How do you stop flirting?

[calypso_21]

only it's once you flirt you can't stop. wait it sounded better in my head.

Isn't that often the case?

 

[calypso_21]

Well, that's completely different.. and I don't know that what we do could be termed *flirting* .. it's more like giving each other shit constantly.

Hmm...good point...are there different "types" of flirting?

 

[J.B.]

Isn't that often the case?

with me? yes.

 

[calypso_21]

with me? yes.

I SO did not mean that!

 

[J.B.]

lol. it's ok.

 

[calypso_21]

lol. it's ok.

If I ask if you're blushing does this mean we're flirting?

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Hmm...good point...are there different "types" of flirting?

Yes, I would say there are different types of flirting.

1. The preconscious 'mating dance' stuff that Desmond Morris always yammers on about on the Learning Channel.

2. The playful 'giving each other shit' kind of flirting that cK mentioned.

3. The more serious power struggle kind of flirting, where it's mainly a game of who's going to give in first and be the one who admits that they want to fuck and would do anything to have you.

4. The more silly, harmless, mutual flattery kind of "you're so cool" flirting that isn't going anywhere and is just used to pass the time and have fun.

[Disclaimer: This is neither a scientific nor a particularly well-written analysis.]

 

[J.B.]

If I ask if you're blushing does this mean we're flirting?

I don't know. try.

 

[estevie]

Is it possible to not be a flirt or stop flirting altogether?

After being called an incurable flirt I thought about this and then seeing all the flirt threads here it got me thinking more.

Have you ever tried to stop being flirtatious? Is it even worth thinking about? Do you consciously hold back from your natural habits (if you are a flirt)?

How do you stop?

Curious.

Ya know, it wasn't a conscious decision to stop flirting. It just sorta happened. I feel very unflirtatious. So unlike me...I hope it passes soon.

 

[celiaKitten]

Yes, I would say there are different types of flirting.

1. The preconscious 'mating dance' stuff that Desmond Morris always yammers on about on the Learning Channel.

2. The playful 'giving each other shit' kind of flirting that cK mentioned.

3. The more serious power struggle kind of flirting, where it's mainly a game of who's going to give in first and be the one who admits that they want to fuck and would do anything to have you.

4. The more silly, harmless, mutual flattery kind of "you're so cool" flirting that isn't going anywhere and is just used to pass the time and have fun.

[Disclaimer: This is neither a scientific nor a particularly well-written analysis.]

*grrrrrrrr* God, you make me hot when you do that.

 

[J.B.]

 

[calypso_21]

Yes, I would say there are different types of flirting.

1. The preconscious 'mating dance' stuff that Desmond Morris always yammers on about on the Learning Channel.

2. The playful 'giving each other shit' kind of flirting that cK mentioned.

3. The more serious power struggle kind of flirting, where it's mainly a game of who's going to give in first and be the one who admits that they want to fuck and would do anything to have you.

4. The more silly, harmless, mutual flattery kind of "you're so cool" flirting that isn't going anywhere and is just used to pass the time and have fun.

[Disclaimer: This is neither a scientific nor a particularly well-written analysis.]

So these are the only ones? I'm thinking there are a lot more!

 

[calypso_21]

*grrrrrrrr* God, you make me hot when you do that.

This makes my earlier point!

 

[celiaKitten]

This makes my earlier point!

Heh, ok ok ok .. I admit, I'm a sucker for *professor mode*

 

[Latina]

Get into a serious relationship. You'll find you want to flirt only with each other then. You'll be amazed how other potential flirting recipients seem to disappear from your field of vsion all together!

 

[Pixie]

Yes, I would say there are different types of flirting.

1. The preconscious 'mating dance' stuff that Desmond Morris always yammers on about on the Learning Channel.

2. The playful 'giving each other shit' kind of flirting that cK mentioned.

3. The more serious power struggle kind of flirting, where it's mainly a game of who's going to give in first and be the one who admits that they want to fuck and would do anything to have you.

4. The more silly, harmless, mutual flattery kind of "you're so cool" flirting that isn't going anywhere and is just used to pass the time and have fun.

[Disclaimer: This is neither a scientific nor a particularly well-written analysis.]

That was very nicely put.
I find I do all of these at different times and with different people.
It depends on the circumstances. Flirting is part of who I am and I have a tough time stopping it alltogether

 

[Dillinger]

Why would you want to stop flirting if that's part of who you are and if you enjoy it? There really is nothing wrong with it and why should you have to change yourself to suit someone else's opinion of you?

I am very flirtatious - which, I'm sure, is no surprise to anyone here. And it is part of who I am. I have tried to hold back my natural habits at times because I didn't want to make a certain person uncomfortable, or for various other reasons - and you know, its holding back part of myself. I felt constrained and I didn't like it.

The flirting comes naturally and I hope most people take it in the good-natured way its meant. Those that don't are the ones that have the problem, not me.

 

[calypso_21]

Get into a serious relationship. You'll find you want to flirt only with each other then. You'll be amazed how other potential flirting recipients seem to disappear from your field of vsion all together!

Of this I totally agree...

When I posed the original question I was thinking if it were possible to not want to flirt at all even with that one individual you are in a serious relationship. If anyone ever felt that way. So if you felt no desire to flirt with the one you are with AND no desire to flirt with anyone else.

Mostly this is directed toward people who are constant flirts.

I'm really just curious.

 

[Guest]

Why would you want to stop flirting if that's part of who you are and if you enjoy it? There really is nothing wrong with it and why should you have to change yourself to suit someone else's opinion of you?

I am very flirtatious - which, I'm sure, is no surprise to anyone here. And it is part of who I am. I have tried to hold back my natural habits at times because I didn't want to make a certain person uncomfortable, or for various other reasons - and you know, its holding back part of myself. I felt constrained and I didn't like it.

The flirting comes naturally and I hope most people take it in the good-natured way its meant. Those that don't are the ones that have the problem, not me.

I don't remember writing that!

 

[Wiggles]

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[LukkyKnight]

...After being called an incurable flirt I thought about this and then seeing all the flirt threads here it got me thinking more.

Have you ever tried to stop being flirtatious? Is it even worth thinking about? Do you consciously hold back from your natural habits (if you are a flirt)?

Why would you stop? To become something you haven't been for somebody? Didn't they like the you that flirted? Wouldn't choosing to change your behaviors be sort of artificial - at best an act and at worst possibly being manipulated into an unnatural direction?

 

[calypso_21]

Why would you want to stop flirting if that's part of who you are and if you enjoy it? There really is nothing wrong with it and why should you have to change yourself to suit someone else's opinion of you?

I am very flirtatious - which, I'm sure, is no surprise to anyone here. And it is part of who I am. I have tried to hold back my natural habits at times because I didn't want to make a certain person uncomfortable, or for various other reasons - and you know, its holding back part of myself. I felt constrained and I didn't like it.

The flirting comes naturally and I hope most people take it in the good-natured way its meant. Those that don't are the ones that have the problem, not me.

I'm of the firm belief that you (in general) have to remain true to yourself no matter what happens in your life. So to hold back your true self from someone is not being true to you and depriving the other person of something potentially wonderful.

 

[theGatsby]

Get into a serious relationship. You'll find you want to flirt only with each other then. You'll be amazed how other potential flirting recipients seem to disappear from your field of vsion all together!

I wouldn't have agreed with this until just recently. But now I have a deeper understanding of just what you've expressed.

 

[calypso_21]

Heh, ok ok ok .. I admit, I'm a sucker for *professor mode*

I can appreciate this.

 

[calypso_21]

I don't remember writing that!

Are you flirting with Dilly in my thread??????