How important are tears during spanking?
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Sir_Winston54
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Some very interesting takes on crying here, especially from the pyl side of things.
I can only recall ever having caused crying from the sheer physical pain of what I was doing a few times - and if I'm not mistaken, only through use of the cane. (Perhaps once or twice with a quirt? The heavy leather tips of my quirt can produce anything from a thin pinkish-reddish line to torn-out chunks of skin, though I don't go quite that far with it.) In those sessions, the pyl involved was invariably maso, and fully expected - and enjoyed (?!?) - what she got, as well as the resulting crying. I recall one who told me point blank that being spanked/flogged/caned/whatever to the point of crying was a "marvelous release" for her from the tensions of the rest of her life. (She was 'nilla 29 days a month, but at play parties, she was 100%+ maso.)
OTOH, I have caused crying in punishment sessions, a number of times - but from speaking to the pyl's involved in those sessions, the crying was (according to them) from humiliation at being punished and/or because they knew they had earned punishment instead of doing what they knew they ought to do.
While I don't personally particularly get off on tears, either in play or in punishment, they are - to me - an indicator that I'm probably getting close to the pyl's limits, and a hint to pay close attention to her body language and/or oral speech, as well as an indicator that I'm being effective.
I can only recall ever having caused crying from the sheer physical pain of what I was doing a few times - and if I'm not mistaken, only through use of the cane. (Perhaps once or twice with a quirt? The heavy leather tips of my quirt can produce anything from a thin pinkish-reddish line to torn-out chunks of skin, though I don't go quite that far with it.) In those sessions, the pyl involved was invariably maso, and fully expected - and enjoyed (?!?) - what she got, as well as the resulting crying. I recall one who told me point blank that being spanked/flogged/caned/whatever to the point of crying was a "marvelous release" for her from the tensions of the rest of her life. (She was 'nilla 29 days a month, but at play parties, she was 100%+ maso.)
OTOH, I have caused crying in punishment sessions, a number of times - but from speaking to the pyl's involved in those sessions, the crying was (according to them) from humiliation at being punished and/or because they knew they had earned punishment instead of doing what they knew they ought to do.
While I don't personally particularly get off on tears, either in play or in punishment, they are - to me - an indicator that I'm probably getting close to the pyl's limits, and a hint to pay close attention to her body language and/or oral speech, as well as an indicator that I'm being effective.
Evil_Geoff
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Tears are a turn on for me, no doubt about that.
But I don't always play for tears, it often depends on who I am playing with and what they negotiated for. Som bottoms want me to get them to cry, some want to hit subspace, some just want whatever happens to happen...
It's all good, but getting tears, especially from someone who wants to cry but has a hard time finding that release, is special. YUM!
I'll work with you to find the trigger, and stay with you until they stop, or put you out on the curb still blubbering if that's what you want. Aftercare can be negotiated too!
But I don't always play for tears, it often depends on who I am playing with and what they negotiated for. Som bottoms want me to get them to cry, some want to hit subspace, some just want whatever happens to happen...
It's all good, but getting tears, especially from someone who wants to cry but has a hard time finding that release, is special. YUM!
I'll work with you to find the trigger, and stay with you until they stop, or put you out on the curb still blubbering if that's what you want. Aftercare can be negotiated too!
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gingermango said:
I hope you have a great time when you do get together.
Andante will be here in a couple of weeks and there is NO doubt in my mind I will end up crying during his visit.
(I don't think there is any doubt in his mind either
)
