How Far Would You Go?

[Justfantasies]

You are on a business trip and you meet someone you are attracted to. How far would you go/have you gone before you considered yourself cheating on your spouse of significant other?

A. Anything more than lunch is cheating
B. Dinner and some flirting is OK
C. A little messing around is fine, it’s just fun
D. Oral sex, but no actual fucking
E. Fucking, as long as you tell your partner afterwards
F. There’s no such thing as cheating

 

[Justfantasies]

Bump . . .

 

[vibes]

I wouldn't like my spouse to go beyond letter A ...

 

[MollyDolly]

I'm not married, but I think if you feel weird telling your spouse about it, you did something wrong *nods* So, if the dinner flirtation is hands off and playful, and you're willing to be open about it, I'm not all that uncertain it's wrong. But that would be within the context of a respectful and honest marriage- and how many of those are there?

Again, I'm not married, so I'm spitballing here

 

[hamishmacbeth]

i did not have sexual relations with that woman
seriously though i would have to say b` anything more is cheating

 

[Justfantasies]

i did not have sexual relations with that woman
seriously though i would have to say b` anything more is cheating

I guess I have to agree. But what if our spouse teases us about the "date." Is she/he giving us permission to go further?

 

[koalabear]

this is the time of the ME,ME, ME Generation....so anything goes and you make up a lame excuse about home life....so F.

 

[IAboy]

It really depends upon the marriage. I will go with C. When in Doubt, Choose C.

 

[Justfantasies]

I'm not married, but I think if you feel weird telling your spouse about it, you did something wrong *nods* So, if the dinner flirtation is hands off and playful, and you're willing to be open about it, I'm not all that uncertain it's wrong. But that would be within the context of a respectful and honest marriage- and how many of those are there?

Again, I'm not married, so I'm spitballing here

If you had an "honest" marriage would that make you go further or restrain you?

 

[southerntierguy]

You are on a business trip and you meet someone you are attracted to. How far would you go/have you gone before you considered yourself cheating on your spouse of significant other?

A. Anything more than lunch is cheating
B. Dinner and some flirting is OK
C. A little messing around is fine, it’s just fun
D. Oral sex, but no actual fucking
E. Fucking, as long as you tell your partner afterwards
F. There’s no such thing as cheating

Well, I see nothing wrong as far as lunch or dinner is concerned, although if I had a significant other, or a spouse I was not divorcing after 2+ years apart ... that is, if I loved my partner, I wouldn't really have much desire to flirt. Truth is, I wouldn't be looking around at other women, and I know this because I didn't when I was in that situation.

But in theory? Nothing wrong with eating a meal and having company at the same time. The flirting would be OK, I think (depending on how one defines flirting ... nothing really suggestive) but it wouldn't be me.

Anything more than B would definitely be out.

 

[Justfantasies]

It seems that we are all very conservative here!?

 

[koalabear]

It seems that we are all very conservative here!?

that's because you can't read all the PM's flying back and forth, or the I"m's....plus the players can't admit too much.......

 

[southerntierguy]

that's because you can't read all the PM's flying back and forth, or the I"m's....plus the players can't admit too much.......

I wonder how many players really have spouses or significant others? I suppose they do, but you're right, they aren't going to respond here (in all likelihood).

 

[Cratchit]

It seems that we are all very conservative here!?

It's not being conservative, it's people who actually care and love their spouse. But the bottom line is, that people who want to cheat will justify however they have to. I know i am guilty of that and it cost me so much. But if one really is in tune with their spouse, they wont put themselves in a situation that could cause trouble.
There is obviously a difference between having dinner and conversing, and having dinner in flirting

 

[koalabear]

I wonder how many players really have spouses or significant others? I suppose they do, but you're right, they aren't going to respond here (in all likelihood).

way too many, male and female.

 

[restless_bob]

I'll have to go with A. I have an active fantasy life, though!

 

[princesssexci]

You are on a business trip and you meet someone you are attracted to. How far would you go/have you gone before you considered yourself cheating on your spouse of significant other?

A. Anything more than lunch is cheating
B. Dinner and some flirting is OK
C. A little messing around is fine, it’s just fun
D. Oral sex, but no actual fucking
E. Fucking, as long as you tell your partner afterwards
F. There’s no such thing as cheating

Hm, I would have to say either C or D

 

[hamishmacbeth]

i would only be cheating if i swapped hands i`m single

 

[Justfantasies]

Bump ...

 

[MollyDolly]

If you had an "honest" marriage would that make you go further or restrain you?

The marriage wouldn't be what restrained me- respect and love for my partner would. If I'm with someone, I'm with them because that's who I want to be with. I have no interest in messing around with someone and potentially fucking up a hypothetically great relationship.

If I want to be with someone else, then I'll end things and go be with someone else.

And who's getting married? KB can have it!

 

[Justfantasies]

Bump ....

 

[dad001]

Hmmmmmm

It is always easier to beg for forgiveness, then it is to ask for permission.

If you have to ask yourself or your spouse.....

How far would you be accepting of your spouse going....

B Call me what you will, But I would call and tell her I was going to dinner with the person of interest.

Dad

 

[dorkman]

Oh i am just a pervert I would pick A But I would hope my wife would pick E, then I would have Sex with her while she told me about it

 

[VoyeurChic]

Definately A!

 

[banes27]

You are on a business trip and you meet someone you are attracted to. How far would you go/have you gone before you considered yourself cheating on your spouse of significant other?

A. Anything more than lunch is cheating
B. Dinner and some flirting is OK
C. A little messing around is fine, it’s just fun
D. Oral sex, but no actual fucking
E. Fucking, as long as you tell your partner afterwards
F. There’s no such thing as cheating

Cheating, anything past a very small amount of B would ve chaeting I think. However, if the possibility arose that she and my gf were to meet and it looked like my gf were into her to then I might have a quiet word with my gf and see if she'd be open to the idea of a 3some (assuming we hadn't already had one before then).