how do you know?

[jayded]

just wondering but how do you know (aside from asking) if someone else is bi/straight/gay?? I would LOVE the thrill of the chase, but would NOT like being punched out. Basically what im asking, is how do you decide to come on to someone that you dont know too well???? I mean, theres always things you can work into the conversation, but even so, it's too embarassing to even think of doing so. HELP ME PLEASE! My gaydar isn't working anymore.....

 

[bianglemmf]

Wish I could help you out. Ive been wondering the same thing having some friends that I would like to ask but....I don't want to do the wrong thing

 

[LindaL]

No idea. I always found out after we'd become established friends.

 

[webshooter69]

I think ascertaining sexuality among friends is the hardest (no pun), because of the downside...could destrot the friendship and out you to your group. Proceed with caution, unless you happen to see him/her at an adult establishment or cruisy area.
Bi's need to be especially observant, and then you will notice others behaving likewise. The same as when I was str8, being highly sexual I was always looking for an encounter, and therefore learned to spot others who were doing the same, regardless of their sex or preferences. That lead to some hot store changing room encounters, trail meetings and parking lot trysts with both sexes.
Be observant for others watching also. When you see them test the waters with casual hand movements and touching yourself discretely. The uninterested will inevitably look away and not respond, mostly out of aprehension and insecurity. When someone does react with a smile or a corresponding rub, proceed with caution and show some class and be discrete. They may not want others to know.