How do you handle the earthier aspects of anal intercourse? Or what is your opinion about how it should be handled?

[AG31]

How do those of you who write about anal sex handle its less erotic real world aspects, that is, making sure the bowel is empty? I thought about entitling this post "Poop" but I chickened out.

I ask this because every now and then I recall a particular bit from Memory and Loss, Part II by @ElectricBlue and I find that it gives me pleasure. Here it is.

But if Rosemary wants a different weight in her guts, maybe having had a satisfying big shit the night before to remind her of the pleasurable feel of a long thick hot thing pushing firm through her rim, and all empty in the morning; then she drops her shoulders to the pillow and pushes her globes higher in the air.

It gives me pleasure because it demonstrates honesty on the part of the author and illustrates intimacy between two people and doesn't cringe from our earth bound humanity.

For my part, though, I, like many (most?) others, just ignore it.

How do you handle it?

 

[Ren_eh]

IRL, enemas, in fiction one can just ignore RL.

 

[Thanatos_X13]

I tend to enjoy the "earthier" aspects of anal in my erotica, so there's usually some degree of "filth" in my stories that include anal, especially depending on my mood. it also depends on what I'm writing and if it makes sense in context. My current WIP is a non-con story with heavy elements of humiliation and degradation, so it fits those themes. In a more romantic story, I'd probably skip it.

Definitely not everyone's cup of tea, and it seems the majority of writers just ignore it.

 

[Jackie.Hikaru]

In my most of my erotic worlds, poop doesn't exist.

 

[Wonderer67]

Shit happens

 

[AwkwardlySet]

As Jackie said, I feel that writing about such things, while it does give a dose of reality, it also kills the eroticism. We don't really need to know how empty and clean the bowels are and if the receiver of anal sex thought to wipe themselves thoroughly after their bowel movement. I feel that, except for the scat stories, such details have no place in erotic fantasies. Well, at least in those I would want to read.

 

[karina_jayde]

I usually just gloss over it, usually making a point to say that the characters 'clean up' or 'prepare' before getting to anal sex.

It's not a detail I see value in being specific about

 

[Ren_eh]

Shit happens

Or not in some fictional realms.

 

[Britva415]

I have a story which describes an abdominal massage technique which is not enema but can be as effective. The reason I didn't just ignore this in the story is because the story was about the persuasion involved in introducing a noob to it.

I was taught this as a way to help a painfully constipated ***** get relief. It turns out it can work pretty great for other people and other reasons too. Handy when enema gear just isn't around.

I don't read the Anal category, but it wouldn't surprise me if there were plenty of stories which acknowledge that cleanliness isn't always achieved, or attempted or even desired. That was kind of what I thought this thread was gonna be about.

 

[Ren_eh]

As Jackie said, I feel that writing about such things, while it does give a dose of reality, it also kills the eroticism. We don't really need to know how empty and clean the bowels are and if the receiver of anal sex thought to wipe themselves thoroughly after their bowel movement. I feel that, except for the scat stories, such details have no place in erotic fantasies. Well, at least in those I would want to read.

"Take me, John, " Laura said.

"Sure . . . uh . . . just a minute babe . . .."

"John . . . whaa . . . where did you go?"

"I'm in the kitchen . . . hold on . . . be back in a sec . . . where's the corn starch?"

"What . . . John . . . I'm ready . . . come fuck me!"

"Jus' a minute, Babe . . . Kosher salt . . . curry powder . . . garlic . . . here it is!"

"John . . . I'm losing my buzz . . . where are you?"

"You know I hate commercial lube . . . gimme a minute . . .."

"WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING AND WHERE IS YOUR DICK?"

"In the kitchen, Babe . . . the water is almost boiling."

"WHAT FUCKING WATER?"

"The water I dissolved the corn starch in . . .."

"WHAT STARCH?"

"Corn starch, Honey, to make natural sex-lube."

"WHAT?"

"It will be ready in 20 minutes . . .."

 

[KeithD]

I sometimes include a "clean-out" reference, but this is arousal fiction, not a hospital clinic. I usually ignore the need.

 

[Ren_eh]

I sometimes include a "clean-out" reference, but this is arousal fiction, not a hospital clinic. I usually ignore the need.

Once, I wrote a college sex scene between two . . . well . . . not "A", and probably not "B", students. 90% of the comments were correcting the incorrect things the two said in dialog.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

My characters tend to have a shower beforehand if rimming is likely, but generally rely on a healthy diet and regular bowel movements and decide life is too short for more prep than that. I don't describe in detail, except for one enema fetish story.

The most detail I go into is:
We go shower after - it's one of those rare occasions when I wonder if the anal-retentive types who insist on douching before sex have a point - but really, if you're stopping when things get hot, you're doing it wrong.

I ask Dan if he has an opinion on the matter. As he's currently holding my arse-crack open with two fingers, directing the shower spray over my soaped-up hole, I'm guessing he's not too bothered.

He makes some shrugging sound behind me. "That's what condoms are for, partly, right? Usually there's hardly anything, so why bother? Maybe curry three days in a row was just a bit much?"

 

[Ren_eh]

My characters tend to have a shower beforehand if rimming is likely, but generally rely on a healthy diet and regular bowel movements and decide life is too short for more prep than that. I don't describe in detail, except for one enema fetish story.

The most detail I go into is:
We go shower after - it's one of those rare occasions when I wonder if the anal-retentive types who insist on douching before sex have a point - but really, if you're stopping when things get hot, you're doing it wrong.

I ask Dan if he has an opinion on the matter. As he's currently holding my arse-crack open with two fingers, directing the shower spray over my soaped-up hole, I'm guessing he's not too bothered.

