How does the cervix play into the Big O?

[jenlovesamy]

I must have a short vagina as well since I've fingered my own cervix and rather enjoyed it. I had a man finger me once, flicking my cervix so hard I bled, now I know why. It did feel mighty good though, til he scratched me, and trust me kids, that hurts...

 

[StevenWill]

It's complicated down there!

Intelligent discussions like this one is the reason I send my students to this site. Smart people are always the most erotic ones too!! Some points.

The opening of the cervix is about the diameter of a soda straw. It would be rare indeed for a penis to get inside the cervix. The cervix is the lower part of the uterus; the upper part is the fundus.
The pain some women feel feel when the cervix is hit by a penis is sometimes caused by vibrations transmitted to the ovaries. That would be a deeper type of pain. It may also be that hitting the cervix hard just hurts in the local area of the cervix. The line between pain and pleasure is movable. Just like some people love anal stimulation and some find it uncomfortable. Sexual arousal also has an anesthetic effect sometimes so we can take more fulness and harder penetration than we might otherwise.

It is also true that most of the vaginal sensitivity is in the outer third of the vagina, due to the ring of muscles surrounding that part of the vagina and the rich nerve supply and, of course, the G-spot. That doesn't mean that many women don't enjoy the fulness provided by a large penis or dildo, especially thick ones that give the outer third of the vagina powerful stimulation. There is so much nervous tissue and blood flow to the outer third of the vagina that is actually swells during arousal. That swelling is called the orgasmic platform. So it is not unusual for women to feel even tighter when they are really aroused. The orgasmic platform also contracts at orgasm, actually the muscles ringing the vagina. The uterus also contracts during orgasms, especially ones brought about by penetration. Orgasms from, say, oral sex or masturbation my not have much uterine contraction but the outer third of the vagina will contract. Uterine orgasms tend to be intense in a way that is more likely to leave a woman sated while clitoral orgasms are more likely to be the ones that women have multiples of. Breath holding and powerful expulsions of breath tend to accompany unterine and G-spot orgasms. Women who ejaculate from G-spot stimulation can sometimes also ejaculate from oral sex and manual stimulation. There is a wonderful variety of feelings and experiences available and people do vary. Just your position at orgasm can have an effect. An orgasm in the doggy position can feel different than one you have on your back or while standing. One with a penis inside the vagina can feel different from one with no penis inside. Women who have trouble having orgasms from penetration can masturbate or have their partner touch their clit during intercouse to have the experience of orgasm during penetration. Of course, how you feel about yourself, the situation and your partner has a huge effect on how an orgasm effects you.

So, some people may sometimes like the feeling of a penis hitting the cervix while other people find it distracting or painful. And where the woman is in her mensrual cycle can also have an effect on sensitivity and pliability of the cervix, which normally feels about like the tip of your nose in terms of firmness. Frankly, there is little evidence that orgasms can come directly from cervical stimulation but that doesn't mean that that stimulation can't be a part of the whole package of arousal and orgasms for some women.

Okay, I have obviously had way to much coffee. Sorry to ramble.

Dr. Steve

 

[lovechild27]

I would like to kow what Dr. Steve teaches so I can take his class...lol

 

[dollface007]

Keep the info coming, Steve
BTW, your first point was the best one. There is no greater erogenous zone than the mind...the cervix is a bit farther down the list.
I'm assuming that you teach a class in human sexuality...i took such a class in college. One of the best, most useful classroom experiences i've ever had. I can't say as much for "Advanced Astronomy." lol

 

[emer]

lol

I love it when a guy tries to impress me with the "length" of his cock. The 9 inchers scare me to death! After one abortion, 3 live births, numerous miscarriages, and cervical cancer my cervix is shot to hell. I think friable is the word. Nothing like having someone touch that area to bring all sexual activity to a screeching halt! Lot's of blood and pain and someone (not me) is going to get kicked out of bed!

Kinda sucks for someone who likes some roughness and pain. Just not that kind of pain!

emer ... who prefers her men somewhere between 5 and 7!

 

[SexyChele]

Re: lol

emer ... who prefers her men somewhere between 5 and 7!

And I am hoping these number refer to inches?

(Sorry, just couldn't resist!)

 

[UnseenChagrin]

I've only had about three orgasms in my life that left me dizzy, aching, and completely blown away... and the only times they have occured is when a guy has been able to finger my cervix, with a lot of pressure. The problem is that I tend to bleed a lot. It feels damn good... but blood isn't exactly what a guy wants to see "cumming" out of a girl (unless he's a vampire..). I spoke with my ob/gyn about this and he said it's fine if a dildo or penis does it, but to be careful with fingers because they can do a lot more damage (nails and all that).

