted to "hook up" with a guy? Is it any different than wanting to "hook up" with a gal? other than the obvious?

Enlighten me on the subject of homosexual hook ups.

First of all, Lobito, let me say that personally, I will go to the wall to defend the right of anyone to post here, regardless of their sexuality, as long as they are not deliberately disrespecting the board.

If all a guy wants is a hook-up, I strongly suspect that finding a male-male encounter is much easier than finding one with a woman.

At any gay bar on any weekend night, there is a fairly high percentage of the crowd who are there for no other reason than to have a sexual encounter.

In addition, in most big cities, there are still bath houses or semi-private (meaning they will sell you a one night only membership) that exist for no other reason than for people to meet for sexual purposes.

Gay men probably get together for sex through instant internet meetings than do any other segment of the population. If you look at a site like cruisingforsex.com, you'll find hundreds of messages every day from guys looking for a quick hook up.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Setti is right, I'm str8 myself but midly bi curious and have been chatting with a couple guys on yahoo who have given me their numbers to have my first male/male encounter, with no strings attached, so they say. its alot easier than with women.

 

[MissTaken]

Maybe it is gender related?

I have had a much easier time hooking up with men as opposed to women.

I wonder if it has anything to do with the Law of Supply and Demand.

 

[sirhugs]

Re: Maybe it is gender related?

I have had a much easier time hooking up with men as opposed to women.

I wonder if it has anything to do with the Law of Supply and Demand.

is it a gender role issue? maybe cause you are a subbie, the societal training of men to seduce starts it rolling. Cause I can't imagine you having any trouble with finding playmates, MsT.

 

[Pookie]

Re: Maybe it is gender related?

I have had a much easier time hooking up with men as opposed to women.

I wonder if it has anything to do with the Law of Supply and Demand.

I've never had much of a problem hooking up with guys either. Chicks are a different story. With a few exceptions, my same sex experiences have been with chicks I already knew, and our friendship evolved to include sex.

The internet certainly makes it much easier to hook up though. You can remain anon enough until there is a comfort level.

I think MissT may be on to something though, as far as ease of hooking up being gender-related.

Lobito, your posts are not crap at all. This is as good a place as any to ask questions. It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is, IMO. If it helps you to understand GLBTs better, the question is worth asking, as long as it isn't an attempt to slam us. Your question is far from that.

 

[Queersetti]

Re: Re: Maybe it is gender related?

I've never had much of a problem hooking up with guys either. Chicks are a different story. With a few exceptions, my same sex experiences have been with chicks I already knew, and our friendship evolved to include sex.

The internet certainly makes it much easier to hook up though. You can remain anon enough until there is a comfort level.

I think MissT may be on to something though, as far as ease of hooking up being gender-related.

Lobito, your posts are not crap at all. This is as good a place as any to ask questions. It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is, IMO. If it helps you to understand GLBTs better, the question is worth asking, as long as it isn't an attempt to slam us. Your question is far from that.

I think it's absolutely gender related.

Comfort level is the key. Gay men are still men, and often "Well, he doesn'tlook like a serial killer" can be comfortable enough when Mister Stiffy stands up and starts making demands.

 

[Queersetti]

I should point out again what I touched on earlier, that there is a matter of infrastructure involved as well.

Gay men have established "institutions" of hooking up, such as the semi-private clubs and bath house I mentioned above, to facilitate casual sex. To the best of my knowledge, lesbians have not done so in an substantive way.

 

[Etoile]

Re: How is the possibility of hooking up with same sex, any different then "hetero"?

I'm sure I'll get my share of "You're not gay you are just posting crap" stuff, but seriously...

What if I wanted to "hook up" with a guy? Is it any different than wanting to "hook up" with a gal? other than the obvious?

Enlighten me on the subject of homosexual hook ups.

lobito, this is exactly the type of thread this board is here for. Don't worry about posting here! It's only if you're trolling and abusing that I might step in.

 

[Guest]

where i live...its much harder to hook up with the same sex. I guess thats where the internet comes in rather handy.

 

[SweetCherry]

where i live...its much harder to hook up with the same sex. I guess thats where the internet comes in rather handy.

Same here. Try living in a town of less than 1000 people where everyone knows what you do before you do it. It really bites at times. The net has been a wonderful asset to me, in both discovering who I am, and better understanding my desires.

 

[MissTaken]

Same here. Try living in a town of less than 1000 people where everyone knows what you do before you do it. It really bites at times. The net has been a wonderful asset to me, in both discovering who I am, and better understanding my desires.

I can ditto that remark.

 

[Pookie]

Living in a larger city and going to a university does help for me. But the internet has been great in chatting and getting to know many more people like me.

 

[glamorilla]

If you want to score you're going to have to work it.

 

[lobito]

If you want to score you're going to have to work it.

haha, ok, like basketball? because I suck at basketball, and not sucking in a good way.

I actually don't have a chance, haven't decided anything and may not even consider doing it. But one can't always be TOO prepared, can one?

 

[glamorilla]

*lol*

 

[Queersetti]

Well, purely out of dedication to our new forum, I thought I should test this theory about the ease of same-sex hookups.


Yeah, it's not that hard.

Nobody yell this morning, I have a bit of a hangover.

 

[killallhippies]

WHAT????

 

[buggawugga]

ahahahha ^^^^ as cruel and heartless as that was, it's funny : )

But back to the topic of the thread...

I think that women like to be treated the way women like to be treated (deep, i know) regardless of who they're getting the attention from. So picking up a member of the opposite sex is different from homo experiences because you have to reverse your method of picking up...

the other real difference is the lack of opportunity. There are fifty million more straight people than there are gay people (yes, those are ACTUAL numbers, haha). Also, unless you are specifically in a gay bar, you can't always tell who's gay and who's not. And considering I've never picked up ANYONE, gay or not, in a bar, this also slims the pickings...

 

[James Blandings]

For men, in my experience, it's much easier to hook up with another man than with a woman.