how do you find a gf whos ok with your bisexuality

[mrbimystery]

As a bisexual man, i love having sex with both men and women. however, i lean more towards women and could only see me settling down with a woman. that doesnt mean that i want to stop my kinky fun. so the question is: how does one go about finding a mate who is fine with my bisexuality? aditionally someone who is as kinky and even open to my crossdressin

would love to hear stories from both men and women on how they found their bf/gf or husband/wife and if they were ok with their bisexuality.

 

[Sex_On_My_Mind]

Tricky one this. I was having a conversation with 4 women the other night about bi-sexual guys and 3 of them said they would never entertain the idea of being with a bi-guy, but the other one is pretty keen on the idea.

On that basis I'd say 1 out of 4 or 5 women like the idea so the odds aren't too bad. By the way the lady who liked it happens to be my wife

 

[NomadLady]

As a bisexual man, i love having sex with both men and women. however, i lean more towards women and could only see me settling down with a woman. that doesnt mean that i want to stop my kinky fun. so the question is: how does one go about finding a mate who is fine with my bisexuality? aditionally someone who is as kinky and even open to my crossdressin

would love to hear stories from both men and women on how they found their bf/gf or husband/wife and if they were ok with their bisexuality.

I would love to have a b/f that was bi...

 

[Experiencedguy]

I know my answer isn't for everyone, but here was my solution.

When I was dating a girl, if I thought it going to go somewhere, I would have a serious talk with them about my outlook on life (after an appropriate time).

True, the majority of girls were turned off, and either never saw me again, or relagated to 'friend'. But, many were accepting.

I married two of them. The first one never knew anything about the details but was aware that I was occasionally into men.

The second one was hot for it, and not only was she accepting and supportive, she also joined in many of them (as did I with her -- she was also bi).

Just be honest and true to yourself. Eventually, you will find someone who will accept you for who and what you are, or, if really lucky, someone of the opposite sex who thinks just like you.

 

[WickedWendyDru]

HOW, you ask?

I don't mean to be rude, but this question strikes me as so incredibly funny... Kind of like, "How do you find a girlfriend who's okay with your jewish heritage?" or "How do you find a girlfriend who's okay with your involvement in the Elks club?" or even "How do you find a girlfriend who's okay with your being Catholic/Wiccan/atheist/Muslim/a cultist from Mars?"

Um... you TALK to them. It's called open and honest communication. I truly do not understand why so many men seem to have such an aversion to just *discussing* this stuff. Really, one of two things is going to happen: it's going to either go in your favor or not. If it goes down in flames, then it's over and it doesn't matter how beautiful she was, how smart, how sweet, how rich, or how hot in bed... she didn't accept you for who you were, so it wasn't ever going to work. If it goes in your favor, then hallelulah! Move ahead two spaces on the dating board and buy her a strap-on.

I met my mate online. We both happened to be in the marilyn manson chat room hitting on underage girls. I knew pretty quickly he wasn't exactly "normal" when I found out he had his own makeup, liked boys in dresses, and had fucked the population of a small city by age 21. Yet 11 years later we're still very happily married. I accepted him then and I still do, because he was *exactly* what I was looking for.

If you're honest with these females you're chatting up, you might just find one who's looking for a guy just like you, too.

Just my Wicked 2 cents.

 

[mac_crazy]

Welll said, Wendy!!

I've known I'm bi for about 15 years... been sucking cock ever since... many of my previous girfriends had no idea about it, I never got the courage up to tell them... but my last two g/f's (one I dated for 2 years, the current one, we've been together 6 months and counting) were VERY into it, bi-guy action happened to be their biggest fantasy!

But it was pure luck that we met, and had that in common... I didn't meet them in any circumstance that involved sex (or bi-sex), it was just coincidence, in the end. With my current girlfriend, she just "got a sense" on our very first date, and straight out asked me if I had ever been with a guy (We had been discussing the fact that she used to date women, so it wasn't *totally* out of the blue...) But once we found out that we were both into bi-guys, it was a revelation, and we've loved it ever since.

That said, I think the easiest way to meet someone with common interests is to look for them in that environment... if you want a chick that likes to read, hang around bookstores... if you like women that like bi-guys, look on websites like this one! I know it's a little more difficult finding someone in your area on a website like this, but it's worth trying!

Otherwise, I agree with Wendy... It took me awhile to learn it.... but honesty is the best policy... The caveat is that if you're "in the closet" with your bi-side, you need to make sure you can trust that a chick won't out you if she's not cool with it... But aside from that, being open about it pretty early in the dating process is a good thing... it's either gonna be a deal-breaker or a great thing. If she's not down with it, then she's not for you, because it's not healthy to have a relationship where you have to hide a huge thing like your desire for cock and/or crossdressing... And even if she's ok with you doing it, just not around her, it's much more fun to share those things with your partner, not have to do it separately! If she IS down with it...then you've got something to build on, hopefully you have other things in common, you're attracted to her, and you can truly be yourself around her.

That's why I'm so happy with my girlfriend now. Among all the other (normal) things that we really like about each other, I really feel like I can be myself, and she accepts me for that (and gets REALLY fucking turned on by it!)...

Good luck!