how does a guy know...

[rydia57]

Hi,

I'm just curious, how does a guy know when a girl is enjoying sex, especially when she is giving oral. Someone was talking about enjoying sex with me, and I remembered that I gave a blow job once but it was like doing dishes I didn't want to, but... I did it cos' I promised. Yet, the guy thought I was enjoying myself. Is he blind are there signals I don't know about ... what?

 

[Spirit Guide]

If there are signals, do think this guy even knew how to read them?

 

[dlj403]

Hi,

I'm just curious, how does a guy know when a girl is enjoying sex, especially when she is giving oral. Someone was talking about enjoying sex with me, and I remembered that I gave a blow job once but it was like doing dishes I didn't want to, but... I did it cos' I promised. Yet, the guy thought I was enjoying myself. Is he blind are there signals I don't know about ... what?

It is a tough nut to crack. However I'd expect that most guys can get a good feel to whether their partner is enjoying what they do after they've been together for a while. And I can always tell if a woman I'm with REALLY enjoys giving head; it's a different sensation. She's much more... agressive is the wrong word... but more into giving pleasure than someone who is just "phoning it in" because she feels she needs to.

That's my 2 cents anyway...

dlj

 

[LadyJeanne]

It's the difference between savoring a delicious meal and pushing the food around your plate. A guy should be able to tell if he's paying attention.

 

[fgarvb1]

Thats like hearing, but not seeing a rattlesnake in the wild, up close for the first time.

You know what it is.

Really, if a man gets a great blow job from a woman who enjoys giving them, he will forever know the difference.

 

[rydia57]

Or maybe at the moment, it really didn't matter to him whether Iwas enjoying it or not... just that he was? Hmmmm.... Stuff happens I guess...

 

[TirelessTongue]

Usually, if a woman enjoys giving head........she volunteers to do it alot and she takes her time and lets you get off in her mouth. If she swallows, well that means she enjoys it even more.

As for sex, if a woman enjoys it........she'd initiate it more often. Thats just how I see things.

 

[SweetErika]

When I enjoy something, I'm vocal about it...talking, moaning, gasping, mmmming, etc. TirelessTongue also has a good point about volunteering/initiating the activity often.

 

[Bobmi357]

Hi,

I'm just curious, how does a guy know when a girl is enjoying sex, especially when she is giving oral. Someone was talking about enjoying sex with me, and I remembered that I gave a blow job once but it was like doing dishes I didn't want to, but... I did it cos' I promised. Yet, the guy thought I was enjoying myself. Is he blind are there signals I don't know about ... what?

I find this posting sad. Not that the guy wasn't able to tell you weren't enjoying yourself, but that you weren't.

I don't get much sexual pleasure from going down on my wife, but I get pleasure from the fact that I'm giving her pleasure. Oral sex is even more intimate that regular sex. In effect one person is saying "Place your most dangerous part on my most sensistive part". Man's single greatest weapon after the brain are his teeth. The amount of damage teeth can do is incredible. If you don't believe me, next time you take a bite of a Big Mac, take a look and imagine that damage against an opponent. Its scary.

With oral sex the partner that is giving is in control. They control depth of pentration, they control the speed, they control the pleasure felt by the one recieving. You're doing something that requires your partner to yeild absolute trust to you. And the pleasure you get comes from the knowledge that you're giving your partner a unique form of pleasure.

I love going down on my wife. Not because of anything it does for me, but because of what it does for her. Perhaps its because there is a deep emotional connection there that I can derive pleasure from licking her. And perhaps you'll feel differently when you have a partner with that emotional connection. Personally I think oral sex is one of those ultimate expressions of your emotional attachment. That you'd do anything to make your partner happy, and in making your partner happy, makes you happy.

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I apologize if this came out sorta rambling, but I'm tired and goofy from the pain meds tonight.

 

[SallyIsHere]

More than happy

I get extremely turned on giving head. Oh, I am thrilled that the guy loves it but I really don't do it just for his pleasure. I get a lot pleasure out of it too, sexual pleasure. I ask for it, tell him I love it and how much I love it. I don't know about signals. They can be hard to read. I find if I say, "Please let me put your hard cock in my mouth and suck you 'til you cum," that he gets that signal pretty well.

Sally

 

[Ljbonobo]

How do you know the same for a guy going down on you?

 

[Lasz]

It pretty much the same way as knowing someone who is having a good time doing anything. If a woman appears to be having a good time then the guy will think his partner is having a good time. Also in situations where one is having a good time, it is natural to assume everyone else is having a good time in that situation.

 

[ethereal~minx]

Re: Re: how does a guy know...

your post just made me hot *smiiiiiiles* I love the fact that he's pleasing me and that's his objective ...but what's more important, even than that...is that he wants this feast..that it is HIS ultimate hunger....to feast, to satisify HIS OWN HUNGER ...and in doing so, it pleases her. He is the beast, he is hungry, he KNOWS how to get the most out of his 'meal'... because what ultimately feeds him is his knowledge that he's FED her.. that he's reached his OBLIVION..

is it not his desire to please? his motivation must be his own pleasure...at least that's the way I most enjoy it.

if it's just for me, and he's focused on ...asking me if it's okay, if he's doing it right...he has no business feasting on this Godess (OMG) ...his pleasure must come first.. and when a man is comfortable in himself, his feast is my hunger and his satisfaction is my oblivion....omg, I so want this

i think I'm being tooo wordy tonight!

