How do you

[AusTess]

You are a good wife.

But he is knockers if he wouldn't like Tessporn...

I AM a good fucking wife,no shit.*l*

And it aint that he wouldn't like Tessporn.
he'd prolly love it if it wasn't TESSporn.
He doesn't like the fact that i'm a freak rubbed in his face.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[perks]

you're like half of me

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[SimGuy]

At least you have a valid reason...

to not be in the mood...

The final years - yes, years - with my former spouse was like walking through a minefield 24/7. Especially when anything sexual was concerned.

I've had more sex during the three post divorce years than the previous 9 while married. And I'm NOT a hounddog or a player.


At least you WANT to try to get in the mood for time with your man! I envy your hubby for that.

 

[AusTess]

shit, if YOU are a freak, then what am I???

You're like,half of perky.

 

[perks]

hehehhe!


as for youuuu Tess,

I pull up my favorite fantasy and tease myself a bit, then I'm good to go.

However, I'm not on libido smushing drugs.

 

[AusTess]

I've tried all the fantasy thing,the reading,the hot bath,relaxing,trying to get into that mind set.

It just aint workin.

Anyways,i reckon maybe if i stop obsessing over it,it may just fix itself.

 

[lilpriss]

Tess I have a suggestion... quit thnking about yourself and think about him... When I quit focusing on how shitty I feel and try to make someone else feel better it makes me feel good by making him feel good. It's called what comes around goes around...

So you're depressed... AND? You want all around you to be depressed too?

The best thing for depression is to go check out someone who REALLY has it bad... go to a soup kitchen and volunteer. Go to a street corner and feed the homeless... talk to them, look at them... feel THEIR pain. Better than that go to the children's ward in the hosipital where kids have diseases that will kill them...

You'll see that your lack of sex drive for WHATEVER reason is miniscule. All pot ever did for me was make me hungry and sleepy... hmmm... reevaluate your priorities... take control of your life and you'll feel much better, much hornier too...

 

[AusTess]

*Wrinkles nose*


You seem to forget that




IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!

 

[patient1]

*Wrinkles nose*


You seem to forget that




IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!

Well, here it's all about you. I've heard that in the land of Oz it's about an adorable boy that doesn't like his mum to smoke.

 

[AusTess]

Ha.*L*
Yeah.
Well.
Of course,that goes without sayin.


It's all about me.....














after we've finished with it bein all about him.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

get yourself in the mood when the last thing you want to do is have sex?


Lets all slip out of our *24/7 sexgoddess* outfits just for a sec.

Well when I am not the mood for sex , I do tell him.

He is very sweet about it , he does not mind at all ... but sooner or later he comes around and begins to give me a slow back rub ... and some how my mood changes , it also helps that he will begin to plead with me .. and he does it in Spanish and that usually makes me go "O' ... baby.... "....

 

[AusTess]

Re: Re: How do you

Well when I am not the mood for sex , I do tell him.

He is very sweet about it , he does not mind at all ... but sooner or later he comes around and begins to give me a slow back rub ... and some how my mood changes , it also helps that he will begin to plead with me .. and he does it in Spanish and that usually makes me go "O' ... baby.... "....

Can i borrow yours?

Mine dont speak Spanish.

 

[alexandraaah]

Tess I have a suggestion... quit thnking about yourself and think about him... When I quit focusing on how shitty I feel and try to make someone else feel better it makes me feel good by making him feel good. It's called what comes around goes around...

So you're depressed... AND? You want all around you to be depressed too?

The best thing for depression is to go check out someone who REALLY has it bad... go to a soup kitchen and volunteer. Go to a street corner and feed the homeless... talk to them, look at them... feel THEIR pain. Better than that go to the children's ward in the hosipital where kids have diseases that will kill them...

Depression is not a matter of feeling sorry for ones self and a cure is not in seeing other's worse off.

 

[Jedi_Outcast]

Pft.

No shit.
It's been like months since i've REALLY wanted it.
It used to be me climbing the walls if i didn't have it daily.
I was always horny.
And if i wasn't horny,i could turn myself on in a matter of minutes.

Then they put me on these anti depressant thingies which made me feel fabulous but totally took away my sex drive.

So i stopped taking them a month ago.

And i'm still majorly uninterested.
Not even the good looking wog from round the corner raises a spark.

HWTHB is getting grumpy.

depending on the type of drug it may take a very LONG time to leave your system. I was on a mild dose of zoloft, and it took almost 2 weeks for that stuff to clear out whe I stopped. The room just kept on spinning. It would have been fun, But I was driving at the time . I agree with the others that you need to change your medication, not stop taking it. Depression is a Chemical thing, not emotional. With your current pills you are trading your depression for his, not good. talk to your doc and see if he can suggest a different "family" of drugs, or maybe a smaller dose, so instead of fabulous, and uninterested, you feel ok and horny. Though one benefit you have is that you don't have to worry about your medication giving you "droopy dick"

 

[AusTess]

I DID stop taking it.



And i was on Zoloft like,2 years ago.
It sent my sexdrive through the roof.



And thanks Alexandraaah.
You *get* it.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Re: Re: Re: How do you

Can i borrow yours?

Mine dont speak Spanish.

Uh ... you may borrow him as long as you don't break him or anything.... Si ?

 

[AusTess]

Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you

Uh ... you may borrow him as long as you don't break him or anything.... Si ?

I dont wanna break him.
Just bend him a little.

 

[lilpriss]

You're right, Alex, it's not feeling sorry foryourself, it's a chemical imbalance in the brain... I know... was diagnosed with said chemical imbalance myself a few years back.

HOWEVER. No blood test was performed.... went t the doc about chronic headaches (so bad that I was crying and frustrated from the pain)... and what was his response? "Oh you must be depressed! Take these, Paxil and these Xanax, you'll feel much better. " Sure, I did, but they didn't make my headaches go away!

Often times we are misdiagnosed... and tend to believe when an "expert" says we are depressed... repeat the phrase "I'm great" in front of a mirror three times a day for about a month and you'll start to believe you are. And when you believe you are something, your brain perceives it as reality and you become what you believe. If a DOCTOR <gets on knees and bows as in worship> says I'm depressed <gasp> it must be true! C'mon people!

Hey Tess try this, look in the mirror and repeat these words... three times in the morning and three times before bed... "I am a wanton sex goddess who stays horny 24/7"

And about seeing others pain, Alex... indeed it DOES help to ward off depression, ever try it?

If one is truly depressed he/she needs to be in therapy along with the meds, to find out the cause and get better. But this bullshit about Docs just saying, "you're depressed take these pills..." is leading alot of people to misuse. When oftentimes medical staff (i.e. Doctors) get kickbacks from their drug companies...