How do you tell someone?
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done_got_old
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seohdwm46 said:
I think what you tell them depends on why you are leaving and not returning. The age of the children will also dictate how you should handle the announcement.
silverwhisper
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i'm reading a considerable degree of stress in the original post.
i think that the only person who can answer that is you, to be honest.
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i think that the only person who can answer that is you, to be honest.
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I get a sense of inevitability about your post, making me think that you neither have the option of not telling them, nor of staying.
It's always hard to lose someone you love, regardless of the circumstances. By telling them, you give your children and others close to you the opportunity to create memories with you to hold close when you are no longer there.
The age of your children will obviously impact on what, how and how much you tell them. It might be easiest for you to stick to the bare basics initially, and provide them with the opportunity to ask questions. Be prepared for having to deal with your own emotions as well as theirs. They may express anger at the situation or at you, regardless of how unjustified it might be. Kubler-Ross' "5 stages of grief" were originally "5 stages of receiving catastrohic news", so could be useful as you prepare to tell them.
Good luck, stay strong.
It's always hard to lose someone you love, regardless of the circumstances. By telling them, you give your children and others close to you the opportunity to create memories with you to hold close when you are no longer there.
The age of your children will obviously impact on what, how and how much you tell them. It might be easiest for you to stick to the bare basics initially, and provide them with the opportunity to ask questions. Be prepared for having to deal with your own emotions as well as theirs. They may express anger at the situation or at you, regardless of how unjustified it might be. Kubler-Ross' "5 stages of grief" were originally "5 stages of receiving catastrohic news", so could be useful as you prepare to tell them.
Good luck, stay strong.
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I can come up with many reasons you might be leaving, but I can only think of one reason you would not come back. Are we talking about a terminal illness? Can you elaborate? Not trying to pry, just not sure how to answer.
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In case this is sincere & you are terminal, it is fairly common for children
to confirm that they already know. They pick up on more than adults give them credit for, they will not want to accept it, but they usually know when it's going to happen before time. Here's hoping it will all turn out better than you expect.
to confirm that they already know. They pick up on more than adults give them credit for, they will not want to accept it, but they usually know when it's going to happen before time. Here's hoping it will all turn out better than you expect.
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Mrs.P said:
There are situations where it's healthiest for everyone involved.
