How far do you go?

[Hairgrip]

I have just been watching a programme here in the Uk on the ITV channel, 'loose women'. One of their discussions was about the limitations of intimacy in relationships. For example can you fart in front of your partner?

I felt quite alienated by the show since they seemed quite negative about performing human functions in front of partners... my parents have always walked around the house in front of us and each other quite happily naked, i have no problems farting (loudly and proudly) in bed with my partner (constantlykinky)...

So i was wondering... at what point do you stop the degree of intimacy in your relationships? How close is too close? What really makes you feel uncomfortable?

(if this has come up before please excuse me... i couldn't find any threads)

H

 

[peachykeen]

my husband knows every bump, lump and pimple. He will help me pluck the little bristly hairs that seem to want to grow out of my chin and has endured all of the fallout of my insane family's legacy through the years. Wouldn't dream of being married to a man that couldn't hack me, all of me, warts and all.

 

[Native Alien]

here, here

i second peachy's opinion on this one.

 

[Hairgrip]

Thank you!

I knew I'd get more grounded, 'normal' views on this from the people here.
You guys seriously rock.
Cheers
H

 

[capricious_chic]

I completely agree with peachy, however.. the level of intimacy depends on the length of the relationship. Most people are fairly reserved in the beginnings of a relationship.. it is a natural procession to become more intimate the longer you know someone and engage in a relationship with them.

Some people are fortunate enough to not have any barriers up from the get go.. others need time and patience before they feel free enough to just "be themselves".

At the beginning of a relationship, most people are still in "impress" mode, and wouldn't think of farting or belching in front of a potential mate. Others, don't blink an eye.

I tend to just be myself, I figure.. why set someone up for disappointment. Do I fart, belch, etc.. of course.. Of course it would depend on the level of comfort as well. Plus the whole version of femininity where society says, a true lady would never do such in front of others. I remember my grandmother would be absolutely appalled if one farted in her presence.. she insisted that it was a bodily function that should remain in the lavatory.. along with any other action up to and including scrathing ones chest or genitals. It always entertained me..

 

[jen72]

The whole point of having a serious, lasting relationships, is that you are together through the good and bad times. A woman's and a man's body changes with age. That is a part of the relationship too
If it is a truly loving relationship, bodily functions such as farting, belching, peeing while he is in the shower is a part of the package.
Are women supposed to sleep with someone for life and never show they are human with faults?
Women give birth, usually in front of there partners. Screaming, sweating heavily, tearing, peeing yourself etc, is far more gruesome farting in bed. The people who make a tv programmes and make issues about whether farting in bed, is a chuckable offence need to grow up.

 

[lovetoread]

Those that fart together,stay together.

If you cannot just be you when you are with a person,then you shouldnt be with that person.

I am me.

If it is a problem,then its your problem, not mine.

 

[Belilica]

Well said, people. That is all.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

happy

Me and my lady are pretty open with each other. We don't have too much of a problem with the fart thing and long as neither of one that's a loud one rip

PowrDragn

 

[marksgirl]

ROTFLMAO! After 16 plus years of marriage there is not much I have not seen or heard! I've run screaming and gasping for breath a few times in our marriage, as soon as the air clears I'm right back!

 

[ronde]

How do you know you're married?

Marksgirl is right on the money, but she has it backwards. I always heard you know you're married when your wife comes into the bathroom and takes a dump while you're shaving.

After years of marital mostly-bliss, I would add that another indication is the between-the-sheets-silent-man-killer-fart. These uniquely female noxious emmisions give no audible warning whatsoever, and the tears streaming down my face always give my wife fits of laughter.

 

[BigEd2000]

I hate the silent, under the sheets, deadly farts - handsdown they are the worst. Even worse then getting a fart blast in the face during a 69 session. That was noisy & somewhat gross, but not stinky.

 

[dreamer]

Well said peachy...I have to agree...now if I can just FIND that person...hehe...err...convince her....err...well get there anyhow.

 

[TAKEMEE]

My last relationship I use to turn the water on in the bathroom so he couldn't hear me. Never ran around naked.
My partner now, I am so at ease with. He walks in the bathroom when I'm 'tinkling' and visa versa. He knows every nook and cranny on me and still loves me How great the freedom feels

 

[Hairgrip]

thanks takeme

the first guy i went with made me feel really uncomfortable about being human and female, he tended to place me (and i found out later) other women on a pedestal, worshiping them until he found them faulter from exactly how he felt they should be in his perfect world.

my partner now is just amazing, he makes me feel 100% safe and at ease. i can discuss anything, without embarressment, even stuff i keep from best girly friends, with him. i can perform human functions with out fearign rejection. though i must confess i don't inflict smelly bathroom visits on him if possible, but that is more of a curtesy thing than anything else... being gassed is not a pleasent pastime.

i guess the key things that people have picked up on here are (1) intmacy (2) humour. relationships, in my limited experience, need both. if you can't laugh with each other reassess the whole thing (unless of course you both like it that way!).

H

thanks for responding people...