 

[lovechild27]

I have no idea if I have ever had a cervical orgasm...My fingers are so short...there is no way I coudl get them that far up...how can you tell that it is your cervix that is being stimulated?


Wow...emer...that sounds rough....def no big cocks for you!


hugs for emers cervix...lol...

 

[ullr]

When I finger my girlfriend, I can usually get deep enough inside that I can touch around the cervix. In fact, when she has an orgasm, it is usually because of the cervical stimulation. I tend not to touch it right in the middle, but insead circle around it, hitting her back walls. The one thing that gives her IMMENSE pleasure is getting as deep as I can with my index finger, and flicking her cervix in a semi-circle, while thrusting my middle finger back and forth, stimulating her G-spot. Mmmmm. But yeah, she's never complained about pain from her cervix.

I agree--this is my experience with a few girlfriends!

Dr. Steve writes: "Uterine orgasms tend to be intense in a way that is more likely to leave a woman sated while clitoral orgasms are more likely to be the ones that women have multiples of."
NOT in my experience! In fact, quite the opposite, save one woman who definitely experienced her status orgasms as the r. reports.

But then I've had a girlfriend who had a hysterectomy, and thus couldn't feel so deeply with her orgasms.

Then I've had a few girlfriends who reported pain in or at their cervix--but most did not remain girlfriends for long (or well in the case of an early long-term girlfried--an older woman). In general, these women were not very randy or ver pro-sex.

There have been several, however, who definitely appreciated cervix play incorporated into my oral and G-spot play. These women tended to be very multi-orgasmic (even if just discovering their sweet capacities with me for the first time), very comfrotable with sex, and often the least conflicted over being a woman or any life-traumas.

If I should follow up G-spot play with fucking, they would also enjoy my dick striking their cervix, often helping to bring on orgasm.

Does anyone know how vaginal fisting and cervix play get along?

--Orson

 

[anders^g]

Last night, I fingered my wife whilst I had inserted a pair
of ben-wah balls (on string) and was stimulating her G-spot.
She was laying stomach down so i could put good thumb
pressure and when she started to cum - I used my index
finger to lightly trace an "O" around her cervix opening
and she possitively went bonkers! For the first time in
our 7 yr marriage - she was cumming for more than 5 minutes!

 

[dollface007]

While i really appreciate your contribution, Ullr, and agree with the idea that a woman who is more comfortable with her body will be more likely to orgasm during sex, I think it's wrong to imply that only women who are more comfortable with their bodies, or are more "into" sex, will appreciate cervix play. I think it's the case for alot of women that their cervix (what's the plural of cervix????) is just way way too sensitive to play with no matter how into it they are or how comfortable they are with their bodies. I know you are just talking from personal experience, but i wanted to clear that up.

Oh, and bravo, Anders!!

D

 

[anders^g]

Oh, and bravo, Anders!!

D

I'm taking a bow

 

[UnseenChagrin]

I'm taking a bow

are you taking applications for test subjects?? I think this needs to be studied more!

 

[anders^g]

are you taking applications for test subjects?? I think this needs to be studied more!

Ummm, let me see... The wife would LOVE that (not!)

/Anders

 

[Quint]

It always astonishes me when I rediscover how little I know about my own anatomy. I always thought the cervix was a little disk, maybe cartilagenous, kind of a peninsula in the vagina that separated it from the uterus. Never thought it was an opening! *smack upside the forehead*

Makes more sense when I think about orgasm and the cervix getting out of the way, though.

I personally hate having mine stimulated--the thought gets me all squeamish and shaky, much like thoughts of catheters and urethral sounds. Somehow, it just has always been on my list of "places that don't want to be invaded." I'm built rather shallowly--probably a mare, but possibly a doe, if you dig the Kama Sutra--and T is all too fond of the positions that can really abuse that area (legs up over his shoulders, for all you cervix fans out there). But it is nice to know that it might actually be the shockwaves hitting my ovaries rather than the cervix itself. Mental relief if not physical. o)

 

[SexyChele]

...least conflicted over being a woman...

Okay, I gotta ask - just what the hell does this mean? Are there any women who are conflicted about who they are?!?! (Excepting those who feel they need sex change operations, of course.)

 

[sheath]

I would like to kow what Dr. Steve teaches so I can take his class...lol

No shit...Where the hell do I sign up for that?

I think I have a crush on the good doctor Steve.

S.

 

[anders^g]

OMG, I got kicked out of bed!

My SO and I was having a good time this morning,
and I was putting some pressure on her G-spot when
all of a sudden my wife pushed me off her with her
legs (like when JLO threw her hubby off from her
in "Enough") and onto the floor. I had accidentaly
hit her cervix with my nail (yeah - It's cut VERY short
but it caught at the "right" angle) BOY did that hurt
(both her and me!)

I can only recommend checking your nails fella's
even if you don't expect to be doing any fingering!