I find this posting sad. Not that the guy wasn't able to tell you weren't enjoying yourself, but that you weren't.

I don't get much sexual pleasure from going down on my wife, but I get pleasure from the fact that I'm giving her pleasure. Oral sex is even more intimate that regular sex. In effect one person is saying "Place your most dangerous part on my most sensistive part". Man's single greatest weapon after the brain are his teeth. The amount of damage teeth can do is incredible. If you don't believe me, next time you take a bite of a Big Mac, take a look and imagine that damage against an opponent. Its scary.

With oral sex the partner that is giving is in control. They control depth of pentration, they control the speed, they control the pleasure felt by the one recieving. You're doing something that requires your partner to yeild absolute trust to you. And the pleasure you get comes from the knowledge that you're giving your partner a unique form of pleasure.

I love going down on my wife. Not because of anything it does for me, but because of what it does for her. Perhaps its because there is a deep emotional connection there that I can derive pleasure from licking her. And perhaps you'll feel differently when you have a partner with that emotional connection. Personally I think oral sex is one of those ultimate expressions of your emotional attachment. That you'd do anything to make your partner happy, and in making your partner happy, makes you happy.

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I apologize if this came out sorta rambling, but I'm tired and goofy from the pain meds tonight.

 

[Stiffy Says...]

How do we know?

Ultimately ladies, unless you get just insanely wet (which is a huge turn on) it can be hard fo rus to tell. It is a matter of trust that you are not faking and taking the time to get to know the intricacies of your movments and sounds that gives us an idea.

Ohh yeah, just flat out telling us helps too

Stiffy...

 

[freethinkingman]

Maybe

whatever we do do together, walk, drink, sex, if we are sensitive to each other, we should have a pretty good idea how we are feeling?

 

[night077hawk]

When my wife is giving me head and I start rubbing her head/hair she begins to stroke my cock with one hand and rub my balls with the other. It's a pretty good signal that she is getting hot from doing this.

 

[horny_boi]

if she is talking/moaning.. if she is obviously wet.. apart from that it is hard to know for a guy

I love getting head from a girl who likes giving it.. but if she doesnt want to or isen't into it.. its not the same..
he SHOULD have noticed you weren't into it.. but it must have not mattered since HE was feeling good.

*edit* oh yeah the post up kind of made me think again as why its not good getting head from a girl who isen't into it or is mad at you... those teeth... and news stories about MAD wifes/partners who bite off their husbands..*gulp*... haha

 

[rakastuja]

Hi,

I'm just curious, how does a guy know when a girl is enjoying sex, especially when she is giving oral. Someone was talking about enjoying sex with me, and I remembered that I gave a blow job once but it was like doing dishes I didn't want to, but... I did it cos' I promised. Yet, the guy thought I was enjoying myself. Is he blind are there signals I don't know about ... what?

Reading minds is a difficult thing.

You can for example clearly show being enthusiastic but it wont be easy to interpret if you are just to:
- show that you're good giving blow jobs
- love that guy
- horny
- want to get over it quickly
- inexperienced but seen in porn movies that its the way to do it
etc

 

[south_florida_bicur]

are you talking about during intercourse ?

well , if thats the case can't you feel her contractions ?

also, you can feel when you touch her one way she reacts and if you touch her another way how different she reacts...

the obvious signals are: if her legs shake, finds it hard catching her breathe, blacks out, cries, laughs, way she bites her lip, scratches / digs her nails into your back, etc...

 

[nikki3791]

Re: Re: how does a guy know...

I find this posting sad. Not that the guy wasn't able to tell you weren't enjoying yourself, but that you weren't.

I don't get much sexual pleasure from going down on my wife, but I get pleasure from the fact that I'm giving her pleasure. Oral sex is even more intimate that regular sex. In effect one person is saying "Place your most dangerous part on my most sensistive part". Man's single greatest weapon after the brain are his teeth. The amount of damage teeth can do is incredible. If you don't believe me, next time you take a bite of a Big Mac, take a look and imagine that damage against an opponent. Its scary.

With oral sex the partner that is giving is in control. They control depth of pentration, they control the speed, they control the pleasure felt by the one recieving. You're doing something that requires your partner to yeild absolute trust to you. And the pleasure you get comes from the knowledge that you're giving your partner a unique form of pleasure.



I love going down on my wife. Not because of anything it does for me, but because of what it does for her. Perhaps its because there is a deep emotional connection there that I can derive pleasure from licking her. And perhaps you'll feel differently when you have a partner with that emotional connection. Personally I think oral sex is one of those ultimate expressions of your emotional attachment. That you'd do anything to make your partner happy, and in making your partner happy, makes you happy.

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I apologize if this came out sorta rambling, but I'm tired and goofy from the pain meds tonight.

I agree.
I enjoy giving almost as much as receiving. Just on a different level.
Nikki