He makes some shrugging sound behind me. "That's what condoms are for, partly, right? Usually there's hardly anything, so why bother? Maybe curry three days in a row was just a bit much?"

IRL, but not necessarily in fiction ('cause tastes vary), an enema can be incredibly erotic foreplay.

 

[Cagivagurl]

In my most of my erotic worlds, poop doesn't exist.

Ah what a wonderful world that would be....
So fresh and aromatic....
Renewing my passport already.

 

[Uponatimeman]

"Take me, John, " Laura said.

"Sure . . . uh . . . just a minute babe . . .."

"John . . . whaa . . . where did you go?"

"I'm in the kitchen . . . hold on . . . be back in a sec . . . where's the corn starch?"

"What . . . John . . . I'm ready . . . come fuck me!"

"Jus' a minute, Babe . . . Kosher salt . . . curry powder . . . garlic . . . here it is!"

"John . . . I'm losing my buzz . . . where are you?"

"You know I hate commercial lube . . . gimme a minute . . .."

"WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING AND WHERE IS YOUR DICK?"

"In the kitchen, Babe . . . the water is almost boiling."

"WHAT FUCKING WATER?"

"The water I dissolved the corn starch in . . .."

"WHAT STARCH?"

"Corn starch, Honey, to make natural sex-lube."

"WHAT?"

"It will be ready in 20 minutes . . .."

Oh, thank you. This is hilarious! Best illustration of the literal mind at work… killing the erotic.

 

[OffNSFW]

I've written a lot of anal sex scenes. Like, a lot a lot. And I hate dishonesty and artifice when it comes to the more embarrassing, vulnerable elements of sex. I'm not interested in recreating the theater of mainstream porno. So I find it best to eroticize those things, rather than leave them out.

Think about it. If you have enough orgasms and smell that distinctive scent of freshly fucked ass immediately after--funky, sweaty, lubey--don't you start to associate the two after a while?

And I even quoted a good piece of advice from Stoya in one of my Dear Straight Men stories. "You're going to poop's house, and you can't really get mad if they're home."

 

[Kumquatqueen]

IRL, but not necessarily in fiction ('cause tastes vary), an enema can be incredibly erotic foreplay.

There's a fair amount of fiction dedicated to the subject! I think I read most of it when working on one story... But in real life, there may be a big cultural difference? Many a story has Alex American told to go buy an enema kit, they pop to Walmart, big choice including enema bags and tubing and all. It's implied everyone had an occasional enema as a child when they got constipated.

UK: the main pharmacy chain does one type of enema for relief of constipation, over the counter so you'd have to answer questions. For just cleaning your arse, the main online sex shop (basically Amazon for sex) has squeezy bulbs and a couple attachments for shower hoses in their "Anal douches & enemas" section - if you want any of the bags and tubes for being filled up, then you're looking at some very specialist online retailers! And childhood constipation, if it happened at all, was treated with prunes.

How much stories relate to real life I don't know, or what is actually available in real Walmarts and US pharmacies! Though I was shocked to find it wasn't another "those stupid Americans" myth, and vaginal douches really are on sale in American pharmacy aisles, enough varieties that someone (other than trans women needing maintenance or those with bad infections) must be buying them and fucking up their personal ecosystems! So are the stories right and many Americans go having enemas regularly?

 

[Jackie.Hikaru]

Though I was shocked to find it wasn't another "those stupid Americans" myth, and vaginal douches really are on sale in American pharmacy aisles,

You can also find this in the makeup department of your closest Walmart. Don't hate us cuz you ain't us

 

[Kumquatqueen]

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You can also find this in the makeup department of your closest Walmart. Don't hate us cuz you ain't us

Now that's frelling genius! Why don't we get shit like that in our 'American aisles'? Along with the *good* maple syrup and candy?

(Technically, I is youse - had the American passport since birth. I could be President! Just I'd need a lot of persuasion to embark on fulfilling that 25-year residency requirement. But I'm open to sufficient bribery to run for 'Kumquat for President 2052'... )

 

[orangecurious]

a couple of times i have mentioned it - the character washing afterwards. Having them do it in the bath/shower is good, two birds...

Usually i will add the character goes off to the bathroom, even if no mess is mentioned... you know, just to be careful and clean.

otherwise, this isn't real life

 

[Sappho_CGN]

This is one reason why I do not like it ...

 

[Ren_eh]

Now that's frelling genius! Why don't we get shit like that in our 'American aisles'? Along with the *good* maple syrup and candy?

(Technically, I is youse - had the American passport since birth. I could be President! Just I'd need a lot of persuasion to embark on fulfilling that 25-year residency requirement. But I'm open to sufficient bribery to run for 'Kumquat for President 2052'... )

" . . . . neither shall any Person be eligible to that Office who shall not have attained to the Age of thirty five Years, and been fourteen Years a Resident . . ." --Article 2 Section 1 Clause 5

But since you can write coherently you may be waaaay overqualified.

 

[Demiurging]

In the same way that I don't write every time a character goes to the bathroom, unless there's a reason to include the poop, I don't include the poop at all, as if everyone is properly washed and empty at any time the act requires it.

That said, I do have an alraune story involving night soil that will not be seeing the light of day. Just had to get the damn thing out of my head.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

Standard disclaimer in my profile:


- Anal sex can be very messy, but like condoms for STDs, dealing with the details of enemas and things like that, just ruin the flow of a good sex scene. So, unless it moves the story, we're going to pretend that everyone is just magically all clean and pretty back there all the time and get on with the fucking, ok?