/Anders

 

[dollface007]

Re: OMG, I got kicked out of bed!

I can only recommend checking your nails fella's
even if you don't expect to be doing any fingering!


/Anders

The same goes for the ladies...and for ANY type of fingering

BTW, Anders, I'm so glad you dug up this thread. Does anyone else want to tell use how they incorporate the cervix into their sexlife?

 

[emer]

It always astonishes me when I rediscover how little I know about my own anatomy. I always thought the cervix was a little disk, maybe cartilagenous, kind of a peninsula in the vagina that separated it from the uterus. Never thought it was an opening! *smack upside the forehead*

Makes more sense when I think about orgasm and the cervix getting out of the way, though.

I personally hate having mine stimulated--the thought gets me all squeamish and shaky, much like thoughts of catheters and urethral sounds. Somehow, it just has always been on my list of "places that don't want to be invaded." I'm built rather shallowly--probably a mare, but possibly a doe, if you dig the Kama Sutra--and T is all too fond of the positions that can really abuse that area (legs up over his shoulders, for all you cervix fans out there). But it is nice to know that it might actually be the shockwaves hitting my ovaries rather than the cervix itself. Mental relief if not physical. o)

I have to admit that while I did enjoy having sex with the cute, extremely well-endowed 25 year old, it got boring pretty quick! The first time the shock of pain/pleasure was incredible but the second and third time just plain hurt. He wasn't open to experiementing with other positions that weren't quite so uncomfortable for me.

Current love is considerably smaller (only in penis size ... not mind or soul or compassion or humor or intelligence!) Foreplay starts when he asks how my day went ... and can name the muscle I pulled at work ... finds it and works out the kinks. Sometimes that leads to his bedroom where I gladly put my legs over his shoulders or anywhere he wants them without fear.

BTW ... did you know that the shape of the opening of the cervix changes after childbirth?

emer

 

[DuckLover]

Great thread!!

Wow! So much awesome information! And 95% of it I didn't know and had never thought about. Now I want to go do some investigating and find out what feels best for my gf!

 

[anders^g]

Re: Re: OMG, I got kicked out of bed!

The same goes for the ladies...and for ANY type of fingering

BTW, Anders, I'm so glad you dug up this thread. Does anyone else want to tell use how they incorporate the cervix into their sexlife?

I dig on a frequent basis

Actually, while stimulating the G-spot - I sometimes turn my wrist 180 degrees and use my two fingers (index and the one next to it) and "flip" the cervix gently - then split the fingers apart and en-circle it. Then I flip it before returning to G-spot stimulation.

I've gotten pretty good at finding a nice rythm (she tends to want to push back while in doggy position) so that the "webbing" between my index finger and thumb stimulate her clit area!



/Anders

 

[pixiewitch]

Shocking difference

I've given birth to children so I know what cervix dilation feels like. It HURTS! And it hurts when I've been with a man who is either big enough to hit it in any position or just hits it from a certain angle. I know I've been tempted to horse kick a guy out of bed like Anders SO did.

BUT...........

I had an experience with my SO a few months ago where he was fingering me and I LOVED what he was doing. I had never felt anything like it. His fingers (two) were far up inside me. (And remember people, vagina's change length depending on position. Knees bent and up shorten it.) He was also stroking my clit with his thumb. I moaned and told him it felt so good and to please not stop whatever it was he was doing. Well he didn't and I had a mind blowing orgasm. Afterward he told me he was hitting my cervix! I argued with him and said there was no way that would hurt. He said yes he was on my cervix and I must like it. Well I thought maybe things had changed so we tried some hard pounding sex. Let me tell you whatever he did with his fingers was not the same as what I felt with his penis hitting my cervix! It still hurt.

Just my input. I loved this thread because it just shows how different we all are. You can't judge all women by what one likes or dislikes.

 

[DuckLover]

Actually, while stimulating the G-spot - I sometimes turn my wrist 180 degrees and use my two fingers (index and the one next to it) and "flip" the cervix gently - then split the fingers apart and en-circle it. Then I flip it before returning to G-spot stimulation.

I've gotten pretty good at finding a nice rythm (she tends to want to push back while in doggy position) so that the "webbing" between my index finger and thumb stimulate her clit area!

Hmmm, interesting technique. I'll have to give it a try! Thanks for the tip! (No pun intended.)

 

[pw27]

I'm glad someone started this thread, interesting to see how women are different. I like my dh to penetrate deep but only after foreplay. The doggie position and legs over the shoulders just make me go crazy, I think he may be hitting my cervix sometimes as it can hurt if I'm not ready for rough pounding. I know where my cervix is because during a pap smear it stings when they scrape the cells with a (don't know what they call it) long Q-Tip looking thing. Thank god it's only once a year.