Yep. This'll get some good responses on the BDSM thread, as Risia pointed out. We've got all manner of people there to offer an opinion, from those still searching, still asking questions (all of us, in one way or another) to those who've been doing this in a day-to-day manner for a very long time.
Come on over, Miss Taken.
Bring this question to us there.
It's a good one and deserves a good answer - and from a number of minds/sets of experience, too.