How do you stop flirting?

[Dillinger]

I'm of the firm belief that you (in general) have to remain true to yourself no matter what happens in your life. So to hold back your true self from someone is not being true to you and depriving the other person of something potentially wonderful.

Exactly. And isn't that part of what attracted the person to you in the first place? Whether that was as friends or as lovers? It shouldn't be a surprise then that you would continue to flirt and why would they even want you to stop? That's taking jealousy a bit too far, I think... too much unhealthy insecurity there.

 

[Dillinger]

Are you flirting with Dilly in my thread??????

He so wants me.

 

[calypso_21]

I find the opposite to be true. Once I'm in a committed relationship I feel confident and sexy. I feel like I can have any man I would want, especially because I won't have to test that little theory out.

To stop flirting? If it's against your nature I don't see the point. There is a line where you should stop, because your significant other and your relationship deserves respect. That's what makes you a couple, only two, you're exclusive with each other. If you tarnish that with serious sexual advances towards someone else your relationship is shit, i.m.o.

This is my point I don't understand why someone would even state "I'm not flirting anymore!" I heard it yesterday. A friend was upset because her SO had stated that she wanted another man because she was joking around with him. To my friend she was merely joking. To the SO she was flirting and trying to attract this other man. She was by no means making an overture to this man just talking sports. She thought her SO overracted but she cares about him and said she was going to give up flirting. I said I thought that would be very difficult for her and left it at that. Then I got to thinking and voila this thread.

I do think that when you are deeply involved with someone that friendliness is one thing, being polite and returning a compliment or addressing someone who has spoken to you is ok but to out and out flirt with sexual advances shows complete disrespect. This, no matter how much a flirt I am, is not me. I would much rather shower the person I adore with all my flirtations.

 

[Guest]

Are you flirting with Dilly in my thread??????

You have that affect on me

 

[calypso_21]

That was very nicely put.
I find I do all of these at different times and with different people.
It depends on the circumstances. Flirting is part of who I am and I have a tough time stopping it alltogether

I think this is where the "flirting" line is blurred...there are different types of flirting with different people with different meanings behind them all. All depends on the circumstances like you said Good point hun!

 

[calypso_21]

Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

Why would you stop? To become something you haven't been for somebody? Didn't they like the you that flirted? Wouldn't choosing to change your behaviors be sort of artificial - at best an act and at worst possibly being manipulated into an unnatural direction?

All very good questions which I hope someone will answer. I don't think they pertain to me as I am not looking to change myself but merely posed the questions in response to some thoughts I'd had. See my reply to Dillinger. I agree with your last statement. I have never been asked to change myself and am grateful for that.

 

[calypso_21]

I wouldn't have agreed with this until just recently. But now I have a deeper understanding of just what you've expressed.

This sounds wonderful Gatsby!!

 

[calypso_21]

Exactly. And isn't that part of what attracted the person to you in the first place? Whether that was as friends or as lovers? It shouldn't be a surprise then that you would continue to flirt and why would they even want you to stop? That's taking jealousy a bit too far, I think... too much unhealthy insecurity there.

It happens in some relationships. I've been lucky where a good deal of my friends haven't. I think it has a lot to do with communication and the strength of your overall relationship in the first place.

 

[Cheyenne]

Yup, I'm an incurable flirt. I don't know what would become of me if I ever had to stop.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Do you always tell them or show them?

When they ask, yes. ;-)

 

[christophe]

Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

Yup, I'm an incurable flirt. I don't know what would become of me if I ever had to stop.

then by all means please continue to breast...i mean flirt...god did i just do that

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

then by all means please continue to breast...i mean flirt...god did i just do that

hehe... only for chest week, my dear.

 

[christophe]

Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

hehe... only for chest week, my dear.

well if this week is chest week what is next weeks theme?

 

[Guest]

Is it possible to not be a flirt or stop flirting altogether?

After being called an incurable flirt I thought about this and then seeing all the flirt threads here it got me thinking more.

Have you ever tried to stop being flirtatious? Is it even worth thinking about? Do you consciously hold back from your natural habits (if you are a flirt)?

How do you stop?

Curious.

______

Aren't you feeling well, sweetheart?



Here, let me rub your nipples.

 

[Feelin' Naughty]

2. The playful 'giving each other shit' kind of flirting that cK mentioned.

4. The more silly, harmless, mutual flattery kind of "you're so cool" flirting that isn't going anywhere and is just used to pass the time and have fun.

I flirt, but only with those that I know won't take me seriously. With me it's all in fun. I've been happily attached for more than ten years. (I flirt with my husband too..... when I want something )

 

[La Principessa]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

well if this week is chest week what is next weeks theme?

it's the week that Chey and I get to use an epilady on your hairy ass and lower regions....and THEN apply Magic!

 

[christophe]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

it's the week that Chey and I get to use an epilady on your hairy ass and lower regions....and THEN apply Magic!

my arent we a bit cheeky...or would that be puffy this evening

 

[sufisaint]

turn your vision completely inward, flirting is still looking for approval in other's eyes...

 

[La Principessa]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

my arent we a bit cheeky...or would that be puffy this evening

looks like you're the one getting all puffed up.....I'm like that naturally!

 

[christophe]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

looks like you're the one getting all puffed up.....I'm like that naturally!

puffies get me that way ...its a weakness

 

[La Principessa]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

puffies get me that way ...its a weakness

would you quit flirting?!?! this thread is about how you STOP flirting!!!! sheesh

 

[christophe]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

would you quit flirting?!?! this thread is about how you STOP flirting!!!! sheesh

no no i am enjoying eye candy...YOU are flirting!!!

 

[Rooster]

Is it possible to not be a flirt or stop flirting altogether? ...

But see .. I love it when ya flirt

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

it's the week that Chey and I get to use an epilady on your hairy ass and lower regions....and THEN apply Magic!

 

[La Principessa]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: How do you stop flirting?

no no i am enjoying eye candy...YOU are flirting!!!

I, sir, am NOT flirting. You'll know when I'm flirting. And Chey honey, close your mouth and grab that epilady....he gets squirmy around the groin area!!!