SassySheDevil
Moody Roller Coaster
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He is very lovable. My whole family loves him. Sometimes those who have a hard time loving themselves are the ones who need it most.
How Do You View Yourself?
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Sageboundtight
Lit and smudging
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My shadows my best friend. Dances with me
JustAnotherFlower
In The Garden
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...with a mirror.
subdudeme13
Literotica Guru
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Now I am thirsty.
Lucy_Lastic
Ex Sugar Baby
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Generally unfavourably.
forgotmyantidepressants
New and Improved
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I'm just OK lol
Sageboundtight
Lit and smudging
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Ok is better than not. Can still be lonely tho
I am awake and lonely but ok. Or I'm just alone and fine. Coffee is enough company
forgotmyantidepressants
New and Improved
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I meant as a human being. I'm just OK as far as humans go lolOk is better than not. Can still be lonely tho
I am awake and lonely but ok. Or I'm just alone and fine. Coffee is enough company
drobert44
Literotica Guru
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Lucky to be able to travel in Europe
Sageboundtight
Lit and smudging
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From our own perspectives. I would say same of myself. Thank you for elaborating.
Wand3rlust
Chaos gremlin
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Some days, I'm invincible, on top of the world and I got this stupid life where I want it.
Some days, I'm the most pathetic bag of shit, who can't do anything right, and who's life is a shit show.
However, I'm always adorable and hilarious.
So. Ya know.
Some days, I'm the most pathetic bag of shit, who can't do anything right, and who's life is a shit show.
However, I'm always adorable and hilarious.
So. Ya know.
Sageboundtight
Lit and smudging
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Today shit show. But tomorrow I fix all I broke today.
Sageboundtight
Lit and smudging
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I will play it's beat on my djembe.
Sweet dreams
EbersMoll
Male guru apparently
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Public:
competent, engineer, leader, taker of passable photographs, thoughtful, decisive, clear, sometimes too terse, focused.
Private:
Husband, father, son, brother, maker of (sometimes serious) mistakes, learner of lessons, very introverted, socially shy and awkward, writer of really bad and occasionally risqué poetry,
Internal:
Passionate, creative, not worthy, an imposter, in need of redemption but coming to terms with who I am one day at a time.
competent, engineer, leader, taker of passable photographs, thoughtful, decisive, clear, sometimes too terse, focused.
Private:
Husband, father, son, brother, maker of (sometimes serious) mistakes, learner of lessons, very introverted, socially shy and awkward, writer of really bad and occasionally risqué poetry,
Internal:
Passionate, creative, not worthy, an imposter, in need of redemption but coming to terms with who I am one day at a time.
Desiree_Radcliffe
Bookish Coquette
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I struggle with this like fuck. So, so, so bad. As I have aged, it's gotten worse. It waxes and wanes with my mental health. If I am feeling better about things, or not moody, I don't mind taking selfies and updating profile pictures, etc. If I am very depressed, I will sometimes even take down my Facebook picture because I don't want to see pictures of myself. I mostly avoid looking in mirrors.
As I've gotten older, my chin sags in a weird way. I think it has to do with losing a lot of weight pretty fast. There is an imperfection in one of my nipples. I don't even want to think about the rest. I find this flesh prison so revolting most days that the thought of anyone seeing it in a way other than online, and with some good angles, makes me want to puke. The body image issues also are one thing that keeps me from actively pursuing sexual intimacy with anyone. I do not want anyone to see me naked, and online, I don't want anyone to see me as more than a brain in a vat.
I had a foray of posting risque pictures here, and it helped a little, because I did get a lot of nice comments, some that were pervy, but I also liked some of the pervy too. It temporarily raised my self-esteem about my looks. I just can't. I just hate, hate, hate looking at myself most days.
So, with my last therapist, we talked through this a bit. She suggested that instead of aiming for body positivity--which is a philosophy I have for everyone else--I should aim for body neutrality. To just thank the body for what it is able to do, for the fact that it gets me places, that my hands can type words, write things, feed myself, etc. I am trying to reach that point. It is hard. Especially when your formative experiences weren't great. Being called a whale as a kid was not a great experience.
I have to believe that we can recover from this. For me, embracing my goth has helped. I've gotten so many compliments on my aesthetic and clothes. So being artful with the flesh prison can also help. I think when I resolve other issues, I'll be able to get back to a place of neutrality again. I hope you can too.
As I've gotten older, my chin sags in a weird way. I think it has to do with losing a lot of weight pretty fast. There is an imperfection in one of my nipples. I don't even want to think about the rest. I find this flesh prison so revolting most days that the thought of anyone seeing it in a way other than online, and with some good angles, makes me want to puke. The body image issues also are one thing that keeps me from actively pursuing sexual intimacy with anyone. I do not want anyone to see me naked, and online, I don't want anyone to see me as more than a brain in a vat.
I had a foray of posting risque pictures here, and it helped a little, because I did get a lot of nice comments, some that were pervy, but I also liked some of the pervy too. It temporarily raised my self-esteem about my looks. I just can't. I just hate, hate, hate looking at myself most days.
So, with my last therapist, we talked through this a bit. She suggested that instead of aiming for body positivity--which is a philosophy I have for everyone else--I should aim for body neutrality. To just thank the body for what it is able to do, for the fact that it gets me places, that my hands can type words, write things, feed myself, etc. I am trying to reach that point. It is hard. Especially when your formative experiences weren't great. Being called a whale as a kid was not a great experience.
I have to believe that we can recover from this. For me, embracing my goth has helped. I've gotten so many compliments on my aesthetic and clothes. So being artful with the flesh prison can also help. I think when I resolve other issues, I'll be able to get back to a place of neutrality again. I hope you can too.
J
j23in03
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Such a thought provoking question. I'm gonna sum it up in two words wasted potential.
I think had I applied myself in all areas more then I would be different today.
I think had I applied myself in all areas more then I would be different today.
JackKingOff
Massage Therapist
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I am not perfect, i have flaws. But who doesnt? Why are mine more severe then the next person. Some things I can not change, i am the way I was created and I will accept that, maybe not love it but I accept it. The flaws I can change though, it is now up to me to change them for the better, am I striving to be eho I want to be? How do I measure on my own scale not someone else. Am I happy with who I am and am becoming, or do I need to shift somethings or some priorities?
Only I can change me, question do I want to,
Only I can change me, question do I want to,
Noone45
Just a friendly guy
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Beautiful
