How does "Topping/Bottoming" differ from BDSM?

[Rikki_13]

I think you are right in the fact that you have been in control for so long you want that lifted away from you. To have someone else make the decisions for you, and whatever happens is going to be ok. For my jobs, I have to always be in control and have all the paperwork and such in order. I am the one that everyone turns to for what is going on and when for my job and it is pretty much the same outside of my work. I am stuck taking care of everything and everybody it seems. So sexually I dont want to be in control, I want some else to tell me to do this and to so that. I dont want to have to think about any of that, I want someone to use me and bring me pleasure in doing so.

In my current relationship she isnt dominant at all and the stuff I am asking her to do for me is so far out of her comfort zone, but she does it because it is what I need right now. But, to get her to this place I started slow and with things that didnt seem too "out there" and that has helped her to feel more comfortable with this role. I think if you start small and subtle, it will open new doors for the both of you and hopefully bring you back to the place that you where a few yrs ago that you both felt treasured.

 

[Azalea]

I went to bed with nothing put silk panties on......the rest, as they say, is history.
Eureka! I'll draw the curtain, but will just say it's been a long time coming.

We have far to go, but we'll get there.....together.